Pissed off DH dismisses my name ideas

If you do, think of the teachers etc. that will have several Ophelia's in the same class or Margot's or whatever.

What suggestions has your DH put forwards so that we can gauge where he is on this vs where you are.

I agree with him, the names are not great.

I would just select some random name you don't actively hate and say 'right, this is her name, if you don't like it it's up to you to come up with something better.' Which will either force him to make an actual suggestion or end the discussion entirely.

The names are all in one style indeed.
In the same time, if he wants a say, he should actually say something, give some examples of names he likes, so you can both start looking for some names in the intersection of your preferences.

All your names of of a certain type so I don't blame him for disliking them all. He does need to bring alternatives to the table though.

I realise this is a minority opinion, however —

If you grow another human being inside your body and then push it out into the world then you get to choose the baby's name and also to give them your own surname.

That's non negotiable, the absolute basic respect required for you and what you are doing as a mother.

I wouldn't even have the conversation, except in a 'fancy giving me your name ideas in case I happen to like any of them' way.

I will never understand why so many women give away their power or put up with any of the absolute shite they do.

Is this a wind up ? Awful names.

The names are one thing, his nasty reaction is a separate issue.

We bought a book of names and wrote a list each and whittled it down that way.
Maybe (sadly?) you might need to direct him to think for himself but, hopefully, it will lead to a discussion at least 🤞

That's so rude. Why don't you share your kids' names so people can slag them off?

Appreciate you aren’t seeking comments on the actual names OP, however it is worth noting they are all very similar in ‘type’ or ‘style’ of name. Therefore your DH probably isn’t being deliberately difficult, it’s more likely he genuinely doesn’t go for this type of name which some people find a bit OTT.

I’d give the name talk a break for a while. You still have plenty of time.

Ask him to come up with 3-5 names he likes when the subject comes up again.

Have you not heard of Shakespeare?

I think he should try harder to consider your feelings - it’s not hard to say ‘um, it’s nice enough but I’m not sure I could imagine using it’ even if he hates it - there’s no need to be rude, especially when you are heavily pregnant! If you like Etta and Ottilie have you thought of Ettany? We had this on our list but ended up having a boy - I saw it in a baby name book but have never met anybody called it.

Why don't you write a list with truly posh names on there, then put on the ones you like and ask him to choose his top three - he might end up picking something from your actual list!

Araminta
Astoria
Capucine
Clementine
Ottilie
Penelope
Allegra
Genevieve
Margot

Well my DH didn’t like a lot of my suggestions and I did not like a lot of his . There were only a handful we both liked and that made it easier. It also became more clear which was the favourite the closer we got to the birth and we still love the name we finally chose 22 years later.

I do think with the exception of Margot, your names are quite flowery. Is there not a middle ground you could try like Ella instead of Etta? He does need to give a few suggestions of his own though!

Here’s a name you might both agree on. Perhaps sort of your taste, but a bit less swirly (can’t think of the right word). Esme.

I liked similar types of names when I was pregnant. For our eldest son 15 years ago, we eventually agreed on Felix.

We separated when he was 11. My ex had a similar attitude to your partner with regards to the names I suggesting. The thing is, it wasn't just names, he had a negative attitude about a lot of things, and disdain for me and my opinions. Happy ending though, I have 2 amazing kids, and I am the happiest I have ever been on my own, my life dramatically improved since I finished parenting the man child.

Back to your situation, your partners attitude is appalling. He doesn't have to like your choices, but he needs to bring some suggestions to the table and be less rude about names you like.

Well it is relevant because he isn't being difficult or weird about your name choices, given one of them is named after a model of Skoda

FWIW I think that you have a beautiful taste in names.

He’s being a sulky baby.

Sorry, I know this is going to be a bit rude... Although I still like Margot, I thought your list in general was a bit like the taste of someone who spent a lot of time on the MN baby names board in 2017. That makes them seem a bit passé, a bit impersonal and suggests they're perhaps, deep down, not that special to you, either? More like you've just picked an aesthetic.

Because the names are also all very posh, it might seem off-putting to your DH, a bit like social climbing?

Find the big office of national statistics spreadsheet with the top 1000 baby names on and look at the 150 - 300 range. There's usually gold there.

I think those are nice names, and I get it is hurtful when they are dismissed out of hand. I admit I'm still a bit upset that when I mentioned my favourite two names and DH immediately blurted out something really dismissive and rude like 'Those are shit!' and honestly neither name was tacky, or weird, or obvious - it seemed a bizarrely strong reaction when 'Nah, those don't do anything for me' would have been a bit more sensitive.

What are his suggestions?