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Husband picks his nose and eats it

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Lola700 · 03/12/2024 21:28

My husband works away and a few months ago on FaceTime, he was ‘discreetly’ picking his nose and it looked like he was eating it. I called him out and he kinda just laughed. Honestly, I was horrified. Then on other calls, he tried to hide his lower face but he didn’t put the camera low enough down and he whipped the bogey from nose to mouth so I know he is doing it. I feel like, why would you choose to do that right now? On our call? He’s done it a few times now and I just call him out every time. He doesn’t really say much when I call him out- just gets a bit embarrassed. We’ve been together over 20 years but I see him differently now. Maybe it’s small to some people but this has completely disgusted me. The thought of kissing him repulses me. I wouldn’t say I’m head over heels in love with him or anything but I quite like his company for the most part and we have a pretty good sex life but this has changed things. I’m so grossed out. Am I being unreasonable? Is it over?

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1stWorldProblems · 03/12/2024 22:17

Eating your bogeys has been proven to improve your health / help programme your immune system - that's why it tastes pleasant. It's why kids eat term without thinking, until they're told not to.

Ear wax is horrid & has no proven immune response.

Though if you're grossed out by it, then you'll probably remain so...

Huonneyywisshful · 03/12/2024 22:15

🤮🤮🤮

khaitai · 03/12/2024 22:13

I love picking my nose and eating it. The chewy ones with a bit of wet are the best!

Seriously questioning my life choices when this is popping up as a notification on my phone.

Tanfastic · 03/12/2024 22:10

This is one thing that really makes me feel physically sick and turns my stomach if I see someone doing it. I could not live with a bogey eater.

Greentreesandbushes · 03/12/2024 22:09

So do I

PantherchameleonsocksforChristmas · 03/12/2024 22:08

Intentionally eating it is one thing but we all swallow our snot from time to time, whether we like it or not!

Loveagoodbooger · 03/12/2024 22:08

I love picking my nose and eating it. The chewy ones with a bit of wet are the best!

Plus I pick my earwax and sometimes eat it.

Also love picking my skin and eating that!

Apparently, these are OCD traits, possibly ADHD too...

DeedlessIndeed · 03/12/2024 22:06

I generally do not agree with shaming people, but I think I'd continue to loudly point it out if you ever see it again. He seems to have kept it hidden from you but after so many years is slipping.

I'd try to embarrass him into breaking the habit for good.

Lola700 · 03/12/2024 22:03

Plastictrees · 03/12/2024 22:03

Do the secret bogey guzzlers also consume their own earwax? Which bodily secretion is a step too far?

That’s enough internet for me for tonight.

😂

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Plastictrees · 03/12/2024 22:03

Snoken · 03/12/2024 22:01

I agree. Like earwax, we work to remove snot from our bodies, not to re-insert it.

Do the secret bogey guzzlers also consume their own earwax? Which bodily secretion is a step too far?

That’s enough internet for me for tonight.

Lola700 · 03/12/2024 22:01

Garnetcherrycola · 03/12/2024 21:59

He's given you the ick 🤢

And I’m struggling to get over it. How do I get over it? It’s so gross.

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Snoken · 03/12/2024 22:01

Lola700 · 03/12/2024 21:58

I can cope with our bodies betraying us with things but a purposeful pick and insert? I’m struggling.

I agree. Like earwax, we work to remove snot from our bodies, not to re-insert it.

Tink3rbell30 · 03/12/2024 22:00

Nah that's vile I couldn't go near him.

MyDogIsNonBinary · 03/12/2024 22:00

FedupMum2024 · 03/12/2024 21:31

I do this when in the car (only at night time when it is dark obviously!)

We have ALL done it but of course nobody will ever admit to it.

The fuck we all have!

GRIM.

Plastictrees · 03/12/2024 22:00

Oh god, how grotesque. What a dilemma you face. Perhaps a course of hypnotherapy to try to push this traumatic memory to the far corners of your mind?! 😂

Horrified by the previous posters suggestion that we are all secret bogey guzzlers. NO.

intherough · 03/12/2024 21:59

FedupMum2024 · 03/12/2024 21:31

I do this when in the car (only at night time when it is dark obviously!)

We have ALL done it but of course nobody will ever admit to it.

I have NEVER done this.

Garnetcherrycola · 03/12/2024 21:59

He's given you the ick 🤢

Lola700 · 03/12/2024 21:58

Snoken · 03/12/2024 21:55

It’s a weird thing to do. I liken it to eating earwax or something, people don’t do that though. Although, technically, snot does travel from you nose to your throat constantly so in that sense we are all eating it all the time.

I can cope with our bodies betraying us with things but a purposeful pick and insert? I’m struggling.

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Lola700 · 03/12/2024 21:56

So what advice can people give? I’ve been married over 20 years and I feel like I’ve been living a lie. My son (he’s 16) who also saw the boogie eating one day told me he’s always know his dad picks his nose and eats it. He said casually ‘he’s done that since I can remember’… honestly, this may be dramatic but I’m seriously considering how the marriage can continue as I’m repulsed. This makes me cry but I’m not sure I can get past this.

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Snoken · 03/12/2024 21:55

It’s a weird thing to do. I liken it to eating earwax or something, people don’t do that though. Although, technically, snot does travel from you nose to your throat constantly so in that sense we are all eating it all the time.

Garnetcherrycola · 03/12/2024 21:53

I feel sick just reading this. I would also not want to kiss him ever again, and feel disgusted with him. I would feel like I was on a bush tucker trial, if I was instructed to eat my bogey 🤢 how are people casually devouring them. Ergh

khaitai · 03/12/2024 21:50

I just tried googling why some people pick their nose and eat it and couldn't make it past the first few sentences without feeling queasy. Genuinely baffled by this. Does it not taste gross?!

Lola700 · 03/12/2024 21:50

Coconutter24 · 03/12/2024 21:50

It’s an anonymous site if people did it they’d admit it.
I can definitely say I’ve never eaten a bogey 🤢

Same.

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Coconutter24 · 03/12/2024 21:50

FedupMum2024 · 03/12/2024 21:42

See OP. The above replies all prove my point 😂 Nobody will ever admit to it!

Yes I get thst it's gross and this is s

It’s an anonymous site if people did it they’d admit it.
I can definitely say I’ve never eaten a bogey 🤢