AIBU speaking to the nursery about another child's illness?

Nice story you’ve made up there. Neither you, nor op have any idea a)what the illness is that the child has, or b) whether they’ve sought medical treatment. Why make up unpleasant things about a situation you have literally no insight into?

Only until 24 hours after you start antibiotics. At 18 months old my son has the impetigo rash for over 6 months - the actual infection had gone (went for blood tests etc) but my son's skin tastes a good while to repair itself. If he nicks himself shaving now he'll have a scab for weeks!

If it's impetigo then yes contagious! Starting antibiotics and should be fine within a few days. Not sure what to do about it though

This. Not just the first year either mine is 2.5 and it's all started again this autumn

Imagine the schools response if you kept a child off for weeks with a cough! Fever or vomiting diarrhoea or anything actively contagious yes keep off or they'll send them home otherwise they want them in.
Awkward about the rash but no they can't discuss it with you. What kind of contagious rash is it ?

advised we had to keep her off nursery until it cleared as it was highly contagious

By the doctor? Did you ask nursery?

Where we are, we have one central nursery that is quite strict on illnesses, and one that is more lax. Obviously the more lax one is more convenient for parents, but there's more illnesses that go around. The other means you have your child home more if they're more sickly, but they pick up less things from nursery.

As others have said, nursery won't discuss someone elses' medical information with you, and if you've noticed it, they have too.

We've been at nursery for 16 months now and so far have only bought home two illnesses, a cold and a vomiting bug, which I think is really lucky so far - but it's probably really personal to the child and their immune system, as well as what bugs are going around.

You have no idea what the other child’s medical complaints are or what treatment they are undergoing. The first year of nursery is brutal for bugs you just need to crack on best you can and save your sanity.

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Any nursery will be the same….its just the way it is…..you can only be responsible for your own behaviour not other parents 🤷

Almost all illness are contagious before symptoms show. So keeping an otherwise well child off school or nursery just because they might be contagious is ridicolous. Unless it’s a notifiable disease or the child is actually poorly and should be in bed then children should be in nursery / school.

Nope not off my tits. And yes, really.

If your child is ill then take them for treatment and keep them home while they are contagious and recovering.

If that’s unreasonable for you to do that because excuses - maybe think of the financial impact it has for the responsible parents who actually take care of their children. Think of the impact to the child who is not getting the required medical care and rest.

I would mention it to nursery as a "my child has been off with a rash just like child Xs and we were told by the doctor it was highly contagious and (my child) should not be at nursery until it has cleared."

You mention it.
They say something like "we are aware of Xs condition thank you".

That can mean:
"We thought it was non-contagious, but now your kid is ill, we will bring it up with the parent."
"We were politely ignoring it, but if other parents are annoyed, we'll talk to the parents about what it is and whether X needs to be off."
"We know that X has a big, NON-Contagious rash. e.g. chews his lips incessantly, maybe due to a disability, and that causes the rash. So there's nothing we need to do."

It would obviously to say "X must not be in nursery with that rash" because X might be fine to be in nursery with that rash.
It would obviously be wrong to spread rumours about how bad the nursery is for allowing infectious children to attend, get other parents to remove their kids, or because you are only guessing the child is infectious, but you don't need to do that just because you've mentioned it.

My eldest is on week 6 of a horrendous hacking cough but otherwise mostly ok, he's been in school, I can't keep him off that long if he's well enough in himself. (Seen nurse on week 3 and will do again tomorrow)

Cold sores - if that’s what it is - can be dangerous to babies, and I expect there will be lots of baby siblings, friends etc in a nursery community.

The nursery ought to act on it; they can do this without discussing it with op.

Are you off your tits?? Really?

If they do tell you any info on this child you need to find a new nursery as they 100% shouldn’t be!! My daughter has lots of medical issues and if I found out this was discussed with another parent I would take this as high as possible

This sounds like impitigo, common in children around the face and it is contagious. The nursery should be sending the child home and if I was you I would raise that with the nursery.

This has to be a joke

This, my youngest son didn’t shift HFM for months.

YABU. You have absolutely no idea what action the nursery / parents have taken about it. Its possible the childs illness is no longer contagious and is fine to be there. My DD caught slapped cheek recently, apparently thats not actually contagious once the red sores come out, its before when invisible that its contagious. So how are you supposed to keep them off for the contagious period when its not showing symptoms!
You have to just accept that this is part of nursery life and once their immune system strengthens it should ease off. But speaking to nursery about another childs illnesses is uncalled for and not really your business, unless you know for a fact the child is being neglected and untreated.

Different nurseries have different levels of strictness about illness, but none of them will talk to you about another child.

My DD frequently came out in a rash that if you saw, you'd think she shouldn't be in nursery. But we'd had it checked by the GP (several times, as it kept recurring), and they said it wasn't contagious, and the nursery were happy. If another parent had seen and said something, they may well have assumed the nursery were ignoring them if they saw my DD still attending. This child you saw might be on antibiotics already and so allowed in.

I think at this stage it’s a pretty clear sign of neglect on the parent’s part of the child who continues to get ill or is staying ill. They clearly aren’t receiving medical attention that they need if they have a contagious disease.

Id move nursery but I’d also find out if there is somewhere you can report it, like child services.