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Husband picks his nose and eats it

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Lola700 · 03/12/2024 21:28

My husband works away and a few months ago on FaceTime, he was ‘discreetly’ picking his nose and it looked like he was eating it. I called him out and he kinda just laughed. Honestly, I was horrified. Then on other calls, he tried to hide his lower face but he didn’t put the camera low enough down and he whipped the bogey from nose to mouth so I know he is doing it. I feel like, why would you choose to do that right now? On our call? He’s done it a few times now and I just call him out every time. He doesn’t really say much when I call him out- just gets a bit embarrassed. We’ve been together over 20 years but I see him differently now. Maybe it’s small to some people but this has completely disgusted me. The thought of kissing him repulses me. I wouldn’t say I’m head over heels in love with him or anything but I quite like his company for the most part and we have a pretty good sex life but this has changed things. I’m so grossed out. Am I being unreasonable? Is it over?

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RocketDog101 · 03/12/2024 23:36

Busywithsomething · 03/12/2024 22:30

Yeah I couldn't kiss anyone if I knew they did that. I don't eat mine and I think it's grim. Hideous. I don't eat any of my body's secretions.

Secretions 🤢 a word which makes me think of snail/slug slime...relates well to the topic heave

Another who does not eat nose stuffs <<<

I have however sneezed during a cold, got snot on my top lip (couldn't grab a tissue quick enough to catch 😭) and swear all I could taste was the THOUGHT of snot 🤢🤢🤢 there were not enough Strepsils or Lemsip in the cupboard that could rid that feeling...urgh the thoughts came rushing back with this thread (flip you curiosity!). Germs in general give me the ick (funny to some, but awful when children are ill as can be a real issue and cause inner rage if catch it 😭)...I mean, it's waste, there's proteins in pee which can be processed to re-drink, its still waste in its true form 🤢

So no, I don't believe everyone (or even a majority) does it. I can acknowledge people who pick their nose and hopefully wipe in a tissue or flick into a bush or something, but dang, I hope they wash their hands/antibac at first opportunity (germy ick!) 🤢

Flog him with a wave of other people's dried up crusty tissues and banish him to some other snotty secretion shudders eater 🤪 wrongun'.

AConstipatedAccountantJustCantBudget · 03/12/2024 23:27

JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 03/12/2024 23:25

Eat a scab?! 🤮
This thread is mind blowing.
Who are all these people eating bogies, scans and earwax?!

Even with the COL crisis, surely an occasional Gregg's or Tesco meal deal can't be out of the question for an occasional treat for all of these people?!

JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 03/12/2024 23:25

Eat a scab?! 🤮
This thread is mind blowing.
Who are all these people eating bogies, scans and earwax?!

Saschka · 03/12/2024 23:23

Snoken · 03/12/2024 21:55

It’s a weird thing to do. I liken it to eating earwax or something, people don’t do that though. Although, technically, snot does travel from you nose to your throat constantly so in that sense we are all eating it all the time.

I bet some people do eat earwax. I can’t say I have ever tried it (I don’t really have much, and I’m not going to suck a cotton wool bud like a lolly), but there will be somebody somewhere who has, I am sure.

I don’t think eating earwax or snot is any worse than eating a scab or biting a fingernail tbh. None of them are great habits to do in front of an audience, but I wouldn’t fart or scratch my bum in public either.

JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 03/12/2024 23:20

FedupMum2024 · 03/12/2024 21:31

I do this when in the car (only at night time when it is dark obviously!)

We have ALL done it but of course nobody will ever admit to it.

I have never ever done it. The thought alone makes me want to vomit 🤮

dontcryformeargentina · 03/12/2024 23:19

FedupMum2024 · 03/12/2024 21:31

I do this when in the car (only at night time when it is dark obviously!)

We have ALL done it but of course nobody will ever admit to it.

Never done it. Don't judge people by your own standards

coldcallerbaiter · 03/12/2024 23:18

Chewy, crispy and salty- yum

gano · 03/12/2024 23:16

I eat mine. Obviously not in front of people though.

BonfireToffee · 03/12/2024 23:12

Lola700 · 03/12/2024 21:56

So what advice can people give? I’ve been married over 20 years and I feel like I’ve been living a lie. My son (he’s 16) who also saw the boogie eating one day told me he’s always know his dad picks his nose and eats it. He said casually ‘he’s done that since I can remember’… honestly, this may be dramatic but I’m seriously considering how the marriage can continue as I’m repulsed. This makes me cry but I’m not sure I can get past this.

