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AIBU speaking to the nursery about another child's illness?

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FunFinch · 05/12/2024 09:06

As the title suggests we seem to be suffering with multiple nursery illnesses. My DD is 18 months old and has been going to nursery for 6 months, 3 days a week

DD started with the usual illnesses pretty quick coughs, colds hand foot and mouth. I accept this is part and parcel of nursery and will boost her immune system however as we have no other childcare me and my partner have had to take alot of time off work, again this is an annoyance but was expected the first year at nursery

My gripe is, in October she started developing what I assumed was a dummy rash, I noticed a child with a rash around their mouth but it was 10x worse and was very scabby and sore looking. Well suprise suprise my DD woke up the next day to something very similar, we went to the drs and were given antibiotics and advised we had to keep her off nursery until it cleared as it was highly contagious. After a week I took her back and the same child was sat there with the rash looking even bigger and more painful. I commented to one of the staff members it was similar to what we had and maybe they should advise the parents to go to the drs as it was highly contagious.

So fast forward to this morning, I do drop off and the same child has either what looked like a cold sore or the same rash forming again on his mouth. AIBU if I speak to the nursery and ask if whatever he has is contagious? I just dont want my DD catching the rash or a cold sore and being so poorly again if it can be avoided to an extent

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habgsidldjsbeudbsbsgdjebej · 05/12/2024 09:39

Perhaps this child is not contagious?
My child had hand foot and mouth and for 5-6 months they had a rash that looked sore but wasn't all over their face and people would give me funny looks . I kept taking them back to the doctor and the doctor just said some kids skin can take ages to clear up but they are not contagious

YellowHatt · 05/12/2024 09:39

They may have been to the drs, the nursery aren’t going to tell you that. As annoying as it is you’ve already done what you can. You can try and catch the parent at pick up/drop off?

Delorian · 05/12/2024 09:36

If it's impetigo you can send child in 24 hours after starting antibiotics for it. So it could well be this child is fine to be circulating among the masses.

Moveoverdarlin · 05/12/2024 09:33

It’s so frustrating. I visited my child’s primary school the other week for a little workshop the year 1s were doing. One child coughed constantly for the full hour we were there. An awful hacking cough and the child was just constantly drinking water and then spluttering the water out where he’d cough and couldn’t manage to swallow. If that were my child I would have 100 percent kept them off school. I didn’t have the balls to do it but I really wanted to ask the teacher ‘In your opinion, do you think Freddy is well enough to be in school? Just because if that was my DC I’d keep them at home, but I don’t want to be keeping them off school unnecessarily?

Lo and behold the next week which was half term my child was ill the whole week with the same hacking cough.

somuchtodonextyear · 05/12/2024 09:27

Most childhood illnesses once you've had it you don't get it again (colds and sickness the exception obviously) so may be unlikely your child will catch whatever this other child has

(I have a child who was seriously unwell in hospital for several weeks after catching a fairly innocent bug going around nursery so I do understand your point but you can't police two dozen or more other parents)

CovertPiggery · 05/12/2024 09:23

EliflurtleAndTheInfiniteMadness · 05/12/2024 09:20

They shouldn't be discussing another child with you in that way, but if they know something is contagious they should be sending the child home and not allowing them back until they're no longer contagious. You've flagged the potential issue it's up to the nursery what they do now. If they regularly let contagious kids come in to nursery it might be a good idea to look around for one that has a different approach to this issue.

I agree.

It might be time to look for a new nursery if they're not going to protect the kids by sending ones with contagious illnesses home.

EliflurtleAndTheInfiniteMadness · 05/12/2024 09:20

They shouldn't be discussing another child with you in that way, but if they know something is contagious they should be sending the child home and not allowing them back until they're no longer contagious. You've flagged the potential issue it's up to the nursery what they do now. If they regularly let contagious kids come in to nursery it might be a good idea to look around for one that has a different approach to this issue.

WhamBamThankU · 05/12/2024 09:13

They won't discuss another child's medical issues with you.

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