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Keep the magic or he should grow up now

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Glitterfish · 04/12/2024 18:02

My DS is a lovely chatting outgoing boy but he is very innocent. He has just started secondary this year and seems to be settling in very well.

However in the last week he started mentioning Santa and asking where Elfie is. Now I thought he knew last year as he was talking about cost of his gift in advance and whether he should ask Santa or not and so assumed it was all over in terms of Santa but he was just keeping up a pretence (as kids do). He hasn't said much about Santa this year - one or 2 passing references but he was getting a bit upset yesterday and today that Elfie hadn't made an appearance yet.

What do I do?
YABU: Tell him now (and potentially ruin the magic of Christmas)
YANBU: Wait till after Christmas (although he may potentially mention something in school and face ridicule)

PS. We do have a very nice Elfie (wooden with handmade clothes so I don't mind it around :).

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FluDog · 04/12/2024 18:11

DS is year 6 and still wrote a letter to Santa. I think he's more worried he won't get what he wants if he doesn't.

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Glitterfish · 04/12/2024 18:11

Ablondiebutagoody · 04/12/2024 18:08

You think that he thinks Elfie is a real elf? I very much doubt it. He just likes the Xmas tradition. Nothing wrong with that.

That's what I'm hoping but hate the thought of bursting his bubble jus before Christmas if he really believes

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Littletreefrog · 04/12/2024 18:10

Unless there are any special educational needs he must know. I mean presumably he knows the rest of his toys aren't real?

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Glitterfish · 04/12/2024 18:09

MuggleMe · 04/12/2024 18:05

I was still getting stockings until I got married.

love that - I think we all should :)

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ATastingMenuButItsAllCrisps · 04/12/2024 18:09

Glitterfish · 04/12/2024 18:08

Yes Elfie is our version of Elf on the shelf but always hated those plastic dolls. He really seems to believe it should be here and getting up to tricks. I hope its to keep me happy but how can I be sure?

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Talk to him?

Hateam · 04/12/2024 18:09

Tell him tonight.
If it comes out in school that he still believes he will me mercilessly teased at best and possibly bullied every Christmas for years.

I'm not joking - for God's sake tell him tonight.

NotbloodyGivingupYet · 04/12/2024 18:08

Well I was still getting stockings when I was in my twenties but I knew it wasn't Santa bringing them.
Check that he knows what's what's before he's made a laughing stock at school.
Although he might just want Elfie to continue as part of Christmas tradition?

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Glitterfish · 04/12/2024 18:08

JC03745 · 04/12/2024 18:05

What is Elfie??? An elf on the shelf type doll? Does he have additional needs? Maybe he is pretending to keep you happy? Hard to know, but I'd be surprised a child of that age believes a wooden door is animated and moves around the house itself.
Does he still think Santa is real also?

Yes Elfie is our version of Elf on the shelf but always hated those plastic dolls. He really seems to believe it should be here and getting up to tricks. I hope its to keep me happy but how can I be sure?

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Ablondiebutagoody · 04/12/2024 18:08

You think that he thinks Elfie is a real elf? I very much doubt it. He just likes the Xmas tradition. Nothing wrong with that.

Nc546888 · 04/12/2024 18:05

Secondary school? Bloody hell he’s too old for Father Christmas now. I thought all kids knew the truth by 8

MuggleMe · 04/12/2024 18:05

I was still getting stockings until I got married.

JC03745 · 04/12/2024 18:05

What is Elfie??? An elf on the shelf type doll? Does he have additional needs? Maybe he is pretending to keep you happy? Hard to know, but I'd be surprised a child of that age believes a wooden door is animated and moves around the house itself.
Does he still think Santa is real also?

MuggleMe · 04/12/2024 18:04

I don't understand what retaining traditions has to do with actually believing. It's still fun to do the magical things even if you secretly or not so secretly know the truth.

MumOfOneAllAlone · 04/12/2024 18:04

Sorry, I’d tell him before some bully decides to use it against him at school, honestly x

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