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Is it chasing if I always text first ?

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CleverOpalPanda · 04/12/2024 18:14

Met a guy ,at first he would message me constantly until I started showing interest.He didn’t speak to me for a week and I texted him ,since then it is me texting first apart from a few occasions he has called me after texting him.Is he comfortable now and taking me for granted ?he might think it’s ok as I haven’t complained due to it being still quite casual and not a relationship but it bothers me.haven’t said anything as I don’t want to seem bothered or clingy.Generally I text once every 5 days or so and he responds.I really like him and don’t know how to let go and I certainly don’t want to play games but don’t want to be taken for granted either.

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PenelopeSkye · 04/12/2024 18:24

I’m not one for very frequent texting, but I think in the early stages when everything should be exciting, only texting every 5 days doesn’t show all the much interest. Sorry OP. Have you been on many dates?

Ablondiebutagoody · 04/12/2024 18:22

Well texting constantly is draining and unsustainable......but never contacting you is very shit. Sorry OP, he doesn't seem interested and there's nothing you can do to force it by complaining. Personally, I would stop contacting him.