Pissed off DH dismisses my name ideas

I had a similar problem with our DS (now 3 weeks old) - I only had one boy name which felt "right", obviously DH hated it. Just could not find a name we both liked, despite us both liking the same style of name (nature-types). I scoured the web for inspiration and found an Instagram page with names that matched our style. He loved one in particular which I liked, and that's what we went with. The name I wanted to use and the name DH really wanted are his middle names. I was sad not to use the name I really wanted but now he's here, his name fits! Keep looking for inspiration but your DH needs to be open to suggestions and get involved in the name hunt. Good luck!

Mate, the kid is coming out of your vag. You choose the name. His opinion is irrelevant.

We’re not having a baby any time soon, but have had hypothetical chats about what we’d call our children. I have two girls names that I love, and have always loved and imagined myself giving any future daughter one of these names, and my boyfriend has shot them right down and said absolutely no way, so it’s not only your man that does this, if it makes you feel any better!

I love all of your names. I would take all of the emotion out of it and perhaps -

Both prepare a list of the 10 names and then each pick your favourite 5 from the others list then put them together as a list. Take a few days to do this.

Then add another 10 using a similar/sibling name searches and then do the same again.

We did this for both and for all some of his names were comedy I did warm to some of them.

Our first (girl) is a name very similar to your list which we had both gone off a bit but doing the above refreshed it for us.

Our boy we compromised a long name on the birth certificate and shortened name to be used day to day. Not dissimilar to your girls names.

Both really happy with both names now.

The trick is to get him actually thinking about it and getting used to the names (even ones he doesn’t like now).

It’s funny as I am now quite fond of some of the girls names that he suggested that I really wouldn’t have considered using at first. But the consideration itself does warm you up to a name.

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And then watch your relationship die a little bit.

Your choices are really poncy and class specific.
What names does he like? Maybe look at those and choose one that doesn't make anyone's blood boil?

A work colleague of mine has just gone on mat leave, she's having a girl and is naming her Ophelia. I think Ophelia and Octavia are very pretty, feminine names.

My partner (at the time) didn't like my name choice for our Son. He quickly changed his mind when he heard that a famous boxer had given his newborn Son the same name... Fast forward 25 years, ex partner sees said Son (his only child) twice per year (birthday & Christmas) so I'm glad I stuck to my guns and gave my Son the name that I wanted and still love to this day.

Kinder app might be useful. It’s like tinder but for baby names. You like the names you like (you can add ones you like if they aren’t in the app) he likes the names he likes and see what matches you get. Hopefully you’ll find one you match on!

The name you like are all absolutely beautiful, if your DH has no better ideas, he should leave it to you!

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Maybe stop spending hours researching names online and step away from the baby books.

Take him a list of names which transcend class and trends such as Anna, Isobel, Laura, Kate and Jessica. I would put money on him liking more traditional ‘boring’ names.

Once you’ve found some names he likes, you can got back to researching variants or similar names closer to your style that he might be amenable to.

with names, both parents get infinite vetos. You are both going to need to work on lists. Maybe try name generators for suggestions.

And yet you have managed to dumb it down by adding an r.

I like those names op and think posters have been very rude on this thread.

Your dh is being a complete dick.

I'd ask him to come up with a suggestion and then, regardless of whether you like it or not, roll your eyes and say 'as if we're going to call our baby that' 🙄

I think go with a name you love unless he comes up with a better suggestion 🤷‍♀️

You clearly have a gift for choosing awful names from a certain ‘bracket’ but I agree it’s unfair of him to dismiss your suggestions without coming up with alternatives

She hasnt heard of manners or polite consideration of other peoples feelings, so I doubt she has heard of Shakespeare.

Get a list of top 10 and he does his, then come together for a discussion.

I don't hate your choice of names Op
Whilst I probably wouldn't choose them myself they are not awful
What choice of names does your partner like?
You are going to have to reach a compromise somewhere.

I got pregnant because I wanted to, not because I was doing a favour for DH which meant he got no say in his own children’s names.

I’d never want to give my children a name DH disliked so much.

Book of names is good idea. You can dig gently to see if your approach to names and what they represent to you is different from his. For example, we decided we both wanted names for our girls that would work if they became senior in their professions e.g, senior judge or surgeon or if they ended up as musicians or hairdressers. This meant pretty classic non flowery names - maybe a little bit commonplace but ‘take you anywhere names.

I love Ottile. Could be shortened to lily or tilly, or gorgeous as a full name. Just say unless he comes up with a name this is it.

Orphelia sounds very pretentious

He sounds like a pig being so rude to his heavily pregnant wife TBH.