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At which age were you the ‘Real you’ the most?

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Thenversusnow · 02/12/2024 22:38

I was reading an interview with one of my favourite authors, she often writes about the teenage years and the intensity of female friendships at that age. She said she enjoys writing about this, because of all the stages she’s been through…child, teen, young career woman, mother and so on…she still feels that those teens years and the person she was then is the closest to the real her. I feel the same about myself.
Hope this makes sense

At what age/stage in your life were you the realest you?

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AdventuresOfCat · 02/12/2024 23:07

From early 30s onwards. I got rid of a few people out of my life and then felt I could just be myself in every part of my life. Definitely not my younger teenage years, everything was so false.

changedusernameforthis1 · 02/12/2024 23:07

I think now, in my 30s.
I wasn't brave enough as a kid to be anything other than whatever people expected me to be. In my teens I was too busy showing my Mum how much I wasn't like her that I didn't have time to really find myself.
In my 20s I had my PFB and struggling with keeping exDH happy in the hopes that he wouldn't run off with someone else again.
I'm now happily content. Remarried, 3 kids, lovely home that I take pride in and working on a new career move for next year that I put off for years due to depression/anxiety/lack of support.

LozzaChops101 · 02/12/2024 23:05

19-23 when I was 400 miles away from home at uni.

cherish123 · 02/12/2024 23:04

17 or mid-40s

eurochick · 02/12/2024 23:02

Maybe 25-35?

I was out of education so not reliant on living at home and not yet a parent so had no one relying on me. I could just "be". I enjoyed the freedom.

WaylandNewt · 02/12/2024 23:02

the last year or so, but colleagues are not keen when you showcase what they moan about vs what they do, many times i got moaned at for holding up the team in one way or another, soon as i highlight the same ones moaning at me for it then its a whole different story,

many times people wanted the real me rather than the yes me, well they had the real me and yea, overall i still got on with everyone but it was puzzling at times

Sonolanona · 02/12/2024 22:59

13 and 57 Grin
13... falling in love for the first time, having friends and quite a lot of independence (as we did back then!) the 1980s beckoning with the best music... that was the real me emerging.

And now, when I'm menopausal, can't be doing with anyone's crap, happy in my own rapidly wrinklign skin, knowing that what matters most is my family. Happy to give myself permission to sack off social events that I don't want to attend, having my own hobbies, interests... yeah now!

Sadtosaythis · 02/12/2024 22:54

Right now, mid 40’s. I am going to move ahead with confidence because I know I’m honestly me. No point in trying to be someone I am not. I
know what makes me happy and what doesn’t. I feel like I understand the world so much better now.

Circumferences · 02/12/2024 22:53

Probably mostly more myself now but I'm still not 100% there

MrsPositivity1 · 02/12/2024 22:49

Now - late 50's

Rocksaltrita · 02/12/2024 22:48

Now! Put up with too much shit in the past. Don’t care anymore. Perimenopausal most likely. It’s most liberating 🙂

TokyoSushi · 02/12/2024 22:47

Now I think at 44.

EdnaTheWitch · 02/12/2024 22:45

40s

Leavesandacorns · 02/12/2024 22:42

I'm not sure. Either 19 and carefree or right now as the mum to young children, both feel very much like the 'real' me but my circumstances were very different.

XmasTopic · 02/12/2024 22:39

Next year

FuckItItsFine · 02/12/2024 22:39

Now! More experience, more wisdom. Past me seems like an idiot in so many ways.

SuperfluousHen · 02/12/2024 22:39

Today. Age 65.

Kosenrufugirl · 02/12/2024 22:39

Now, age 50

Bubblebuttress · 02/12/2024 22:38

20s