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To ask how ‘rough’ is this rough area?

194 replies

Jumell · 03/12/2024 13:49

Strangers in your block of flats asking you to lend them money ‘til their dole money comes through then stropping off offended when refused

being bitten by Rottweiler outside flats

heroin addict dead in flats - body lay undiscovered for 2 weeks - admittedly happened, but admittedly NOT during time I lived here

kids graffitiing stairwells with pens

my windscreen wipers snapped off in flat car park

woman I suspect is prostitute due to comings and goings - but not 100% sure and u may have got it wrong

loud arguments between neighbours about noise

a few serious ex offenders housed

  • however - it’s otherwise alright ! 👍😀
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Zee1993 · 03/12/2024 14:55

Zee1993 · 03/12/2024 14:49

Haven’t read the entire thread but I’m assuming you live in a council block of flats? If so, me too. Although I’m not dealing with quite the level of what you are, for example the asking for money is out of order. Anything outside of that, noise, drug use, parties etc you need thick skin and jump down their throats quickly. My downstairs neighbour now knows not to have 3 day long benders with his twatty mates as I cause an absolute scene. Don’t be embarrassed to cause a scene, promise they scuttle back and respect boundaries after that. Failing that, police and council with everything recorded.

On top of this, kids will graffiti. Pick your battles. Phone rspca for the dogs. Phone the police for your wipers. Get a backbone and stop accepting this.

DyslexicPoster · 03/12/2024 14:55

Sounds shitty if I'm honest. I don't think it says anything about area, just the flats you live in. I come from a very deprived town. I'd see all that and more in my town. But the town was poor. So shitty behaviours at school. Shitty patenting. Shitty people. I feel perfectly safe there when I go home as to me, its very normal ( or was, I can slip back into that mode).

But honestly it's grim to think to that could ever be OK or good or aspirational or normal. I live in one the most desirable areas in England now. It's like two different countries 80 miles apart. There's no hard man dog breeds here, no open drug use and dealing on streets, no parents pushing prams swigging from cans of Stella before midday. I'm so glad my kids don't have to grow up where I did. It's done me no harm but my parents weren't the druggies drinking during the day due to abject poverty with a pit bull.

PTSDBarbiegirl · 03/12/2024 14:53

Location, location, location.

ComtesseDeSpair · 03/12/2024 14:51

Maurepas · 03/12/2024 14:46

Margate is supposed to have been on the up for several years though?!

Margate seafront and town centre has gentrified, lots of Londoners who’ve brought London money in; but there’s still quite a lot of deprivation once you walk a few minutes further back. It’s not surprising: there’s not a lot in the way of decent employment opportunity in the area, and trains to London are extortionate even by South East standards. I like it to visit, but I think there’s a certain kind of hopelessness and lostness among many people there which you don’t get even in deprived parts of London.

Cuttysark4321 · 03/12/2024 14:51

where Is it?

mrlistersgelfbride · 03/12/2024 14:50

I'm from a traditionally rough area and this sounds pretty bad to me.

Icantdothus124 · 03/12/2024 14:50

Deathraystare · 03/12/2024 14:49

You mean there is no Waitrose???? (faints).

My closest Waitrose is 28 miles away, but we have 2 Aldi's 😂

Boing98 · 03/12/2024 14:50

Years ago, when I worked in social housing, we were given health and safety training on how to walk down stairs without using the handrails, as used needles were often taped underneath them on certain properties.

Nerdles · 03/12/2024 14:50

HollyKnight · 03/12/2024 14:47

People still call it "the dole"?

No they don't. It hasn't been called this for many years which is why I think the OP is talking a load of made up rubbish

PonyPatter44 · 03/12/2024 14:50

HPandthelastwish · 03/12/2024 14:48

Obviously the local Morrisons is shut so she's only left with Greggs, probably malnourished

Morrisons?? How posh are you? It's Co-op all the way in Margate, surely. And not the smart grey co-ops, either, the smelly blue ones.

