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To think we shouldn't have to work the day before Christmas Eve?

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blinddoorshyt · 05/12/2024 09:33

I work in a bathroom shop.
We are closed over Christmas and were lead to believe we broke up on the 22nd
Turns out now we don't
On the 23rd we have to travel to Manchester (3 hours each way ) to have a buffet and games with the company owner.
We have to listen to a presentation on how the company's done this year.
If we don't go we will have a day deducted from our salary.
It's the day before Christmas Eve and we have to drive to Manchester to have picky food with the owner and play Christmas games.
Aibu to think it's ridiculous?
And we have been repeatedly told if we don't go we won't get paid and it will halt any progression in the company !

OP posts:
Biker47 · 11/12/2024 01:47

Yeah, fuck that, they can fucking spin on it. It takes me 20 minutes to get to work, and we usually work up until lunch time on Christmas Eve, If I was told I had to go somewhere other than my normal workplace, especially one 3 hours away and out of my own pocket, on any day at short notice they'd be told where to go. They'd especially be told where to fucking go if they had the audacity to mention that progression in the company depended on attendance too, the arseholes.

Longtimelurkerfinallyposts · 11/12/2024 00:51

i think it's unreasonable of them to expect you to travel (in your own vehicle) all the way to Manchester in time for an event starting at 9am - you say it's a 3 hour journey so you' have to leave your house at 6am?!

Not getting home till 9pm means it's a 15 hour working day, including the 6 hours of driving, in the dark, in what might well be bad weather and /or treacherous/ busy road conditions...

Being ompensated with an extra 2 hours off in the new year hardly makes up for this double-length working day! or are they saying that you're being paid to work on both the 23rd an 24th but shouldn't do any work on the 24th?

I don't think that you can or should be forced to work outside of your ontracted hours? what would happen if you already had care or other commitments?

What woul happen if your car broke down between now and then?
or you found out from your insurance company that you weren't covered for business travel?

If I were you, I'd think about oviously 'feeling ill' (being prepared to show this to everyone the week before - while you talk about how much you're looking forward to the party) so that your eventual disappointment about being so sick that you can't go after all, is so much more believable?!

Itsafunione · 11/12/2024 00:33

I don’t know that “most posters” would share your opinion actually.

Have either of you even read the thread? It’s not just about working the day before Christmas Eve( I’ll be working that day too and it’s fine ) it’s about asking her to travel 3 hours each way to Manchester relatively last minute. And on a day where the roads are likely to be super busy and not reimbursing her for travel expenses on train or car.

This could easily be a more enjoyable and productive event if they moved it to say late January, paid for accommodation or travel expenses and made it a slightly shorter day eg. 10am to 4:30pm.

Employees will respect them more and be more switched on and focused without having to make such a journey during the height of the festive period.

There’s no need for this. It’s inconsiderate and disrespectful and will do nothing to boost staff morale.

RM2013 · 11/12/2024 00:24

It’s a normal working day as not a bank
holiday and if it’s within your contracted normal hours then I would expect you to have to work. I’m having to work Christmas Eve as it’s not a BH and it’s one of my normal contracted days to work and we can’t book annual leave. It sucks but at least I have Christmas Day and Boxing Day off after working many years in an industry where every day is a normal working day

Negativefeedback1 · 11/12/2024 00:22

Yes, I agree with most posters, it’s a normal working day. I will be working until 6pm, colleagues until 7pm, on Christmas Eve and we open again at 8am on the 27th so I think you should be grateful that you have extra time off. I would love if we could finish early on Christmas Eve even.

MirandaJH · 11/12/2024 00:06

katepilar · 10/12/2024 20:12

Your travel to relatives is irrelevant to OPs situation.
Also, the post is not about having to work Christmas Eve or Christmas day, so thats also irrelavant.

Do you even know what irrelevant means- or how to spell it?

JenniferBooth · 10/12/2024 20:36

katepilar · 10/12/2024 20:12

Your travel to relatives is irrelevant to OPs situation.
Also, the post is not about having to work Christmas Eve or Christmas day, so thats also irrelavant.

