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NO 2 during dinner

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Fannyanne88 · 01/12/2024 18:52

Me and DP are currently trying to encourage our DS (2 years) to use potty. It's hit and miss but we've had 5x number 2s on potty so far and everyone's thrilled. We set it up in kitchen/diner behind some chairs as barrier (he likes privacy) so we can keep an eye and he feels comfortable.
So tonight during dinner DS tells me he needs to go so I get potty as per usual. DP who's above average squeamish says no, take him to bathroom as he can't handle eating while DS goes for no 2. I go against his wishes and set up as per usual. Rationale being I don't want to change routine in fear of discouraging Potty use. Also, downstairs bathroom is freezing and time was of the essence.
So am I being unreasonable for "crossing DPs line" or am I gross and DS should not use Potty during mealtimes in kitchen/diner.

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Overthebow · 01/12/2024 19:21

That’s disgusting, he shouldn't be using the potty in the kitchen/dining room at all but especially not when people are eating. Can’t believe you think it’s ok.

Coalplay · 01/12/2024 19:21

As regards to potty use, we never had a potty the kids just went on the loo

Matilda1981 · 01/12/2024 19:20

Having a potty in the kitchen is rank!!! I’ve potty trained 4 kids and never even used a potty as cleaning out number 2’s made me heave (didn’t mind nappies so not sure why I couldn’t cope with a potty!) mine went straight onto a toilet!

Coalplay · 01/12/2024 19:20

Missing the point slightly, but why do you say use potty and miss out the word the?

LuckySantangelo35 · 01/12/2024 19:20

n3f5 · 01/12/2024 19:19

We did the same, only for about a week while they got their confidence then moved to steps on the loo.

Dp sounds pretty pathetic

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@n3f5

what, cos he wants to eat his evening meal without the sounds and smells of someone taking a shit right by him?!

yeah. Right. “Pathetic”…..

lol, you will find most people cannot tolerate such grossness….

SuperfluousHen · 01/12/2024 19:19

Always had a potty or two in the kitchen. Small children are triggered to “go” when they eat so it’s the obvious place. Just remove it quickly once used.

n3f5 · 01/12/2024 19:19

BoobyDazzler · 01/12/2024 18:56

Babies and young toddlers poo in their nappies while they are eating, I wouldn’t get too excited about a potty in the kitchen. I think we had to them dotted about the house.

We did the same, only for about a week while they got their confidence then moved to steps on the loo.

Dp sounds pretty pathetic

SophieJo · 01/12/2024 19:19

‘am I gross and DS should not use Potty during mealtimes in kitchen/diner.’

You are being extremely gross and the potty should not be in the kitchen/diner. I do hope you take note of the comments on here.

LuckySantangelo35 · 01/12/2024 19:18

Did you honestly expect your husband to happily tuck into his meal while someone took a shit right by him OP?! Because if so….the mind boggles 🤯
@Fannyanne88

Nolegusta · 01/12/2024 19:18

I'm with DH.
Just start putting the potty in the correct room, the bathroom.

EmotionalSupportPotato · 01/12/2024 19:18

You're teaching your child that it's OK to shit in the kitchen.

usererror99 · 01/12/2024 19:17

The Potty belongs in the bathroom - I've never potty trained using potties in the rooms you live in like lounges and kitchens - it's just grim and I find parents who do this are also the sort who whip out a potty in a public place infront of others like in cafes restaurants and shops

sanityisamyth · 01/12/2024 19:17

Utterly gross. Team DH.

Itisjustmyopinion · 01/12/2024 19:17

I am with your DH. You will need to dispose of it and to carry that to the bathroom while someone is eating is pretty disgusting. If you have a downstairs bathroom there is no excuse not to have it in there

YABVU

Notimeforaname · 01/12/2024 19:16

No. It belongs in bathroom.

sprigatito · 01/12/2024 19:15

Ever heard the expression "don't shit where you eat"? It's never too early to start teaching children that one! I'm with your dp I'm afraid. I would have been gagging.

Longhotsummers · 01/12/2024 19:14

Gross. Don’t let your child poor around food.

Sailorchick14 · 01/12/2024 19:13

We had potties in the hallway or lounge. But that was because we didn't have a downstairs loo and when they are first learning don't always leave enough time for stairs.
Would never have it in the same room we were eating though.

Wowzel · 01/12/2024 19:12

This is so nasty. I can't believe you would actually think this was ok.

Looneytune253 · 01/12/2024 19:11

What on earth? Surely this post isnt serious?!?! Always in the bathroom (if there's one near by) but absolutely always for no2 and during meals. Yuck!!

ObtuseMoose · 01/12/2024 19:10

Nothing like the sounds and smells of a shit while you're eating your tea 😩

LuckySantangelo35 · 01/12/2024 19:08

Who has voted YANBU OP?! And why??! No one wants to be in the same room as someone who is shitting whilst they are eating. No one. That’s just a normal human thing surely?!

itsgettingweird · 01/12/2024 19:08

Another team DH.

If he can't say he needs to do and walk the few meters to a bathroom he isn't ready to toilet train.

The Potty is for ease of use - not to go in every room of the house.

TheSilkWorm · 01/12/2024 19:03

You are unreasonable and so gross!

Onlyvisiting · 01/12/2024 19:01

Ew. He's not a cat using a litter box, he should be able to generalise that the potty is the goal, not that that corner of the kitchen is his toilet.
I see why you would litter potties about the house as a just in case, but if you are given warning I'd absolutely be scooping him into the closest bathroom.
And no, I couldn't just sit there and continue my meal while someone poos in the corner.