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To ask about 56 year old men?

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Jumell · 05/12/2024 07:58

Just that really.

What kind of things do they like in general? Have they got good stamina ? I suppose it depends how they live their lives. Would love some feedback on things like -

kind of things they’d like to receive for birthdays /Xmas

music they like?

in case someone’s asking - I’ve got a little crush 🤣

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swimsong · 05/12/2024 12:09

And whatever you do, don't buy them blended! Has to be single malt - Islays are all good.

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Jumell · 05/12/2024 12:08

ThirdAttempt · 05/12/2024 12:03

I've had very recent experience of being a 56-year-old man, as today is my 57th birthday!

As he's into football, you need to find out what team he supports. Then maybe get him a gift, but not a predictable one from his club's shop/website, but something unofficial and quirky. For example, look for Newcastle United gifts on Etsy.

Or, you could get him a fab model of a German tank, like my wife gave me today. What's not to like?!

Happy Birthday ! 🎉🎉🎉🎂🎁🎈

im so envious that your birthday no 1 was “Hello, Goodbye” by the Beatles !!! 🙌

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booisbooming · 05/12/2024 12:07

User43329066 · 05/12/2024 12:01

Hugh Jackman
Daniel Craig
Adam Woodyatt (Ian Beale actor on Eastenders)
Lee Mack comedian
Rod Gilbert comedian
Grant Shapps MP

are all 56 years old. What do they like? Are they as fit as each other? Are they the same because they are 56 do you think?

Lee Mack can have a mouldy apple and some unstable fireworks, and nothing for Grant Shapps either, but I bet all the others would be fine with an Aeropress, some Kiehl's men's moisturiser and the super deluxe Talking Heads reissue on heavyweight vinyl, yeah.

Ilovemyshed · 05/12/2024 12:07

Buy him a Christmas jumper from the merch site for his favourite football team.

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Jumell · 05/12/2024 12:06

User43329066 · 05/12/2024 12:01

Hugh Jackman
Daniel Craig
Adam Woodyatt (Ian Beale actor on Eastenders)
Lee Mack comedian
Rod Gilbert comedian
Grant Shapps MP

are all 56 years old. What do they like? Are they as fit as each other? Are they the same because they are 56 do you think?

As ABBA famously once sang -

“I do I do I do I do I do” 🎶🎵🎶

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Minahundaralskarmig · 05/12/2024 12:05

Some of them have a dirty secret that they bought Smurfs records in 1978 helping it get to No2

ThirdAttempt · 05/12/2024 12:03

I've had very recent experience of being a 56-year-old man, as today is my 57th birthday!

As he's into football, you need to find out what team he supports. Then maybe get him a gift, but not a predictable one from his club's shop/website, but something unofficial and quirky. For example, look for Newcastle United gifts on Etsy.

Or, you could get him a fab model of a German tank, like my wife gave me today. What's not to like?!

crackofdoom · 05/12/2024 12:03

Jumell · 05/12/2024 08:28

I just thought he might appreciate a nice Radox bubble bath ! 😊

I know a 51 year old who has the full range of Radox bubble baths.
He also enjoys painting his nails, collecting ancient ZX Spectrums and baggy Manchester music, so I'm sure your generic 56 year old will be into all that too 😆

SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 05/12/2024 12:02

Nice thread, but you really can't generalise. You'll have to ask him more about himself! Or, you could notice what he's wearing and get something in the same vein. If he has a nice pair of black leather gloves for example, you might get him a new pair in a different colour. If he's always in a rugby shirt you could get him one of those. If he's a great tea drinker then some nice mugs.
I'd be cautious of football related gifts unless you can come up with tickets for his local team playing at home - that would go down well.

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Jumell · 05/12/2024 12:02

Alondra · 05/12/2024 11:32

It's not about men and age, it's about friendship, similar values and financial resources at this age.

Is he financially independent?

Has he lived alone for a few years and able to take care of himself without a woman to make it easier for him?

Are his kids grown up, independent but having a good close relationship with him?

Is he emotionally available? Can you talk and make decisions about your everyday life without him blowing out in anger or having to walk on eggshells from fear?

Are you compatible? Do you want similar things in present life and in the future?

His age is immaterial, OP. You've said little about yourself except you fancy him and "fancy" is not a term to look for in a good partner, specially in mature age when they come with baggage.

You make some good points here. My answer is yes to most of these but I’d have to get to know him better for the last point !

