Pissed off DH dismisses my name ideas

Like the PP I suppose?

Patronising AF.

What a crock, not even worth answering.

I read death notices!!! Some of the grandchildren had lovely names...

This is a discussion thread. Most are mature enough to debate politely.

Sometimes names just don't seem to fit until the baby actually arrives

We were determined we were having a girl so had only agreed on a girls name then out popped DS!

Your post! You know the bit about not many people rate them? As if that should somehow make a difference?

No idea, had never heard the name before.

I suppose that will be down to my narrow social circle 😂

oh give it a rest!

Where did you drag that conclusion out of??

We had a list of names and ending up agreeing on a totally different one minutes after the birth!

But yes. He needs to sit down tonight and write a list and meet you halfway.

Did you mean to be so rude?

Whilst I'm not keen on any of the names you have chosen, I would pick whatever name I liked if my husband wasn't being helpful with suggestions! He has a choice/a say in this. If he doesn't come up with any suggestions himself, Margot it is! 🙂

The odd thing is why he isn't interested in coming up with a name for his child. Why not drop the subject and wait for him to propose something?

God THIS! ‘What are your husband’s suggestions?’ X 1000000000

Im not a fan of any of the names you have (Octavia was a male boss of mine and i was not a big fan of him) - but thats not your AIBU. Your AIBU is whether you husband is a bit of a twat to laugh at your name suggestions, without coming up with some of his own, yes, he's being a twat. YANBU.

We did a list of 10 names each that we really liked and crossed one off each other list taking turns, we were left with two which we both didn't mind, i picked my daughters name and my husband picked my sons.

Agree. Also don't understand why so many don't read the thread. OP must have the patience of a saint as she has to repeat all the information she has already given and which so many posters are simply ignoring!

I wish people would stop being mean to OP about her name choices.

Every single name in existence will have people who love it and people who hate it.

Of course her DH has a 'right' not to like them, same would be true whatever the names were, everyone can have an opinion.

What's not fair is that he's leaving it all to OP and then knocking her down every time, he needs to contribute something constructive!

I think DH is being unreasonable here for not putting any ideas forward.

Top tip Once you’ve got some names practice saying/shouting them out loud.

“Ophelia! Your tea is ready!” (For what it’s worth I think this would get shortened to “Fi” very quickly)

“Tilly! Get in the box!! (Football terminology, imagining your baby as an 8 year old super footballer

@Teacherprebaby "Agree with him, all awful and very unique names. He has a right not to like them"
I don't think you know what unique means.....

They are definitely names of a type though-and if he doesn't like that type.....

If you are set on having Tilly as a nickname or short form name for your child, would you consider Matilda as the full form of the name rather than Otillie?

I would also think about what names work best with your/his/both surnames. You are naming a child here and you do not want to end up making their lives a living hell by giving them a name that doesn't go with the surname or one that is just not right for them, even if you absolutely adore the name, it may be completely wrong for the child.

For example - taking the name Portia (Shakespeare's The Merchant of Venice) and putting it with the surname DeRossi, and the name sounds posh, however Portia Smith, just sounds like someone was trying too hard and the kid is likely to want to change their name by deed poll when they are old enough (apologies to any Portia's out there, Smith or otherwise) just trying to use an example.

To me these are completely normal names and I know lots of kids with them. Surprised by some of the responses here. But in any event, the issue is not the names but the husband wanting to veto them without discussion and without alternative suggestions.

Agree with him, all awful and very unique names. He has a right not to like them.

I totally understand this OP. I went through the same, I wrote a list of 33 names and my husband rejected every single one of them. Mostly for ridiculous reasons.

We tried the baby name tinder thing, out of 2000 names I liked over 100. He liked 4. No matches.

In the end we both picked 10 names and wrote them on individual pieces of paper. We then took turns removing one each until we were left with our daughters name.

It was hard work though!

I don’t understand why people are insisting all the names are definitely ‘ugly’ like it’s a fact or stating that they all have negative connotations are being . The names may not be everyone’s first choice but they make me think of Margot Fonteyn, Octavia Hill, Clementine Churchill, Etta James and Penelope Cruz (as well as Odysseus’s wife). But yes, the OP’s issue is not her taste in names but her H’s blunt vetoes & refusal to make suggestions. Looks like she’s come up with some ideas to sort that.

All of your suggestions suffer from being unusual or weird to anyone not currently naming a baby but also simultaneously incredibly overdone among a certain type of parent who is currently naming babies. No wonder they're marmite names. They will sound very dated to this particular couple of years in future.

Have you suggested any more common names that he's vetoed? It's not unreasonable for him to want a name that he's familiar and comfortable with. It doesn't have to be something as popular as Emily or Olivia, if you look at the ONS lists, some surprisingly familiar names are well out of the top 50 or even 100.