Exactly

katepilar · 10/12/2024 20:12

MirandaJH · 09/12/2024 22:32

I didn’t say anything was her fault. I said I understand her annoyance. But my original point was most people work jobs where they even work Christmas Eve (and some Christmas Day) to give her some perspective that it’s not too bad.
Stand up to relatives? You want me to shout at my sister just because I didn’t feel like travelling hours but did anyway because I’m a good sister?
Are you actually ok?

Your travel to relatives is irrelevant to OPs situation.
Also, the post is not about having to work Christmas Eve or Christmas day, so thats also irrelavant.

MirandaJH · 09/12/2024 22:32

JenniferBooth · 07/12/2024 00:10

How is it the OPs fault that you cant stand up to your relatives.

I didn’t say anything was her fault. I said I understand her annoyance. But my original point was most people work jobs where they even work Christmas Eve (and some Christmas Day) to give her some perspective that it’s not too bad.
Stand up to relatives? You want me to shout at my sister just because I didn’t feel like travelling hours but did anyway because I’m a good sister?
Are you actually ok?

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 09/12/2024 21:26

OldScribbler · 09/12/2024 18:23

During the years when I ran a significant business one of my main aims was, as far as possible, to make sure everyone had a good time. This objective which had nothing obviously to do with profit was in fact very profitable and we sold out for a handsome sum in which everyone had a share. We had amazing parties.

I was exactly the same. My MO was let's do a great job as quickly as possible so we can piss off early.

I had to spend all week with those staff, who wants to be surrounded by tense or miserable people?

They wholeheartedly embraced the approach, and productivity went through the roof.

OldScribbler · 09/12/2024 18:23

During the years when I ran a significant business one of my main aims was, as far as possible, to make sure everyone had a good time. This objective which had nothing obviously to do with profit was in fact very profitable and we sold out for a handsome sum in which everyone had a share. We had amazing parties.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 09/12/2024 11:47

Hellisemptyallthdevilsarehere · 08/12/2024 19:16

If the post you quote doesn't relate in any way to the random assertion you go on to make, it doesn't really deserve a response.

I'm neither an employer or someone being asked to go to another location as a one off. I can still think it's fine.

It might be a one off, it might not.

What I'm interested in is where you draw the line?

What is an acceptable amount of work related expenses for the OP to pay from her own pocket to do something which is not in her contract?

Welshmonster · 09/12/2024 09:34

They are not considering your health and safety with such a long day driving etc. they should pay you for the time. Just take a days holiday instead or review your sick pay policy.

yea people work long shifts and don’t get Xmas off but this isn’t even your regular place of work.
is the shop actually shut? You are available to work there. This is how companies lose staff.

speak to ACAS. You will also need business insurance on your car as commuting only covers you to one place of work if you read the policy carefully.

they can’t expect travel time to come out of your regular day and the cost. What if you didn’t drive and there was no public transport available.

this wouldn’t fit in with people with childcare or caring responsibilities either.

personally I just would take the hit on pay and have a day off as if it will cost you more to work that day then you actually save money.

or just call and say broken down. Can you lift share with other people?

ForTaupeJoker · 08/12/2024 21:04

Do what you want to do. Forget the pay it's just life it's in your contract somewhere no doubt and make sure you belong to a union in future.

Itiswhysofew · 08/12/2024 19:39

This is utterly ridiculous. What are they thinking?

You chose to work there, 15 minutes from home because it's convenient for you; yet they expect you to travel for 6 hours to attend a crappy Xmas do.

I wouldn't attend.

FestiveFruitloop · 08/12/2024 19:30

Hellisemptyallthdevilsarehere · 08/12/2024 19:16

If the post you quote doesn't relate in any way to the random assertion you go on to make, it doesn't really deserve a response.

I'm neither an employer or someone being asked to go to another location as a one off. I can still think it's fine.

OK, if it helps:

Pp asked what kind of business you were in. You replied with some waffle about 'someone else's job, pay or costs' but didn't answer the question of what business you were in, and still haven't. Which is your prerogative, but then don't be surprised if you're accused of dodging the question. Wouldn't it have been easier just to say you didn't want to answer it?

LarkspurLane · 08/12/2024 19:29

Hellisemptyallthdevilsarehere · 08/12/2024 19:16

If the post you quote doesn't relate in any way to the random assertion you go on to make, it doesn't really deserve a response.