Zee1993 · 03/12/2024 14:49

Haven’t read the entire thread but I’m assuming you live in a council block of flats? If so, me too. Although I’m not dealing with quite the level of what you are, for example the asking for money is out of order. Anything outside of that, noise, drug use, parties etc you need thick skin and jump down their throats quickly. My downstairs neighbour now knows not to have 3 day long benders with his twatty mates as I cause an absolute scene. Don’t be embarrassed to cause a scene, promise they scuttle back and respect boundaries after that. Failing that, police and council with everything recorded.

LightHorse · 03/12/2024 14:49

It sounds rough. When you walk to the local shop though, is there so much broken class underfoot that it crunches as you walk? And is there razor wire all around the top of the shops and boarded windows, and are there banned dog breeds on chains all over the place? If not, then it could be rougher! (If that is any good to you)

Deathraystare · 03/12/2024 14:49

You mean there is no Waitrose???? (faints).

Keepingittogetherstepbystep · 03/12/2024 14:48

Not a new problem. In 2008 ish I lived in a flat on a council estate, the properties were being rewired the tools kept getting nicked. Car got massive scratch on roof as I parked in the wrong place. Next door upstairs used to play music full blast with all the windows open at 3am. Drivers used to do doughnut turns on the junction, frequent drug raids directly opposite, fireworks in dustbins. People hiding from the police outside the kitchen window. Neighbour upstairs had laminate floor and animals. He'd go out and leave them with balls to play with. I lasted 18 months before I escaped not sure how I lasted that long really.

HPandthelastwish · 03/12/2024 14:48

ObtuseMoose · 03/12/2024 14:41

OP is a lack of proper food making you feel strange? Your threads are...odd.

Obviously the local Morrisons is shut so she's only left with Greggs, probably malnourished

HollyKnight · 03/12/2024 14:47

People still call it "the dole"?

Maurepas · 03/12/2024 14:46

Jumell · 03/12/2024 14:36

Ha no Margate

Margate is supposed to have been on the up for several years though?!

BarbadosItsCloserThanYouThink · 03/12/2024 14:45

Sounds like the Jasmine Allen from The Bill!! Very rough.

ObtuseMoose · 03/12/2024 14:41

OP is a lack of proper food making you feel strange? Your threads are...odd.

CautiousLurker1 · 03/12/2024 14:41

I think you know the answer, OP. Not sure what you’re really hoping to get here other than encouraging PPs to join you in mocking the poor and then get attacked for doing so?

Irridescantshimmmer · 03/12/2024 14:40

BeatriceAndLottie · 03/12/2024 13:52

Considering nobody is psychic and you don’t reveal where the area actually is then this is an absolutely bizarre and pointless post.

For the OP's privacy and data protection, they should not reveal the exact area they are discussing here in a public forum as no one in the right mind should divulge sensitive info.

Wether you want them to or not, so your request for them to do so is more than unreasonable, its down right irresponsible.

peachesarenom · 03/12/2024 14:40

I thought Margate was posh now and artistic but too expensive for the artists so they live close by!!! Is the TV lying to me?????

Icantdothus124 · 03/12/2024 14:37

Jumell · 03/12/2024 14:35

Blimey that’s a lot for a young kid to deal with

just the tip of the iceberg

Jumell · 03/12/2024 14:36

Icantdothus124 · 03/12/2024 14:34

Jay wick?

Ha no Margate

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Jumell · 03/12/2024 14:35

Icantdothus124 · 03/12/2024 14:31

I grew up in a place like that, someone's ear was chopped off with a machete and thrown into my back garden as a kid. We woke up with who the daddy spray painted on our front door 😂 it was nothing to do with us, the guy went on a rampage over the paternity of his gf's baby and did the whole street. Our house was raided when I was about 6 because my step dad was a drug dealer, one minute I'm sat on the sofa watching get your own back, the next I'm sat on the stairs with a police woman saying "my dad says I hate the police"

thankfully I've managed to make a better like for my children but my mum still lives there and nothing ever changes, there are good people in these places but it's not a good place to live or be brought up.

Blimey that’s a lot for a young kid to deal with

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