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To want to call off my relationship at 38 weeks pregnant?

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scarlettewrath · 04/12/2024 08:35

My partner and I have been together for a couple of years now, we live separately, im happy with this arrangement however in between seeing each other a couple of times a week, some weeks we don't see each other at all, our only form of communication is through text,

He never calls, and when I call him he's normally playing his games console or preoccupied doing things on his phone and not interested in the conversation, iv expressed how this bothers me several times throughout our relationship without any success or effort on his part to change things.

Yesterday I found out I'm going to need to be induced next week due to our baby growing inadequately and naturally am very scared and worried and was hoping to hear from him in regards to this, it being such a big event in our life yet I still don't receive any phone calls, or support and I'm at the point I feel like I'm begging for him to communicate with me and he just isn't interested,

I feel at this point my feelings towards him our changing and after him being so unsupportive throughout this pregnancy I don't look at him in the same light, AIBU to think this is probably the end of the relationship for us? To expect more from a partner? He says he loves me and our baby but his actions say different, I feel I deserve more but don't want to make any decisions I may regret down the line, does anyone have any advice or opinions on this? Sorry for the long post.

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scarlettewrath · 04/12/2024 08:42

SussexLass87 · 04/12/2024 08:37

You can call off a relationship for any reason you want to OP..but, I mean this very gently...why have a baby with someone like this?

He doesn't sound like he's fully invested in the relationship - especially when you don't live together.

We was being very careful, but the one time we slipped up I ended up falling pregnant, hope things would get better but unfortunately that doesn't seem to have been the case,
we don't live together due to the children we have from previous relationships, we couldn't fit everyone under one roof,
and I also prefer my own space, but the lack of communication through out has made me realise maybe I don't matter as much to his as he says, when bringing this up he'll say he loves me with all his heart and all the rest of it but then his actions don't match up, think iv just been taken for a ride at this point 🤦🏻‍♀️

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SussexLass87 · 04/12/2024 08:37

You can call off a relationship for any reason you want to OP..but, I mean this very gently...why have a baby with someone like this?

He doesn't sound like he's fully invested in the relationship - especially when you don't live together.