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The older we get, the more conservative we become?

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EddyF · 03/12/2024 18:28

Just wondering if people believe this. I’m in my thirties and although I have always had real socialist views and I have always voted Labour, I am struggling with some of my current viewpoints which lean more to the conservative way. I think I have lost a bit of societal empathy and seeing things as a ‘dog eat dog world; everyone out for themselves’.

There are so many issues I see locally (London) that I just think not everyone can be saved. The services are stretched; high streets are depressing and people have too many needs and often those needs are not isolated and are multiple. I feel less empathetic and more “can’t you just help yourself”. There doesn’t appear to be a safety net or one that is efficient enough, which to my surprise, has harden me a bit. Maybe it is age😆

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BIossomtoes · 05/12/2024 14:30

How are vulnerable communities being punished by stealth?

cardibach · 05/12/2024 14:20

SinisterBumFacedCat · 05/12/2024 14:14

I was a loyal Labour voter for years, then it only takes one thing to disagree on, for me it’s been their lack of support for women’s rights and spaces, and suddenly it’s like it cracked like an facade, I can see it’s all bollocks. I don’t want to vote Conservative either, neither seem to have a long term plan, the Tories fucked up housing, now labour are going to fuck up our food supply in the future. Meanwhile the social care crisis is being ignored. It’s far easier and cheaper for Labour to put up a pride flag and talk about diversity than actually implement any policies to help vulnerable communities. They’d rather punish them by stealth.

None of that makes sense. It’s clearly not ‘all bollocks’. (The Tories are actually worse on the issue you don’t like because they pretend to agree with you while doing the opposite anyway). The social care crisis isn’t being ignored. Our food supply is not being fucked up. They have lots of policies for vulnerable communities and nobody is being punished.

SinisterBumFacedCat · 05/12/2024 14:14

I was a loyal Labour voter for years, then it only takes one thing to disagree on, for me it’s been their lack of support for women’s rights and spaces, and suddenly it’s like it cracked like an facade, I can see it’s all bollocks. I don’t want to vote Conservative either, neither seem to have a long term plan, the Tories fucked up housing, now labour are going to fuck up our food supply in the future. Meanwhile the social care crisis is being ignored. It’s far easier and cheaper for Labour to put up a pride flag and talk about diversity than actually implement any policies to help vulnerable communities. They’d rather punish them by stealth.

cardibach · 05/12/2024 13:58

Sussurations · 05/12/2024 13:14

I agree it’s the right that’s pulled the Overton Window right.

However, for me one of the biggest issues with Corbyn was not that he was ‘far left’ (I agree, he wasn’t) but that he seemed to want us to go back to the 1970s. And people don’t see the 1970s as an aspirational decade!

What do you mean by ‘go back to the 1970s’? In what way?

Sussurations · 05/12/2024 13:14

cardibach · 05/12/2024 11:33

Nonsense. It’s the right that has shifted the Overton window miles over to the right. What is considered centrist now was Conservative policy not long ago. Corbyn was painted as far left when his policies would have been unremarkable in any European social democratic state.

I agree it’s the right that’s pulled the Overton Window right.

However, for me one of the biggest issues with Corbyn was not that he was ‘far left’ (I agree, he wasn’t) but that he seemed to want us to go back to the 1970s. And people don’t see the 1970s as an aspirational decade!

cardibach · 05/12/2024 11:34

1dayatatime · 05/12/2024 08:36

The quote I remember is

"If you vote right wing then you have no heart and if you vote left wing you have no brain "

As you get older you tend to think more logically rather than emotionally. Or hopefully should do!

That quote is utter nonsense though, on both counts, so maybe don’t use it as a basis for your own ideas.
But actually, using logic, austerity and right wing politics clearly don’t work. As a logical thinker you should be abandoning them. Assuming you are one.

cardibach · 05/12/2024 11:33

jeaux90 · 05/12/2024 08:27

I don't think this is a left or right thing anymore. Fiscal policy aside I mean.

The left in the UK have tried to shift the Overton window, which has left many of us traditionalist left women in the same position (class analysis) whilst the LP and Lib Dems have moved towards identity politics.

So have we become more conservative? Or have the left moved the goalposts?

Nonsense. It’s the right that has shifted the Overton window miles over to the right. What is considered centrist now was Conservative policy not long ago. Corbyn was painted as far left when his policies would have been unremarkable in any European social democratic state.

cardibach · 05/12/2024 11:31

TempestTost · 05/12/2024 00:58

I don't think it's mainly that people become cynical, although that is true of some.

