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Husband picks his nose and eats it

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Lola700 · 03/12/2024 21:28

My husband works away and a few months ago on FaceTime, he was ‘discreetly’ picking his nose and it looked like he was eating it. I called him out and he kinda just laughed. Honestly, I was horrified. Then on other calls, he tried to hide his lower face but he didn’t put the camera low enough down and he whipped the bogey from nose to mouth so I know he is doing it. I feel like, why would you choose to do that right now? On our call? He’s done it a few times now and I just call him out every time. He doesn’t really say much when I call him out- just gets a bit embarrassed. We’ve been together over 20 years but I see him differently now. Maybe it’s small to some people but this has completely disgusted me. The thought of kissing him repulses me. I wouldn’t say I’m head over heels in love with him or anything but I quite like his company for the most part and we have a pretty good sex life but this has changed things. I’m so grossed out. Am I being unreasonable? Is it over?

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Trinity65 · 04/12/2024 09:20

FedupMum2024 · 03/12/2024 21:31

I do this when in the car (only at night time when it is dark obviously!)

We have ALL done it but of course nobody will ever admit to it.

Speak for Yourself
I've never done it. It's minging

LoafofSellotape · 04/12/2024 09:20

FedupMum2024 · 03/12/2024 21:31

I do this when in the car (only at night time when it is dark obviously!)

We have ALL done it but of course nobody will ever admit to it.

You speak for yourself,it's not something I ever remember doing even as a child but especially not as an adult. Grim!

MyBrownEyedHandsomeBoy · 04/12/2024 09:17

I have started working with someone who picks at the inside of their ear, then eats it - never seen this before. Massively grossed me out to the point I had to leave the room to heave and even after work when I thought about it I kept heaving

betterangels · 04/12/2024 07:48

I can't wrap my head around behaviour admitted to on this thread. Disgusting.

Esme32 · 04/12/2024 05:59

This post made me feel uneasy.

Tanfastic · 04/12/2024 05:43

Gabitule · 03/12/2024 22:55

A friend of mine eats his earwax. He is handsome, very successful, intelligent, kind, humble. A really amazing person. I can’t understand for the life of me why he does it and I am worried that other people would have noticed this and he would lose their respect :(

Imagine meeting this fine specimen and thinking you'd met the man of your dreams....you need to have a word in his ear....no pun intended.

TakeMyBreadAway · 04/12/2024 01:50

Sickening.

thrifty24 · 04/12/2024 01:16

Ugh no way is this normal. I pick my nose only when it's dry or that feeling of a bogey that needs to be removed but no way would I stick it in my mouth. If no where to put it I wipe it on the back my hand which is gross enough itself but quickly wash it off when I get to the bathroom or a piece of tissue

QueenBitch666 · 04/12/2024 01:13

Fucking gross. My fanny just clamped shut on your behalf 🤮

Thevelvelletes · 04/12/2024 01:12

intherough · 03/12/2024 21:59

I have NEVER done this.

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And neither have I
This thread actually made me feel 🤢.

glittercunt · 04/12/2024 01:11

SpeculativeHoumous · 03/12/2024 21:47

It's the sort of thing people do a couple of times as a small child then grow out of it

In my experience, most children do it a hell of a lot of the time. And I've seen so many adults do it.

Saschka · 04/12/2024 01:06

Coatsoff42 · 04/12/2024 00:06

I admire your bold adventure into your own body! I have never considered tasting my own blister fluid, very renegade.

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I don’t think most people have blisters frequently enough for this to be a thing. Or scabs for that matter - my last scab would have been in primary school.

SpeaksBeforeThinking · 04/12/2024 00:59

DTB, obviously

ThatsNotMyTeen · 04/12/2024 00:42

Lola700 · 03/12/2024 21:56

So what advice can people give? I’ve been married over 20 years and I feel like I’ve been living a lie. My son (he’s 16) who also saw the boogie eating one day told me he’s always know his dad picks his nose and eats it. He said casually ‘he’s done that since I can remember’… honestly, this may be dramatic but I’m seriously considering how the marriage can continue as I’m repulsed. This makes me cry but I’m not sure I can get past this.

I’d think it was grim and gross but I don’t think I’d react as extreme as you have - to me it tends to suggest the relationship was already on the rocks and this is the final straw.

