School issue - violent kid

Another witch hunt. I have been the parent of the 'physical' kid. He now had an ASD and ADHD diagnosis, and is also diagnosed with severe anxiety, which is, according to the clin psych, where his physical behaviour came from. I assure you, however worried you are for your child, the parents will likely be a million times more worried about their child 'getting physical' (I presume you mean hitting other children, but you are not clear). Knowing my son was hitting kids was the bleakest time of my life and I think it would have pushed me over the edge if parents started complaining. Thankfully, with a recognition of my son's needs, and excellent support from the school (independent) my son is now thriving, NEVER hits, and is academically one of the best in his class (he's year 1 now). If parents had kicked off and pressured the school to remove him (which, let's be homest, is where this is most likely to lead), I don't think he would have had that chance. I am so grateful to the parents of the children in my son's class for being so supportive, and for the school for not giving up on my son and working with him (and me) to get him the support he needs. Remember, these children are only Reception age.

If someone physically hits your child, at any school, it should be exclusion.
These kids are 4 years old. There would be a LOT of excluded children if you excluded every single Reception child who ever hit anyone. Get a grip.

This is a great question.

Kids in reception are still tiny humans that don't understand the world and its social norms very well. If he's playing rough like the poster had said then it might be a learnt behaviour which will need time to unpick (kid might not have been to nursery before so doesn't understand kind hands etc). If it's lobbing another child with a toy on purpose then I agree something drastic needs to change. I would give a term with some concrete promises (1:1 supervision (of the aggressive child, counselling etc) and then consider further complaining and asking for the child to be moved.

Uprooting your child after just a few months at reception is a huge change after starting reception which was a huge change. I wouldn't disturb your kid, they've not done anything wrong.

What does 'getting physical' mean?
Some of the boys in my daughters reception class can play roughly, and there is daily bumps and bruises from them running into each other, this is normal for reception. Or is this child intentionally hitting yours with the clear aim of hurting them, and they have sustained cuts and bruises, which is clearly not acceptable.

Unless the parents are big donors...

Private schools aren't obliged to keep challenging children enrolled. I would imagine the issue will be resolved quickly.

If someone physically hits your child, at any school, it should be exclusion.

Given that it's a private school I would expect ot to be under control VERY swiftly - by the end of term at the absolute latest. With state schools there are lengthy protocols before a school can even threaten exclusion because the state is obliged to educate every child. The private school has no obligation to educate a child who represents a danger to other children.

I would be letting the school know now, today, that if the time between now and the end of term does not demonstrate absolutely that they can protect your child from violence, you will be giving notice. They do not necessarily have to expel the violent child but they could put a 1:1 adult with them to guarantee the safety of other children.

2-3 months sounds like a long time for them to protect your child.

I would look to move schools tbh