To hate when people repeatedly tell the same stories?

'To hate' what?
The person? The story? The process?

The code word is a great idea. I catch myself doing this sometimes. I agree it's vexing when people repeat themselves, so it's extra embarrassing when I do it myself 😩

I’ve noticed I do this sometimes without meaning to. Usually because I’ve forgotten who I said it to before.

I do talk to a lot of different groups of people, though. I don’t work with the same people day after day due to the nature of my job. More often than not, it’s DP, my best friend or my boss that I tell a thing more than once.

I don’t know if it’s anything to do with any of these things, but I do have ADHD that I’m medicated for and I’m likely peri-menopausal too. My brain is always going 70mph.

She was told that by her manager in the workplace? What kind of weird place do you work in?

Given you have an unprofessional manager, she might be finding the workplace quite miserable. Not surprising she remembers it.

I am usually just tolerant of people who repeat themselves, it's common. I'm annoying in other ways!

My son attends speech therapy and this has come up in conversation with the therapist and she tells me it’s a speech and language issue when people do this. So not being able to see when people are bored with the conversation, not being able to recognise that you’ve overloaded someone with too much pointless information and not sticking to factual important bits of a conversation and waffling on is a speech and language communication issue.

but a lot of people have this issue. If my sister has been to an appointment and I ask how she’s got on so will start with

”Well I looked at the time and thought it will take me 30 mins to get there so I didn’t want to be late so I set off 50 mins to give me time. When I got there I couldn’t find a parking space etc etc, when I got to the door I rang the bell and she came out to me and said hi and we went inside etc etc

as she’s my sister, I just interrupt her and tell her I don’t need to know all that waffle and I just need to know the outcome 🤣

but obviously I just silently grit my teeth if someone does this outside of the family

Along with the hand signal and those words, I would actually die of embarrassment. Perhaps I'm sensitive though.

This is what I do now as I’m becoming even less patient in my old age! I also tell people just to tell me if I’m repeating myself.

But it is really difficult if it’s a colleague - it would drive me demented! Sympathy

Surely everyone does this when you have known them for a while? Think of it as Greatest Hits radio. Or just say "I think you have told me this several times before." It's just what people do, we are programmed to tell stories.

Maybe she is as traumatized as you are about hearing that, and just needs to process it!

Yes my mum has the same few favourite stories she will rotate. Told in dramatic fashion even though I've heard them probably more than 20 times.

My dad does this - mainly with jokes/funny stories, and Honestly I think the only reason my parents are still married is that my mom has the memory of a goldfish and laughs along every time 🤣

Why is the manager telling your colleague how many married men she's slept with. That's very weird.

In my head, I nicknamed her "Sky News", as all her stories are just rolling on an on.

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Very funny 😂

Gods yes. There's a neighbour I avoid because she says the same thing every time I see her. I don't need to be told you lived in such-and-such a country on repeat. I suspect she has dementia, but that doesn't make these extremely tedious conversations any more bearable.

My dad was like this, and he was diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder.

My mother in law also does this... she absolutely loves to make everything about her, and she repeats the same stories over and over again. I've heard my husband's birth story about 15 times, for example.

Exactly! A dear friend of mine often tells me the same stories, and I don’t mind listening because he enjoys telling them and he is very entertaining. Sometimes he says “oh I’ve told you this before haven’t I?” And I just say yes, but I love this story! It’s nice to let people feel heard.

This is so true, but you can also say it in a nice way. Something like "oh yeah I think I remember this... Was that when x happened?" (even if you remember it very well).

“I’ll stop you there Jill, I’ve heard this one before” accompanied by a slightly raised hand to signal her to stop. (Obviously her name isn’t Jill but you get the point). It can be done in a light hearted way.

This is hilarious. It’s perfectly possible to participate in a conversation without telling people more than once about the time you went out with your skirt tucked into your knickers.

My DF does this all the time. Drives me and my DM nuts. You have my sympathies.

Rather than being annoyed I personally would wonder about MC !It's one thing to repeat and realise and very different to repeat and not remember.

Ha, fair enough. I should have added to my post that I was replying to general comments about family members who repeat.

A colleague is different and yours does sound very trying

Yep I have a colleague at work like this, she does it all the time! Can tell you the same thing 3-4 times in the same 10 minute conversation! DRIVES ME INSANE!!