ConstanceM · 04/12/2024 00:35

Fxuking disgusting. You stop that behaviour when you are 4. I'd leave a partner if they did that. They won't change now.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 04/12/2024 00:16

FedupMum2024 · 04/12/2024 00:01

I also-
Eat my finger and toe nail clippings.
Dead skin from around my fingers (I am a nail biter)
Scabs (always spit any hairs out though)
The crunchy yellow sleep from my eyes

I also drink the fluid from a blister (sweet and salty all at once) and sometimes eat the stuff from my blackheads.

I also like to rub my nose and chin and sniff my fingers (there is a strange but oddly satisfying cheesy smell that I get from those areas only)

Yes I am extremely gross. No I would never admit any of this in real life 😅

Absolutely disgusting. 🤢🤮

FedupMum2024 · 04/12/2024 00:11

StaunchMomma · 04/12/2024 00:05

Why tho????

Just.

WHY???!!!!

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Not sure.

I have done most of this since I was at prinary school. Although I always knew to keep it a 'secret', even as a young child, because it was 'repulsive'.

I just don't get easily grossed out by my own body. I was always very curious about how it functions. The cheesy chin finger sniffing is mostly habit now and a form of self soothing I guess? I really do believe more of us do this sort of thing than we care to admit.

As a PP pointed out, women will happily swallow a mouthful of sperm so why not your own nasal secretions?

Coatsoff42 · 04/12/2024 00:06

FedupMum2024 · 04/12/2024 00:01

I also-
Eat my finger and toe nail clippings.
Dead skin from around my fingers (I am a nail biter)
Scabs (always spit any hairs out though)
The crunchy yellow sleep from my eyes

I also drink the fluid from a blister (sweet and salty all at once) and sometimes eat the stuff from my blackheads.

I also like to rub my nose and chin and sniff my fingers (there is a strange but oddly satisfying cheesy smell that I get from those areas only)

Yes I am extremely gross. No I would never admit any of this in real life 😅

I admire your bold adventure into your own body! I have never considered tasting my own blister fluid, very renegade.

StaunchMomma · 04/12/2024 00:05

FedupMum2024 · 04/12/2024 00:01

I also-
Eat my finger and toe nail clippings.
Dead skin from around my fingers (I am a nail biter)
Scabs (always spit any hairs out though)
The crunchy yellow sleep from my eyes

I also drink the fluid from a blister (sweet and salty all at once) and sometimes eat the stuff from my blackheads.

I also like to rub my nose and chin and sniff my fingers (there is a strange but oddly satisfying cheesy smell that I get from those areas only)

Yes I am extremely gross. No I would never admit any of this in real life 😅

Why tho????

Just.

WHY???!!!!

StaunchMomma · 04/12/2024 00:03

FedupMum2024 · 03/12/2024 21:31

I do this when in the car (only at night time when it is dark obviously!)

We have ALL done it but of course nobody will ever admit to it.

We have NOT all done it!!

Just the thought of it turns my stomach.

FedupMum2024 · 04/12/2024 00:01

I also-
Eat my finger and toe nail clippings.
Dead skin from around my fingers (I am a nail biter)
Scabs (always spit any hairs out though)
The crunchy yellow sleep from my eyes

I also drink the fluid from a blister (sweet and salty all at once) and sometimes eat the stuff from my blackheads.

I also like to rub my nose and chin and sniff my fingers (there is a strange but oddly satisfying cheesy smell that I get from those areas only)

Yes I am extremely gross. No I would never admit any of this in real life 😅

Josie901 · 03/12/2024 23:43

40% voted YABU?!!

pinkdelight · 03/12/2024 23:41

Do the secret bogey guzzlers also consume their own earwax? Which bodily secretion is a step too far?

Course not cos ear wax tastes bad and bogies don't. HTH.

HereForTheAnimals · 03/12/2024 23:40

It's really not like eating your own shit as a PP commented. Your nose and throat are very much connected, and so you all swallow snot whether you like it or not. Whilst it isn't the same as actively picking your nose and eating it, the snot is pretty much going down the same way. Not a ENT specialist, or medically trained, but I'm sure it might even go in your mouth 🤣.

rainbowlou · 03/12/2024 23:38

FedupMum2024 · 03/12/2024 21:31

I do this when in the car (only at night time when it is dark obviously!)

We have ALL done it but of course nobody will ever admit to it.

I can hand on heart say I have never done this, growing up with a sibling that did it absolutely turned my stomach!