Little one is flower girl for someone else's wedding. Expensive!!

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Crosswind22 · 03/12/2024 10:29

So, the dress was bought for me - it was cheap I know but really I don't mind as she will only wear it one day but I did mind that this is a winter occasion and the dress is summer. Anyway, I've had to buy her shoes, tights, a warm cardigan /coat, and now to top it off, I have to do her own hair on the day and buy a headpiece/Clip. Something I thought would be made with matching flowers or even matching material from bridesmaid's dresses.. To be fair, they didn't want her wearing tights or a cover up but sorry, this is a January wedding with photos being taken outside so maybe that's why I'm expected to buy it all? Sorry but everyone I speak to is talking about the faux fur they bought why should my 2-year-old freeze just to look in their eyes, cute?

Am I being unreasonable?

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bakewellbride · 03/12/2024 10:42

All the people saying oh she'll be so excited she's 2 not 5, she won't have a clue what a flower girl is or what's going on! Too young to understand unless nearly 3.

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Crosswind22 · 03/12/2024 10:42

Yes I know can be done cheaply I have thrifted what I could and honestly, her things aren't that expensive! I just thought as part of the bridal party, I wouldn't need to worry about it! And no she's two so I don't tend to buy ivory tights, shoes or cardigans because they don't stay clean so not something I just have! Anyway I just wondered if I was being a hormonal pregnant lady or if I had a leg to stand on! Clearly the former!

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BarbaraHoward · 03/12/2024 10:40

None of that sounds crazy to me - I certainly didn't ask my bridesmaids if they needed me to buy them tights. They probably should buy the hair piece and maybe the shoes but YABU over the tights and coat since they're your choice.

user2848502016 · 03/12/2024 10:38

I think you're being a bit unreasonable, it's lovely that she's been asked to be a flower girl and she'll be so excited.
I agree they should have at least bought the shoes and thought about tights and a cardigan for January but if they haven't specified anything you didn't need to spend a fortune. How hard is it to do a child's hair too, my flower girls just wore theirs down with a hairband

Ggmores · 03/12/2024 10:38

Are tights really that expensive? You can get tights, occasion shoes, and a coat off second hand sites (usually worn once), and then sell them back again. Also, she’s 2yrs old, what could you be doing to her hair that’s going to cost anything apart from a clip? There are so many ways to make this cheap, if not free. Get on to your local buying and selling groups as they often give the stuff away. It sounds like you aren’t very keen on these people.

bakewellbride · 03/12/2024 10:38

Yanbu I had 2 flower girls at my wedding and I paid for everything. Thats how it should be.

TeenGreenBottles · 03/12/2024 10:36

Just do her hair with whatever she has already, again if they want something specific they should get it. Otherwise just use normal clips or hair ties or just have it down.

TeenGreenBottles · 03/12/2024 10:35

Surely she has shoes, tights, cardigan and coat already? If they don't want to buy them they can't dictate specific ones so I wouldn't have got anything new. So you are being unreasonable to have decided to get all new stuff, and also to moan about the dress not being expensive enough.

MissMoneyFairy · 03/12/2024 10:33

She can wear all those things again, how exciting for her to be a flower girl.

Youthinkyoureuniqueyourejustastatistic · 03/12/2024 10:33

I think maybe a bit unreasonable to buy the extras especially as you wanted them, but they are definitely being unreasonable expecting anyone to be outside in January for any length of time without something warm to wear.
Especially with how long photos can take.

I guess she could have just worn a coat and taken it off for the pics she’s in.

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