Without wanting to project, it sounds like this is a straw on a camels back for you, OP. Often it’s the “stupid” “little” things like this that are the final nail in the coffins of dying relationships.

I don’t think YABU, either — even in isolation this is a fucking filthy habit and it would absolutely repulse me too.

AConstipatedAccountantJustCantBudget · 03/12/2024 23:10

Rabbits and greyhounds, amongst others, regularly eat the unpleasant 'produce' from their own and others' bodies - it's normal.

I, however, am a human; not a dog or a rabbit.

AConstipatedAccountantJustCantBudget · 03/12/2024 23:08

SoManyTshirts · 03/12/2024 22:18

So those who pick their nose and don’t eat it (very salty taste, fyi) what do you do with the results?

Wipe it into a tissue and bin it, usually.

What a question, though! That's like asking "Hey, all of you weirdos who claim that you don't eat your own poo - so what do you do with it, then?!"

terracottacountryfarm · 03/12/2024 23:05

Coatsoff42 · 03/12/2024 23:00

Is it worse to eat your own bogies or swallow someone else’s sperm?

That's got me thinking...

FriendlyNeighbourhoodAccountant · 03/12/2024 23:02

Coatsoff42 · 03/12/2024 23:00

Is it worse to eat your own bogies or swallow someone else’s sperm?

One of life's great questions

Coatsoff42 · 03/12/2024 23:00

Is it worse to eat your own bogies or swallow someone else’s sperm?

chillibuns · 03/12/2024 22:57

SpeculativeHoumous · 03/12/2024 21:47

It's the sort of thing people do a couple of times as a small child then grow out of it

Yes, I agree. It's revolting.

Coatsoff42 · 03/12/2024 22:55

fashionqueen0123 · 03/12/2024 22:53

🤢 makes me want to heave just reading this.
I don’t get it. Why?! It’s not like it would taste good!

There’s only one way to find out!

Gabitule · 03/12/2024 22:55

A friend of mine eats his earwax. He is handsome, very successful, intelligent, kind, humble. A really amazing person. I can’t understand for the life of me why he does it and I am worried that other people would have noticed this and he would lose their respect :(

fashionqueen0123 · 03/12/2024 22:53

🤢 makes me want to heave just reading this.
I don’t get it. Why?! It’s not like it would taste good!

Valkyrie3 · 03/12/2024 22:51

Just add, I could not be with someone who does this. So, OP, you have to tell him to stop ever doing it in your presence or it's over.
Good luck with unseeing it though.

Gabitule · 03/12/2024 22:50

SoManyTshirts · 03/12/2024 22:18

So those who pick their nose and don’t eat it (very salty taste, fyi) what do you do with the results?

Hahaha, good question. Ok, I’ll admit that if I don’t have a tissue handy the dry boogies sometimes end up on the floor (non-carpeted) to be hoovered the next time I hoover.

Valkyrie3 · 03/12/2024 22:49

This is making me feel sick. Revolting! My dil does this and seems oblivious to others around her or even that she's doing it.
I dread seeing her. Vile nausea-inducing behaviour.

Calliopespa · 03/12/2024 22:45

Loveagoodbooger · 03/12/2024 22:08

I love picking my nose and eating it. The chewy ones with a bit of wet are the best!

Plus I pick my earwax and sometimes eat it.

Also love picking my skin and eating that!

Apparently, these are OCD traits, possibly ADHD too...

Oh for pity’s sake.

That’s me off to bed now. I’m scared what’s coming next.

Doubledded123 · 03/12/2024 22:44

He is no longer the man of your dreams, so move on.

FoxtonFoxton · 03/12/2024 22:43

MyDogIsNonBinary · 03/12/2024 22:00

The fuck we all have!

GRIM.

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Quite! I absolutely don't eat the contents of my nose. Think about what bogeys actually are...mucus combined with dirt, germs, pollutants, dead skin cells...why you'd want to eat that is beyond me. Blow or wipe it in a tissue for gods sake!

Calliopespa · 03/12/2024 22:42

YourAzureEagle · 03/12/2024 22:31

Nothing like tucking in to the head buffet - earwax, tangy!

when I was an engineering apprentice, one little gem I learned, greasy hands? no swarfega or soap to hand? snot is a surfactant like soap, blow you nose well into your cupped hands, rub in well and rinse - works a treat, done it a few times in desperation!

Ew, ew, EEEEEWWWWW!!!!