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To think we shouldn't have to work the day before Christmas Eve?

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blinddoorshyt · 05/12/2024 09:33

I work in a bathroom shop.
We are closed over Christmas and were lead to believe we broke up on the 22nd
Turns out now we don't
On the 23rd we have to travel to Manchester (3 hours each way ) to have a buffet and games with the company owner.
We have to listen to a presentation on how the company's done this year.
If we don't go we will have a day deducted from our salary.
It's the day before Christmas Eve and we have to drive to Manchester to have picky food with the owner and play Christmas games.
Aibu to think it's ridiculous?
And we have been repeatedly told if we don't go we won't get paid and it will halt any progression in the company !

OP posts:
MissScarletInTheBallroom · 06/12/2024 17:45

blinddoorshyt · 05/12/2024 09:51

The shop being open would of been fine
It's travelling to Manchester
Event starts at 9 am and finishes 6 pm
So won't be home till 9pm at night

This is the unreasonable part. They shouldn't be making you travel outside your working hours when there is no actual business need.

Olderbutt · 06/12/2024 17:42

blinddoorshyt · 05/12/2024 09:33

I work in a bathroom shop.
We are closed over Christmas and were lead to believe we broke up on the 22nd
Turns out now we don't
On the 23rd we have to travel to Manchester (3 hours each way ) to have a buffet and games with the company owner.
We have to listen to a presentation on how the company's done this year.
If we don't go we will have a day deducted from our salary.
It's the day before Christmas Eve and we have to drive to Manchester to have picky food with the owner and play Christmas games.
Aibu to think it's ridiculous?
And we have been repeatedly told if we don't go we won't get paid and it will halt any progression in the company !

Not much sympathy. Sorry

Bloom15 · 06/12/2024 15:52

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 05/12/2024 09:49

Off the topic, but interesting to see what people in different areas call the last Friday before Xmas.

Here it's Factory Friday 🤣

Mad Friday here

PoppyRoseBucky · 06/12/2024 15:52

@Poppybob You chose to work in a field that you knew, before going into it, would require Christmas working. You get zero sympathy from me for that, and frankly, I despise reading these types of posts, bleating on as if you're hard done by for doing what you specifically signed up to do.

OP, however, was told at the shop would close on the 20th, and had the expectation that she would have the time off from then until whenever it opened again.

She is now being told that she has to travel 6 hours (right before Xmas so busy) to attend what amounts to forced fun and pay for the privilege as they won't reimburse her.

Are you seriously saying you'd be more than happy to spend however much it costs in fuel-during the most expensive time of year-to attend a work function knowing you won't get a penny of it back?

Crawl back up your managers arsehole-it's getting cold.

ThanksTav · 06/12/2024 15:12

The boss is wrong here. The short notice alone would annoy me. Many people have evening plans for the 23rd already.

OP if you really have to go, can you car-share with anyone at least part of the way?

And do you really want progression in this company anyway…

ThanksTav · 06/12/2024 15:10

I work in the nhs and every Xmas is a lottery as to who gets which days off. It’s not great but it’s what I signed up to. Effectively berating the OP for working in retail instead of a hospital is crazy! Our shifts are irrelevant here.

It is like when women mention a wealthy ex for example only giving them £100 a week using dishonest means to hide their income. And posters jump in to say, ‘oh you should be grateful as I only get £7 a month. It is such a stupid argument.

Twototwo15 · 06/12/2024 13:19

Sounds like a pain in the arse and waste of time. They could have done it on one of the days before.

midgetastic · 06/12/2024 13:13

It's up to the business what they see as essential and expected

It's not Christmas Eve , it's the 23rd

Focus on the cost involved

crockofshite · 06/12/2024 13:10

Christmas eve isn't a bank holiday.

But it's a shitty joke on part of the owner to make staff do this due to travel being so tricky on Christmas eve.

Threelittleduck · 06/12/2024 13:10

blinddoorshyt · 06/12/2024 08:35

@OhYeahOhYeah yeah we have to be there for a 9am start

Well what will they do if you're not there at 9am.
I don't know why you just don't take it unpaid and not go. You don't want to so just say you'll take it unpaid. Simple.

Loub1987 · 06/12/2024 13:05

That’s terrible, 23rd is probably the worst travel day aswell.

6 hours of travel seems unreasonable. Are you in a union? They can often be useful to raise a challenge for the organisation without you having to do it.

Donttellempike · 06/12/2024 12:58

midgetastic · 06/12/2024 12:43

Many employers can "force" you to work or travel outside of your normal hours - it's a rare contract that doesn't have an "exceptional circumstances " or "as business requires" clause in there - you sign it, you sign up for it

Given how rarely this has been called on in the op case, they are reasonable to expect it ( expenses aside )

Except the circumstances are not exceptional and it is not a business requirement, which in any case has to be reasonable

Catswhisky · 06/12/2024 12:54

If some of the team are paid minimum wage or only slightly over it then surely the extra six hours needed to attend, plus the travel expenses, mean they are earning significantly less than minimum wage for that day which is illegal? Or does the travel time not count even if it is required?

midgetastic · 06/12/2024 12:50

I agree it's the cost that's the issue to me here

BestLife82 · 06/12/2024 12:47

midgetastic · 06/12/2024 12:43

Many employers can "force" you to work or travel outside of your normal hours - it's a rare contract that doesn't have an "exceptional circumstances " or "as business requires" clause in there - you sign it, you sign up for it

