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To ask how ‘rough’ is this rough area?

194 replies

Jumell · 03/12/2024 13:49

Strangers in your block of flats asking you to lend them money ‘til their dole money comes through then stropping off offended when refused

being bitten by Rottweiler outside flats

heroin addict dead in flats - body lay undiscovered for 2 weeks - admittedly happened, but admittedly NOT during time I lived here

kids graffitiing stairwells with pens

my windscreen wipers snapped off in flat car park

woman I suspect is prostitute due to comings and goings - but not 100% sure and u may have got it wrong

loud arguments between neighbours about noise

a few serious ex offenders housed

  • however - it’s otherwise alright ! 👍😀
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Jumell · 03/12/2024 15:23

LightHorse · 03/12/2024 14:49

It sounds rough. When you walk to the local shop though, is there so much broken class underfoot that it crunches as you walk? And is there razor wire all around the top of the shops and boarded windows, and are there banned dog breeds on chains all over the place? If not, then it could be rougher! (If that is any good to you)

No - to be fair it’s not that bad !

shops seem quite ‘straightforward’

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Gettingmadderallthetime · 03/12/2024 15:23

So ... You can definitely have windscreen wiper damage anywhere. Or kids writing on walls with pens. You don't Really know whether it's a prostitute who lived near you. The death was before your time (how long ago?)

Dog bite, loud arguments and someone trying to cadge money are things you have personally suffered and which sound 'dodgy area' to me. Along with criminals living nearby and police using battering rams on a regular basis this edges into rough. TBF this could be a couple of bad families.

Burned out motorcycle dumped, parked up cars with couples having sex, lots of police activity involving helicopters, stealing wreaths from war memorial, fly tipping including of cannabis farming debris sounds rough, but all actually happened at upmarket village property.

Scirocco · 03/12/2024 15:22

What's on fire? If there's not at least one sofa burning in the street, it's fine.

Seriously, though, that sounds grim. Move if you can.

Jumell · 03/12/2024 15:21

GoldsolesLugs · 03/12/2024 15:19

Sounds grotty - is it full of feckless people with four children who are expecting a 5th?

Haha - NO!!!!

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GoldsolesLugs · 03/12/2024 15:19

Sounds grotty - is it full of feckless people with four children who are expecting a 5th?

BadPeopleFan · 03/12/2024 15:18

I live in a supposedly very deprived town. I can see trees and a river outside my front door and the hills from the back bedroom window.
We do have anti social behaviour in the town centre but it's mostly groups of teenagers and the odd 'well known' drug dealer.
If I lived somewhere like OP describes I would have to move, even if it meant working two jobs I would have to go!

ChristmasFox · 03/12/2024 15:17

BeatriceAndLottie · 03/12/2024 13:52

Considering nobody is psychic and you don’t reveal where the area actually is then this is an absolutely bizarre and pointless post.

She described the area and the reasons why if you have another read.

ChristmasFox · 03/12/2024 15:17

Nolegusta · 03/12/2024 13:50

Why do you ask?

Because it’s a public forum where people chat, ask questions and opinions, seek advice, have a laugh, commiserate, celebrate and discuss.

Jumell · 03/12/2024 15:14

Fink · 03/12/2024 15:08

I work in a 'rough' London borough and live in one that's very slightly nicer. What you've described doesn't sound lovely, but it also doesn't sound the worst. If you feel safe in your own home once you lock your door, if you can turn down the requests for loans without feeling threatened, and if you're not regularly woken up by police raids, then I'd say you could be much worse off!

True - I’ve never known a nightly police raid - to be fair

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oakleaffy · 03/12/2024 15:14

Nerdles · 03/12/2024 14:50

No they don't. It hasn't been called this for many years which is why I think the OP is talking a load of made up rubbish

What is it if it’s not the dole??

Pip ? Edit: I only hear of these two benefits- no other name.

ElaborateCushion · 03/12/2024 15:14

In all honesty, it sounds just like the council estates near where I grew up in the 90s. Not the estates of houses, but the old high rise blocks of flats.

A relative of mine is in a flat in social housing in the same area and it's a beautiful flat in a nice area. It's on one of the new developments of houses that they had to build a certain % of social housing. I'm sure it has problems and many of the properties are certainly overcrowded, but I've not heard such horror stories. She's very happy there, albeit a little cramped.