I'm neither an employer or someone being asked to go to another location as a one off. I can still think it's fine.

The reason I asked you what area you work in is because I know a lot of people who travel for work, but I don't know any who don't get paid for it.
Well paid jobs, sure, you suck it up as part of the job, but anything lower paid, you should not be out of pocket for attending another workplace.
I was just curious if there were industries that did expect employees to travel at their own (in this case considerable) expense and why people would put up with that.
It's not the usual situation in retail, there's usually a mileage allowance and public transport paid.

Hellisemptyallthdevilsarehere · 08/12/2024 19:16

FestiveFruitloop · 08/12/2024 18:51

Question nicely dodged there.

If the post you quote doesn't relate in any way to the random assertion you go on to make, it doesn't really deserve a response.

I'm neither an employer or someone being asked to go to another location as a one off. I can still think it's fine.

TheDowagerCountessofPembroke · 08/12/2024 19:01

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 08/12/2024 17:31

OK so where do you draw the line?

Commuting to and from her regular place of work = obviously at her own cost.

Being sent to New York for work = obviously at her employer's cost.

Why does Manchester fall on the "OP's cost" side of that line?

Do you have any idea how much 350 miles worth of petrol costs? It used to be standard that people could claim 45p a mile when travelling for work in their own car. In this case, that would be over £150. Why do you think the OP should meet this cost out of her own pocket, just to eat some sausage rolls and listen to someone give a speech?

£150 which is most likely more than the op would get deducted from her pay.

FestiveFruitloop · 08/12/2024 18:51

Hellisemptyallthdevilsarehere · 08/12/2024 18:39

My reply here was to someone obnoxiously asking if I'd like to personally contribute towards the OP's costs. I'd obviously not wish to involve myself in someone else's job, pay or costs just because I replied with my opinion on an open anonymous forum.

Question nicely dodged there.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 08/12/2024 18:43

Hellisemptyallthdevilsarehere · 08/12/2024 18:39

My reply here was to someone obnoxiously asking if I'd like to personally contribute towards the OP's costs. I'd obviously not wish to involve myself in someone else's job, pay or costs just because I replied with my opinion on an open anonymous forum.

So how much would you be willing to give to your own employer, particularly just before Christmas?

Can you put a figure on the amount of work related expenses you think employees should have to meet from their own pocket before it becomes unreasonable and their employer should pay?

You appear to think £150 is a low enough amount that the employee should cover it.

Hellisemptyallthdevilsarehere · 08/12/2024 18:39

LarkspurLane · 08/12/2024 16:43

Do you really work somewhere that would expect you to take on 6 hours of driving (outside of your working hours) in one day and not pay you for it?
I've never come across that before.

What kind of business are you in?

My reply here was to someone obnoxiously asking if I'd like to personally contribute towards the OP's costs. I'd obviously not wish to involve myself in someone else's job, pay or costs just because I replied with my opinion on an open anonymous forum.

LivinInYourBigGlassHouseWithAView · 08/12/2024 17:48

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 08/12/2024 15:38

These aren't commuting costs.

Her job is a 15 minute drive away, not a 3 hour drive away.

If your employer wanted you to attend a meeting in New York, would you expect to pay for your own hotel and air fare?

This!

This is the issue ... the travel time and costs being mandatory and all falling on the OP ... that's not her job!

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 08/12/2024 17:31

Hellisemptyallthdevilsarehere · 08/12/2024 16:54

The whole if it was in New York... thing is just unnecessary and ridiculous, that's what.

OK so where do you draw the line?

Commuting to and from her regular place of work = obviously at her own cost.

Being sent to New York for work = obviously at her employer's cost.

Why does Manchester fall on the "OP's cost" side of that line?

Do you have any idea how much 350 miles worth of petrol costs? It used to be standard that people could claim 45p a mile when travelling for work in their own car. In this case, that would be over £150. Why do you think the OP should meet this cost out of her own pocket, just to eat some sausage rolls and listen to someone give a speech?

JenniferBooth · 08/12/2024 17:16

OldScribbler · 08/12/2024 13:58

God help you if you ever have to live through something really difficult.

Ive just lived through something really difficult as i mentioned upthread and i agree with the OP She should tell you to shove your emotional blackmail bollocks

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