Given how rarely this has been called on in the op case, they are reasonable to expect it ( expenses aside )

Partially true. It becomes problematic for employers when some employees are on minimum wage however, which seems quite likely for the more junior employees in a bathroom shop.

midgetastic · 06/12/2024 12:43

Many employers can "force" you to work or travel outside of your normal hours - it's a rare contract that doesn't have an "exceptional circumstances " or "as business requires" clause in there - you sign it, you sign up for it

Given how rarely this has been called on in the op case, they are reasonable to expect it ( expenses aside )

permanently · 06/12/2024 12:29

Expecting you to pay £55 for the train and travel outside of working hours is wrong in my book. A cheeky 10am-2pm and we'll cover your fare yes. Or can you share a lift with colleagues?

CuddlyDodoToy · 06/12/2024 12:24

ShortNTall · 05/12/2024 10:04

Read the thread, it has been covered several times.

Life is short. Please tell me. Go on. Be a sport....

BilboBlaggin · 06/12/2024 12:18

Well, assuming you usually finish work around 5pm, I'd offer my apologies and say you already have travel plans for the evening of that day, to travel to family for Christmas. You're leaving at 6pm and it's all booked. They may be able to tell you what to do in your work hours, but they can't force you to do unpaid overtime/travel outside of work hours, especially the day before Christmas Eve.

I certainly wouldn't be leaving home at 6am either, more so if not getting paid mileage.

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 06/12/2024 12:01

LumpyandBumps · 06/12/2024 11:52

I think you might have got more helpful responses if you had titled your post something along the lines of ‘having to travel 6 hours unpaid’ as having to work the day before Christmas Eve in itself is clearly not unreasonable.

It is very poor to expect you to have such a long day ( when travel time is included) and also not cover out of pocket expenses.

The only options I can see are to try to share car travel with others to reduce the costs or take the day off unpaid.

On the rare occasions that I’ve had to take a day off unpaid I have always been surprised how little difference it made to my take home pay.

Tbh, I don't think it's irrelevant.

We're a social species, and Christmas is a huge part of our culture. There are new productions of a Christmas Carol every single year, because the message of seasonal goodwill and God bless us every one resonates and still has relevance.

The illegal parts are one thing, but possibly people would even (unfairly) suck it up if it were a different time of year.

But asking people to sacrifice personal time for company business when people have a) been told to expect otherwise and b) will be more likely to have personal plans, is far from irrelevant.

CrayonCritic5 · 06/12/2024 11:59

blinddoorshyt · 06/12/2024 08:35

@OhYeahOhYeah yeah we have to be there for a 9am start

No no no! Put your foot down.

CrayonCritic5 · 06/12/2024 11:58

Only read first page of comments but everyone is missing the point - OP was told 20th was the last day. That’s the issue, not the fact that the 23rd would normally be a working day.

Firstly, if you have to take the close-down days from your holiday allowance anyway, then presumably this would include the 23rd, had they gone ahead with the original plan. Point this out and request that your absence on the 23rd be classed as a holiday day rather than a pay dock. This is surely reasonable seeing as they went back on their earlier communication to you which is really unprofessional and inconsiderate of them. Say you’ve made arrangements.

Secondly, if the travel time takes you over your working hours then it is again unreasonable of them to expect you to accept at short notice and so they should give you the option to work from the shop or home. You’re available (e.g. 9-5pm but not before of after) and it’s not your fault they haven’t provided adequate warning.

Gloriia · 06/12/2024 11:57

Poppybob · 06/12/2024 11:53

No I don't have extra travel paid for 🙄 🙄🙄...it's the NHS...of course they don't pay for your travel 🤣and it's more than an hour away in unsocial hours :ie leaving house at 0530am to get to work for 700am. Anyhoo. . ..op has to travel on an official working day....to eat a buffet and socialise....and get paid for it!!!!! and then spend an actual Xmas with her family.

If you work for the nhs and have to travel to another hospital to cover a shift that isn't your usual place of work then you are entitled to travel expenses. I know plenty of people who work in the nhs and this is the norm. You need to inform your manager.

The op has a 6hr round trip which is absolutely unreasonable.

Poppybob · 06/12/2024 11:53

Gloriia · 06/12/2024 10:34

An hour away or 3hrs away as the op is having to do?

As an aside if you work for the nhs you'd have had all extra travel paid for. The op is having to pay for this treat herself.

No I don't have extra travel paid for 🙄 🙄🙄...it's the NHS...of course they don't pay for your travel 🤣and it's more than an hour away in unsocial hours :ie leaving house at 0530am to get to work for 700am. Anyhoo. . ..op has to travel on an official working day....to eat a buffet and socialise....and get paid for it!!!!! and then spend an actual Xmas with her family.

LumpyandBumps · 06/12/2024 11:52

I think you might have got more helpful responses if you had titled your post something along the lines of ‘having to travel 6 hours unpaid’ as having to work the day before Christmas Eve in itself is clearly not unreasonable.

It is very poor to expect you to have such a long day ( when travel time is included) and also not cover out of pocket expenses.

The only options I can see are to try to share car travel with others to reduce the costs or take the day off unpaid.

On the rare occasions that I’ve had to take a day off unpaid I have always been surprised how little difference it made to my take home pay.