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NO 2 during dinner

213 replies

Fannyanne88 · 01/12/2024 18:52

Me and DP are currently trying to encourage our DS (2 years) to use potty. It's hit and miss but we've had 5x number 2s on potty so far and everyone's thrilled. We set it up in kitchen/diner behind some chairs as barrier (he likes privacy) so we can keep an eye and he feels comfortable.
So tonight during dinner DS tells me he needs to go so I get potty as per usual. DP who's above average squeamish says no, take him to bathroom as he can't handle eating while DS goes for no 2. I go against his wishes and set up as per usual. Rationale being I don't want to change routine in fear of discouraging Potty use. Also, downstairs bathroom is freezing and time was of the essence.
So am I being unreasonable for "crossing DPs line" or am I gross and DS should not use Potty during mealtimes in kitchen/diner.

OP posts:
Tinaforshort · 01/12/2024 19:38

I’m also team DH. I’d have gone batshit if my DH did that to me when ours were little.

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 01/12/2024 19:38

You have a downstairs toilet - use it.

warm it up if it is ' freezing ' !

a potty in both the downstairs toilet and the upstairs bathroom.

ValentinesDayCryingInTheHotel · 01/12/2024 19:37

I’m scared to post this but I couldn’t get stressed about this OP, it wouldnt bother me 🤣 if potty was across the room like, not right next to me.

GroovyChick87 · 01/12/2024 19:37

It needs to be in the bathroom. Smelling shit while trying to eat a meal is disgusting.

Haggia · 01/12/2024 19:36

Ffs

frecklejuice · 01/12/2024 19:36

My dh would lose his mind over this, he is massively squeamish!

Potty should be in the bathroom or at least in another room that isn't the kitchen, bathroom makes sense because he needs to get used to going in there.

Ywudu · 01/12/2024 19:35

🤢 potty in the kitchen is disgusting.

Stealthmodemama · 01/12/2024 19:34

Did your DH stop his meal and take his son to the toilet?

Or was that your job?

Pippinsdiary · 01/12/2024 19:34

Fair enough if no downstairs toilet but no way would I let my child poo where I’m eating. Take him to the toilet

ObtuseMoose · 01/12/2024 19:33

n3f5 · 01/12/2024 19:27

what, cos he wants to eat his evening meal without the sounds and smells of someone taking a shit right by him?!

yeah. Right. “Pathetic”…..

lol, you will find most people cannot tolerate such grossness….

How did he cope with nappies? Toddlers wearing nappies don't generally walk off to the bathroom

Surely most people remove a baby with a full nappy to the bathroom to change them, they aren't literally shitting in the open while people are eating.
It's not ok to let your child shit in a potty where people are having a meal, it's disgusting, smelly and unhygienic. Don't try to justify it.

UpUpUpU · 01/12/2024 19:32

OP, kitchens should be a sanitary place of food preparation and eating, they are not a toilet.

Team DH here too.

Hoppinggreen · 01/12/2024 19:31

Potty should be in the bathroom if you have one, any other room if not but certainly not the place where people eat

Nolegusta · 01/12/2024 19:30

mrpinkwhistlescat · 01/12/2024 19:27

I’m a nurse and not a bit squeamish about bodily functions but that’s disgusting. I’m on DH’s side.

I'm not squeamish really either, but agree that nobody should be pooing near where people are eating, other than into a nappy (which should be promptly changed).

LuckySantangelo35 · 01/12/2024 19:30

n3f5 · 01/12/2024 19:27

what, cos he wants to eat his evening meal without the sounds and smells of someone taking a shit right by him?!

yeah. Right. “Pathetic”…..

lol, you will find most people cannot tolerate such grossness….

How did he cope with nappies? Toddlers wearing nappies don't generally walk off to the bathroom

@n3f5

Well, there’s no choice is there when it’s a baby in nappies…when you have an older child you absolutely do have a choice and can put potty in a bathroom where it belongs, as opposed to a kitchen where people are eating …I thought that would have been self- explanatory…

Livelovebehappy · 01/12/2024 19:28

I’m shocked you need to ask.

Nolegusta · 01/12/2024 19:28

n3f5 · 01/12/2024 19:27

what, cos he wants to eat his evening meal without the sounds and smells of someone taking a shit right by him?!

yeah. Right. “Pathetic”…..

lol, you will find most people cannot tolerate such grossness….

How did he cope with nappies? Toddlers wearing nappies don't generally walk off to the bathroom

Preumably the nappy wasn't changed beside his dinner plate.

mrpinkwhistlescat · 01/12/2024 19:27

I’m a nurse and not a bit squeamish about bodily functions but that’s disgusting. I’m on DH’s side.

n3f5 · 01/12/2024 19:27

what, cos he wants to eat his evening meal without the sounds and smells of someone taking a shit right by him?!

yeah. Right. “Pathetic”…..

lol, you will find most people cannot tolerate such grossness….

How did he cope with nappies? Toddlers wearing nappies don't generally walk off to the bathroom

unclebuck · 01/12/2024 19:26

You are teaching him to be more grown up - he shits and pisses in the bathroom like everyone else. This is where humans shit and piss. What on earth were you thinking? Your partner is not weirdly squeamish - it's disgusting.

n3f5 · 01/12/2024 19:25

Pinkissmart · 01/12/2024 19:00

If they can’t wait the 30 seconds it would take to get them to the loo, then they are really not ready

Rubbish. They learn to wait, having a potty next to them is easier while they learn. Should only be a few days.

People don't seem as weird about nappies? Which are genuinely more disgusting

CyranoDeBergerQuack · 01/12/2024 19:24

BeMintBee · 01/12/2024 18:56

Yes gross and unnecessary. Why in earth people set up potty’s anywhere other than the bathroom is beyond me!

People have baths in their bedroom, as do many hotels. I mean, wtf?
Nothing surprises me any more

CoffeeWithMyOxygen · 01/12/2024 19:24

YABU. I’m potty training my youngest now and so many people forget that part of what we’re teaching them is where to go to the toilet, and how to hold it in for the brief period of time it takes to get there. We rarely use a potty anyway as mine both prefer the toilet and it means we don’t have the extra step of getting them used to toilets down the line.

Dishwashersaurous · 01/12/2024 19:23

Potty shouldn't be anywhere other a bathroom

Gotabadfeelingaboutthis · 01/12/2024 19:22

I agree with the majority - your dh is absolutely right. It is disgusting to have someone pooping in the same room you're eating your dinner in.

Magnastorm · 01/12/2024 19:22

Having the potty in the kitchen is disgusting, even if people aren't in there eating, ffs.