It's that they see that while you can tweak people's behaviours, you can't change the basic drives and physical elements that drive human nature, both good and bad. People as a whole will always want to protect their kids, they want material goods, they want affection or sexual attention. There will always be some people who have poor impulse control, or are selfish, too.

And related to that, when you decide as a society to change the way you manage behaviour, there are almost always trade offs.

What this means is that for almost any policy direction you have to weigh a sometimes complex set of pros and cons in terms of long term effects on how people think and act, as well as effects that can reach far into other areas of social behaviour.

I think the best way to protect my (now adult) kid is to have a functioning society as laid out by left wing ideas. I don’t want endless material goods. The emotional stuff isn’t the job of the government.
I’m in no way unusual in holding the above opinions. You haven’t made a case for people going right as they get older at all.

BIossomtoes · 05/12/2024 10:48

TempestTost · 05/12/2024 01:11

I am not so sure of this, younger people now are polling more conservative than older ones in a lot of places.

The voting demographic in July doesn’t support that.

1dayatatime · 05/12/2024 08:36

The quote I remember is

"If you vote right wing then you have no heart and if you vote left wing you have no brain "

As you get older you tend to think more logically rather than emotionally. Or hopefully should do!

Helleofabore · 05/12/2024 08:32

jeaux90 · 05/12/2024 08:27

I don't think this is a left or right thing anymore. Fiscal policy aside I mean.

The left in the UK have tried to shift the Overton window, which has left many of us traditionalist left women in the same position (class analysis) whilst the LP and Lib Dems have moved towards identity politics.

So have we become more conservative? Or have the left moved the goalposts?

I think that the left have certainly changed.

jeaux90 · 05/12/2024 08:27

I don't think this is a left or right thing anymore. Fiscal policy aside I mean.

The left in the UK have tried to shift the Overton window, which has left many of us traditionalist left women in the same position (class analysis) whilst the LP and Lib Dems have moved towards identity politics.

So have we become more conservative? Or have the left moved the goalposts?

38thparallel · 05/12/2024 08:17

@Oriunda are you concerned about the rise of the right in France?

Oriunda · 05/12/2024 03:05

Nope. I’ve moved further left and am totally anti-monarchy. It’s helped that I now live in France and they’re doing just fine as a republic.

TofuTart · 05/12/2024 02:58

I'm the opposite. Definitely more left as I've got older!

TempestTost · 05/12/2024 02:57

ScorpioRising83 · 05/12/2024 02:01

I think age makes people more socially conservative but becoming more economically right wing is often a matter of socioeconomic status.

Those elements certainly don't seem to be particularly linked.

But it's interesting to me the number of people saying that older people become economically right in order to protect their own assets. When we see a lot of older middle class people with money are remaining on the left while wc people tend to stay on the right.

ScorpioRising83 · 05/12/2024 02:01

I think age makes people more socially conservative but becoming more economically right wing is often a matter of socioeconomic status.

TempestTost · 05/12/2024 01:16

Echobelly · 04/12/2024 10:46

My mum always said this to me, and while I think it used to be true, for the middle classes at least, it no longer is as strong.

Husband and I are the classic sort of people who ought to have got more right wing as we got older - decent earning, home owning. We're supposed to have gone 'Well, we've done all right for ourselves under this system so we need to keep this going so that our children will get the same and continue to do at least as well or better than us'

But the fact is, more of us are recognising a) we've done OK despite the system, because we have been lucky and were born into families with property that enabled us to buy ourselves b) our capital is getting eaten up faster and faster and it's hard to see how our children will ever own property and they are far more likely to end up poorer than us than richer than us, with declining lifestyle quality overall c) the middle class are getting less and less empowered and politically sidelined as we move towards oligarchy d) the earth is burning, no one's doing anything about it and our kids are headed for a very uncertain future.

The 'getting more rightwing' thing relies on seeing a stable or better future for your kids/the world under the existing system. And after decades of relative peace and prosperity, everything's frankly heading down the shitter and we don't have that security anymore.

The left and right have changed a lot of their policy directions and also demographic of their voters though.

The Tories used to be considered the part of the elite, with Labour being the workers.

The center of balance is now quite different for Labour, they are the party of the professional middle classes and what at one time might have been called the bourgeoisie. So maybe it is not surprising that the middle classes with assets would tend to remain attached to Labour.

