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To not want to “bond” with BIL new partner

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Mrscantsleeep · 04/12/2024 03:02

This is really getting my back up and I’m tired of having this same argument with DH around BIL and his new piece. He cheated on his long term fiance for this new lady they were having an affair at work both cheating on their partners. They have been on and off for years but recently made it official a few months ago now moved in with him and his kids.She’s really full on which is something I’m not use too and out shopping with MIL every weekend.BIL kids seem to love her.Apparently they are trying for a baby now too!

Hubby said oh you need to bond with her she seems alright. But it just doesn’t all seem normal to me I’m dead wary and I can’t put my finger on it! Also seems crazy to me how replaceable his ex partner was of many years and parents in law have just wiped any trace of her.

please tell me if I am being unreasonable? With Christmas coming up it’s causing arguments already. I’m not interested in getting to know her.

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Quitelikeit · 04/12/2024 03:08

I don’t think you are being unreasonable

Sadly you cannot really control how the others have reacted to her

maybe do the bare minimum when it comes to her

Switchingitup · 04/12/2024 03:08

I think there’s a middle ground.
It would not hurt you to show an interest and make an effort to get to know her when you see her at wider family events… but there is no need to spend weekends with her or meet up outside of family gatherings.