The old blocks have all been knocked down and replaced with better quality housing, but the reputation of the location has remained and similar issues to what OP had described are still present even though the blocks are now smaller and nicer to look at.

Zee1993 · 03/12/2024 15:14

Jumell · 03/12/2024 15:13

To be fair - my neighbours who used to live next door were very nice/respectable

when they moved in they wanted me to boil a kettle for them - which I did - they were always very decent and straight forward and the woman said - “we just both want to get jobs so we can move out of here” - which in time they duly did ..

Stop judging and deal with the immediate problems you say you have. Unless you’re looking for attention with this post.

Jumell · 03/12/2024 15:13

oakleaffy · 03/12/2024 15:09

🤣 And a bit of foil, missus?

To be fair - my neighbours who used to live next door were very nice/respectable

when they moved in they wanted me to boil a kettle for them - which I did - they were always very decent and straight forward and the woman said - “we just both want to get jobs so we can move out of here” - which in time they duly did ..

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HollyKnight · 03/12/2024 15:12

Nerdles · 03/12/2024 14:50

No they don't. It hasn't been called this for many years which is why I think the OP is talking a load of made up rubbish

Indeed. It was the dole in my mother's generation. Back when you had to take your giro to the post office to cash in.

drspouse · 03/12/2024 15:12

It kind of depends on a few other things.

I lived in an East End borough for a few years and all of these things will have happened within two streets of where I lived - but because of the incredibly mixed nature of London boroughs, there were also 1/2 million pound homes (20 years ago, so 1.7m now). There were a couple of walkways you'd NEVER go down after dark, but also very well equipped schools, craft markets, independent coffee shops and gorgeous restaurants coming out of your ears, lots of "family bikes" (though also lots of potential for them getting nicked!).

Jumell · 03/12/2024 15:10

allthatfalafel · 03/12/2024 14:25

I'd give it 8/10 given no mention of police raids or stabbings.

There was a fatal stabbing outside of a 17 year old - but just for the sake of completeness - didn’t happen in my time here

also I often drove to work and saw around 5/6 police officers trying to force entry into the main flat doors as I was starting my car

at least I don’t need to watch The Bill on TV

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oakleaffy · 03/12/2024 15:09

TheBunyip · 03/12/2024 14:27

would your neighbours lend you a cup of sugar or a bag of brown if asked?

🤣 And a bit of foil, missus?

Fink · 03/12/2024 15:08

I work in a 'rough' London borough and live in one that's very slightly nicer. What you've described doesn't sound lovely, but it also doesn't sound the worst. If you feel safe in your own home once you lock your door, if you can turn down the requests for loans without feeling threatened, and if you're not regularly woken up by police raids, then I'd say you could be much worse off!

NC2025NC · 03/12/2024 15:05

I'm from a "rough" area and the worst we have is ASB from kids
No needles, drugs, dog bites etc

Gaz98 · 03/12/2024 15:04

Cattery · 03/12/2024 15:03

It’s made where I live in SE London look like Kensington.

Lol do you live in Catford ?

Cattery · 03/12/2024 15:03

It’s made where I live in SE London look like Kensington.

Gaz98 · 03/12/2024 15:02

It sounds rough but what matters is how you feel.

If you feel safe can relax once indoors then it’s fine.

I lived in a block where there was drug dealing outside, fighting on the street and a prostitute next door and it was hell for me. I never felt relaxed there. Thank god I was able to move out after 6 months.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 03/12/2024 15:02

I didn't know Margate had got as bad as that OP, but yes it (or at least this bit of it) sounds dreadful and if possible I'd be off

Not all lower income areas are as bad though. My son lives in one (disabled needing easy access to town, and inner city areas are rarely that good) but the community is amazing with everyone looking out for everyone else.
Yes there are a few you'd avoid down a dark lane, but most have hearts of gold and I've never seen an XL bully or even much of the police

GettingStuffed · 03/12/2024 15:00

I haven't heard the phrase on the dole for at least 15 years. It's usually on benefits

coxesorangepippin · 03/12/2024 14:59

It was right next to a waitrose and had lots of green spaces and nice friendly neighbours.

^

No waitrose in op's area, not even a Booths

Op - Blackpool??