TempestTost · 05/12/2024 01:11

BIossomtoes · 04/12/2024 08:35

Not any more. The average age at which people are turning right is rising. It’s 70 now.

I am not so sure of this, younger people now are polling more conservative than older ones in a lot of places.

TempestTost · 05/12/2024 01:09

Annabella92 · 04/12/2024 09:56

Yes, I agree a black female leader can be right wing! But, my comment was more from the perspective of those who see Labour as the party for progressives, when it comes to diversity tick boxes the Tories are miles ahead.

I know many who dearly hope for an African Pope. I know one can be black and conservative.

I think there isn't a very settled understanding of what 'right wing' or left, even mean anymore, I'd agree with people having a funny idea as a result.

The real irony is a 'Conservative' party that conserves nothing. They're all free market liberals, though some might delude themselves that this is somehow compatible with social conservatism.

Edited

I think one of the things that has become confusing is that the right and left have both to some extent been taken over by liberals. This has been the case for decades.

On the right, it's mainly these free market people, which was nothing to do with transitional conservatism. People forget how Thatcher was hated by traditionalists. There's more tendency for the right to remain socially conservative, but it's pretty uneven.

The left has retained some elements of state socialism, but has abandoned a lot of traditional left wing economic thinking and policy ideas (the embrace of free trade is a good example, and more recently being very pro big pharma etc.) But they are also chasing liberalism on social policy now, not leftism.

The right liberals IMO are not skeptical enough of the "market" while the left liberals are not skeptical enough of the state. With the state and the market increasingly becoming entertwined.

in addition, I think that in most western countries, governments have barely any room to budge on economic policy It's all been stitched up by global forces, big banks, international business. None of them are really free to do anything seriously differernt, whatever their ideology, they can't opt out of the global marketplace.

TempestTost · 05/12/2024 00:58

gannett · 04/12/2024 08:30

I don't think this view of the world is "savvy" so much as resigned and jaded. The short version is that you think the world is inherently unfair and people inherently selfish so you've given up (unless you're going to tell me your grand plan to enact the "same goals" you had when you were younger, that today's young people wouldn't understand?).

For example you seem to be writing off behaviour change as unlikely - despite the fact that human behaviour has probably altered beyond recognition within your own lifetime, let alone beyond.

I've actually found that when I was young, I thought the forces and structures governing the world were way more complex than they actually are. Intimidatingly so. I love to see young people with the confidence and principles to call out "the grown-ups know best" bullshit for what it is.

I don't think it's mainly that people become cynical, although that is true of some.

It's that they see that while you can tweak people's behaviours, you can't change the basic drives and physical elements that drive human nature, both good and bad. People as a whole will always want to protect their kids, they want material goods, they want affection or sexual attention. There will always be some people who have poor impulse control, or are selfish, too.

And related to that, when you decide as a society to change the way you manage behaviour, there are almost always trade offs.

What this means is that for almost any policy direction you have to weigh a sometimes complex set of pros and cons in terms of long term effects on how people think and act, as well as effects that can reach far into other areas of social behaviour.

BIossomtoes · 05/12/2024 00:05

MrBungle · 04/12/2024 23:18

Being difficult because I said it happens to all of us when I clearly meant most.

and 57% is a huge majority for any government in recent memory.

it’s coming to you…..

It isn’t. I’m 71 and far too old to change.

57% of over 65s voted for right wing parties. 34% of 50-64s, and 25% of 24-49s. No government in my lifetime has ever had a 57% majority.

MrBungle · 04/12/2024 23:18

BIossomtoes · 04/12/2024 22:40

Why is it being difficult to disagree with you? And on what do you deduce “most”? Just 40% of over 65s voted Tory in July and 17% Reform - 57% isn’t most.

Being difficult because I said it happens to all of us when I clearly meant most.

and 57% is a huge majority for any government in recent memory.

it’s coming to you…..

BIossomtoes · 04/12/2024 22:40

MrBungle · 04/12/2024 22:36

Don’t be difficult. It comes to most people or did you think center right voters grew under toadstools?

most. Not all. But absolutely most.

Why is it being difficult to disagree with you? And on what do you deduce “most”? Just 40% of over 65s voted Tory in July and 17% Reform - 57% isn’t most.

MrBungle · 04/12/2024 22:36

BIossomtoes · 04/12/2024 22:27

Hasn’t come to me. I’d rather eat my own liver than vote for Badenoch.

Don’t be difficult. It comes to most people or did you think center right voters grew under toadstools?

most. Not all. But absolutely most.