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People announcing their good deeds?

132 replies

yswning · 02/12/2024 11:53

I’m part of the community Facebook group that as we all know gets weird and wonderful things posted. Someone just posted about how someone couldn’t pay for their bus fare as their card wasn’t working and so they jumped up and tapped their card to pay for them and they wanted to know if they got home ok (no mention of the person being vulnerable just that their card didn’t work).

And whilst that’s a lovely act, it just smacked me as a “I did a good deed and I need recognition”

I’ve seen someone else I know posting a photo from their car of a car accident with the emergency team. And how they’d seen the crash and they’d assisted the person. Again good deed but weird you had the thought of then photograph it as proof it happened..

I always try and do good deeds, I don’t need to document any of them and tell as many people as I can. Aibu?

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muddyford · 02/12/2024 12:44

It's like the people who announce they aren't sending Christmas cards but making a donation to charity.

Pomegranatecarnage · 02/12/2024 12:43

It’s awful. Virtue-signalling!

Catza · 02/12/2024 12:42

Ridiculous. Of course the person got home OK. They boarded the bus and the bus took them where they needed to go....

Atishooo · 02/12/2024 12:06

This happens all the time on my local fb group.

’I helped someone when they fell off their bike earlier, hope they’re ok’.

’I hope the person whose driving license I found got it back ok’

’Jus thinking about the person who’s shopping I helped paid for, hope they’re ok’.

In other words, look at me!! Look how great and helpful I am!!

CesarSoubreyon · 02/12/2024 12:01

I hate this kind of thing. It's just attention seeking.

An acquaintance of mine took a photo of her son giving his pocket money to a homeless man and posted it online. Lots of comments about what a lovely son she was raising, but I just felt sorry for the poor man who probably didn't want his picture all over social media.

Marsaala · 02/12/2024 11:58

The "be kind" brigade. Same people that may serve you in a shop and say "have a nice afternoon" at 5pm at night.

Same people that will barge in to you as them and their friend take up the whole pavement as they walk towards you.

It's all a game.

KimberleyClark · 02/12/2024 11:56

YANBU. Virtue signalling.

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