NO 2 during dinner

So tonight during dinner DS tells me he needs to go so I get potty as per usual. DP who's above average squeamish says no, take him to bathroom as he can't handle eating while DS goes for no 2. I go against his wishes and set up as per usual.

I would be absolutely furious if you did this to me.

TM DH
anyone or anything should not be shitting nearby while I’m trying to eat

Totally agree with consistency.

I never used a potty with my two DCs. They were encouraged to use the toilet with a step and kids seat on top of the actual loo so they didn't fall through the hole! I thought it was easier to go for broke in the first instance rather than get them used to a potty that you carry around and then get used to the toilet - seems like too much hard work for me!

Going totally against the grain here, but I'm with you OP. Do whatever makes your child comfortable and gets them comfortably and quickly potty trained without any weird squeamish-ness about toileting being something that's taboo. You can teach them etiquette later. So many parents have such challenges getting kids trained, kids are going to school in diapers, half the kids at school refuse to use school toilets and reading this thread I'm starting to get an idea why. We had potties throughout the house including our kitchen diner, we took a porta potty with us everywhere and used it everywhere including very public spaces, although I would be as discreet as possible. I was even caught without it a few times and had the kids wee over a drain and on a couple of occasions had to hold the kids up for a poo behind a bush that I had to pick up with a dog poo bag (if you gotta go you gotta go). You know what...both kids were fully trained by 3, one at 2.5 including at night - we never have any toileting issues, they'll go in any toilet, flush and clean after themselves. Have better etiquette around toilet use than most other kids their age. But I literally did not give a shit (pardon the pun) about what other people thought. Worked amazing for me and my kids!

Nobody should be shitting in the kitchen - especially while people are trying to eat.

wrong forum

Yes this is so grim.

Gross.

Yeah that’s grim and I say this as the parent of 2 toddlers. Using the potty in the kitchen/diner during the day is bad enough but whilst someone is eating in there is even worse. If your son can’t hold it for the 30 seconds to get in to another room/upstairs then he isn’t ready for potty training.if he can only use the potty in one specific room then he isn’t ready for potty training.

When first potty training we basically carried the potty around the house and used it whenever DC indicated they needed it. Which included the kitchen. Sometimes we wouldn't get much warning!

It wasn't long before we got more warning and could make it to the bathroom though. So I don't think it's a hill to die on for your DH or you - this phase will pass v quickly.

My DC also didn't seem perturbed by using both potty and toilet either. Probably you don't need to worry.

I wouldn't want to assume that TBH - not when you see the number of people who'll use a restaurant table to change nappies

Glad it's not just me who'd find a potty by the dining table disgusting though

@Sleepysleepycoffeecoffee

true, cos let’s face it no one can enjoy their food while someone is having a shit in the same room can they??! lol. I would much rather just take them out to the bathroom.

Maybe it's an indoor cat?

@Sleepysleepycoffeecoffee

i know right?? Why can’t the cat shit outside in the way nature intended?!

Disgusting

It wouldn’t bother me in the slightest, I think after potty training a bunch of kids I’m just completely immune to pee and poo. That said I can also understand why people wouldn’t want that near them at meal time.

If your husband was so squeamish about it why wasn’t he the one taking your child to the bathroom? Or did he expect to sit and continue enjoying his meal while you got that job?

If your husband is that bothered by it then he needs to be the one dropping his knife and fork and jumping up to take your child into the toilet while you sit and enjoy your food ☺️

The potty belongs in the bathroom. Your child needs to sit on the potty in the bathroom. 🤷‍♀️

Do you want your kid to grow up knowing bathrooms are the place to poo or not?

Litter trays are vile and I don’t understand why anyone would have one in their home 💩

The potty should not be in the kitchen. Why would you establish a routine that your child empties their bowels in the same room where food is prepared and people are eating?!??

Your DH is right. It's gross. Especially gross for him to use the potty while people are sitting trying to eat a meal.

I think when you've just started potty training, it's good to have the potty on view and very easily accessible rather than hidden in the bathroom. Encourages independence. When they get used to using it a bit more and can wait more than a second before they do it, then you can move it into the bathroom.

We have an open plan downstairs living situation so we kept the potty in the living room, dining table also in there and was no issue at all taking mine off to the potty, eating or not! Our downstairs toilet is in the hallway through a door so potty wouldn't be visible.
Also... You'd still have to deal with the poo before and after eating whether the potty was right there or away in the bathroom. Presumably DH will also be helping with the potty not just you? What will he do if he's home alone with your toddler and needs to potty him during a meal? He'll still have to smell the shit wherever it happens!

We also have a freezing downstairs loo and it still puts my 5yr old going to the toilet now! You need to be relaxed to do a poo and if you're freezing well it's not going to help a nervous pooer 😂

So yeah I think YANBU.

Potty should be in bathroom…..see ERIC website…..potty in bathroom form age 6 months….not only is it disgusting to have it where you are eating…..it is setting very bad example to your child….when they go to nursery they will think they can shit anywhere