Pissed off DH dismisses my name ideas

You have a very specific taste in names which clearly isn’t your DH’s cup of tea. Have you thrown out any names that are a bit more standard? Just to get a sense of where his taste is? To be honest he’s being a dick not coming up with a list of his own suggestions. Not sure how you’re supposed to meet in the middle if you don’t know what end of the name spectrum he’s on.

You can like some Biblical names without liking them all!

Can I also put forward Bronte as a name as I love it!
As it goes my 2nd daughter has the name my other half chose and I said I would never use it. When she arrived she just seemed to suit it so we went with it!

I went with mostly (though not all) Biblical names just because I like classic names.

I'm not even sure OP why you are having a baby with this man because you don't seem to like him very much!

I got my DH to compile a list of names. I nearly died laughing!!!

Exactly. It's a very odd thing to say for someone who claims to like Biblical names.

I agree with you OP!

My DH only loved one girl name and was adamant that was the name. He wouldn't discuss alternatives. Luckily I really liked the name too or I think it would have been very difficult. We never agreed on a boy name.

We also chose two middle names - one each, with pretty much a free rein to choose without the other person. Maybe that's an option for you?

He does need to come up with suggestions though. Both go through a book and highlight what you like and see what overlaps? And both be open minded. My DH suggested a boy name that I originally hated but in the end it had really grown on me (and he'd gone off it!)

I totally get you that someone wouldnt like ALL Biblical names as some are very out-there, but it seems odd to pick out a very biblical name as an example of one that’s hated to make this argument!

The names are all quite similar. Like you'd give them to a range of Victorian-dressed dolls.

I really recommend the Kinder app, or similar. It turned out DH and I only liked about 3 of the same boys names so we picked one.

Tell him he needs to contribute some ideas or you will choose what you want.
I don't think the names are that bad as it goes, nothing too out there (I also like Sebastian!)

I don’t hate those names but they are all a bit…’insta-mum’ if you get me? And that is actually quite dated now so they just seem a bit naff and sort of…meaningless.

Why don’t you go through a list of names of people who actually mean something to you both? Eg family members, favourite film actresses, fave bands, favourite poets, favourite books? if hes not a huge Hamlet fan is he likely to be moved by Ophelia? Whereas he might abso adore The Chain and go for Stevie, or be wholly passionate about the suffragettes and go for Emmeline, or you might get him on board with Hermione if he fancies himself a wizard in a muggle world, or Maya if he loves ‘still, I rise’.

What books/plays/films/songs/bands are important to you as a couple? Start there.

I bet he wouldn't think the double barrelling sounded too long if the other option was not to use his surname at all. Of course it's yours that would be dropped!

My surname is 2 syllables, ex H is 3 as he has a "Mc" at the start of his. DD has a double barrelled surname. My name first then his as it sounds better.

School, doctors etc all use her full name. Her first name is also 3 syllables.

Think "Harriet Johnson McRichards"

Sounds like he has a chip on his shoulder about sounding posh. So Ophelia Edwards Richardson is triggering a bit of an "oooh get them" reaction. What are his family like about things like this? What is his background?

You beat me to it! That's exactly what I was going to say. 😀

I had an agreement with DH that if it was a girl I would name her and if it was a boy he could. He didn't think of any boys names 🤷‍♀️

Sorry, I'm team DH and think your girl names are awful.

@Plum02 your name choices (inc Sebastian) are quite ‘Shakespearean-esq’ I think they are pretty (not for me but…). I think he needs a list of his own, or think about names that are similar but less controversial than those on your list like Etta could be Ella, Otillie / Octavia could be Olivia, Penelope could be Amélie or Élodie or Lily, Margot could be something like Mari - mahr-ee.

do you know what I mean have a conversation around the names and styles you like then widen the net.

You don’t like Levi but you prefer Biblical..?

I love the names, but as you say that’s neither here nor there. Has he come up with any suggestions, and can you settle on any of them? It’s tough, it never occurred to me that my dh would have either an opinion or a say on ‘my baby’s’ name, stupid I know but I had always told myself what I was going to name my future sons and daughters, didn’t work like that.

you’ll get there, good luck

A cousin of mine has 2 syllables and her dh 3 syllables in their names
They found the 2 syllable name first then the 3 as double barrelled rolled off the tongue better.
Just a thought

No one really takes much notice of middle names really

Agree
Although remember your surname alone with his as a middle name is just as valid.

Matilda? Maud? Edith? Katherine? Anne? Jane? Mary? Victoria? Elizabeth? Camilla?
All names fit for a queen...

I’m with him. Your choices are not good and very much going with ultra common rn. You need to work together to find names you both love.

FWIW, the last three baby girl names I’ve heard of have been Ottilie, Clementine and Penelope. All ugly bugly names.

My DH hated all my names. I think I thought of more because I'm more creative. I'm not sure how pregnant you are but maybe your DH hasn't got to that point yet of thinking of suggestions. Why don't u ask him to come up with 5 names he likes and go from there. In the end, DH liked a name and I liked the nickname of it, so it worked! But that was only a couple of weeks before the birth.