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User43329066 · 05/12/2024 12:01

Hugh Jackman
Daniel Craig
Adam Woodyatt (Ian Beale actor on Eastenders)
Lee Mack comedian
Rod Gilbert comedian
Grant Shapps MP

are all 56 years old. What do they like? Are they as fit as each other? Are they the same because they are 56 do you think?

crackofdoom · 05/12/2024 12:00

Seekingstyle · 05/12/2024 08:23

This, and they all like climbing Pen Y Fan, owning high energy dogs, working in the city and their "kids are my world and will always come first"

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The Pen Y Fan bit is so accurate and always makes me ROFL. As if the mountain climbing woman they're presumably hoping to attract doesn't know that Pen Y Fan has got to be one of the easiest summits in the UK to get to....there's a car park halfway up 😆

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Jumell · 05/12/2024 11:59

NoBinturongsHereMate · 05/12/2024 11:58

The only thing I can think of that all the mid-50s men of my acquaintance have in common is an interest in solar panels. Get him one of those.

🤣🙌

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NoBinturongsHereMate · 05/12/2024 11:58

The only thing I can think of that all the mid-50s men of my acquaintance have in common is an interest in solar panels. Get him one of those.

Dagnabit · 05/12/2024 11:54

My 57yo DH loves music, goes to lot of gigs, is an avid gym goer/weightlifter, enjoys time with his family and loves watching the telly! Also partial to IPAs and whisky. Hates technology, has a smart phone and tablet though but moans about it All. The. Time. 😂

Tupperwarelid · 05/12/2024 11:50

My 60 year old does martial arts training and has turned the garage into a gym. He doesn't drink and hates football. He likes cooking and rugby. He also likes going to the ballet and opera. He's learning Italian.

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Jumell · 05/12/2024 11:49

Hiiteex · 05/12/2024 11:40

I bet he has good stamina in your dreams 🤣

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You know me better than I know myself 🤣

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HollyKnight · 05/12/2024 11:43

My dad is a couple of years older than that. He likes whiskey, Metallica, and Man United. The same things he has always liked. Why don't you ask the 56 year old what he likes?

TorroFerney · 05/12/2024 11:43

Jumell · 05/12/2024 08:46

I could get him a compilation take of hits by :

Dave Dee, Dozy, Beaky, Mick and Tich
Tremeloes
Manfred Man
Amen Corner
The Move
Herman’s Hernits
Small Faces

What fabulous music there was back then !

Why would you do that, it’s not his era.

TwistedWonder · 05/12/2024 11:42

MiddleClassWomanOfACertainAge · 05/12/2024 11:08

Not all men of that age are identical, but a fair few of them will be profoundly grateful to any woman willing to shag them.

And yet there’s many of them who think they’re doing women their own age a huge favour by even glancing in their direction

TheTecknician · 05/12/2024 11:41

I'm 54 soon so close enough to qualify for comment. I like the countryside, airports, aeroplanes, old technology, nice food, alcoholic drinks generally (not cider or lager), 1950s to early 1980s music, piano music (can't play very well), jazz and some classical music. I hardly watch television and I am not a sports fan. Not keen on children - I never learned how to get on with them. HTH.

mrlistersgelfbride · 05/12/2024 11:41

Can't imagine being arsed with men when I'm in my 50s...you do you though.

Tiredalwaystired · 05/12/2024 11:40

username299 · 05/12/2024 08:03

What kind of things do they like in general?
Watching sports, bird watching, DIY, fast cars and gardening.

Have they got good stamina ?
They can walk up a flight of stairs without pausing.

birthdays /Xmas
4 cans of premium lager and some pork scratchings.

music they like
Oasis, The Jam, Chemical Brothers, The Orb and Blondie.

My 56 year old husband would begin divorce proceedings if I suggested any of those hobbies or gave him those gifts.

He quite likes The Jam though.

Hiiteex · 05/12/2024 11:40

Jumell · 05/12/2024 07:58

Just that really.

What kind of things do they like in general? Have they got good stamina ? I suppose it depends how they live their lives. Would love some feedback on things like -

kind of things they’d like to receive for birthdays /Xmas

music they like?

in case someone’s asking - I’ve got a little crush 🤣

I bet he has good stamina in your dreams 🤣

Fairyliz · 05/12/2024 11:39

I’m in my 60’s but having seen DH and friends husbands in their 50’s I would say they are generally grumpy; running to seed and very set in their ways.
They like to think that they are wild and free and can attract gorgeous young women, but actually get stressed if they have to wait 30 minutes for dinner.
Yours of course may be different but statistically it is unlikely.