NO 2 during dinner

Ugh no , potty needs to be in the downstairs bathroom .
I have 3 children and the potty training to do 💩 definitely trickier than wees .
When I had my first child we didn’t have a downstairs bathroom so that was trickier but we managed

Sorry but that’s disgusting. Just a tip, it’s so much easier to use a trainer seat on the toilet, rather than teach them to use a potty then use a toilet. I just took them regularly from 12 months onwards to get them used to using the toilet and all my children learnt pretty quickly. I have to disagree with the earlier poster who was saying to wait until they were nearly 3. In my experience it’s better to start things earlier, by 3 they are too used to using a nappy.

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So when child moves on from potty to proper toilet are you gonna let him squat in the corner?
You've said the bathroom is too cold

Doesn't smell as much when it's contained by a nappy.

They do that in nappies tho? 🤣
My 20 month old walks behind the sofa and does it there lol

I have an incontinent 10 year old with a ton of learning and intellectual disabilities. He is just starting to learn to say toilet, but it's as he is weeing / pooing so nappies are a must. I'm not remotely bothered by anyone who has a potty downstairs for a toddler. I appreciate I may be hardened in that department so may be in the minority.

Having said that, you lost me at 'downstairs bathroom'. Negotiating stairs, in my opinion, is fair enough. But come on! There's no longer any reason such as 'time is of the essence' when you have that. And the cold? Nope. Sorry. YABU.

That's bloody disgusting. Anywhere but the kitchen.

What happens if you have visitors staying for lunch/dinner and the toddler uses the potty in the kitchen then? 🤢🤮💩🚽🚽🚽

Consistency as in potty every time?

Hope you're not one of those who takes one when out and about and let your child potty in public whilst failing to cover them for privacy!

We had a potty in the living room as no downstairs toilet. My youngest would happily pee on the potty but became shy when it came to poops. He would scurry into corners like a cat so it was a quick haul to the bathroom. A potty in the dining room is disgusting though. Toddler arse stinks!!!

We had potties (plural) in every room and even in the garden when (grand)babies pottytraining. Once they've discovered their control-switch potty only in the bathroom (one upstairs, one downstairs). So as long as your DC is not competely potty-trained YANBU keeping potty as close-by as possible. But you might meat your DH halfway by putting DC on the potty before setting him down at the table. That way he'll also learn eating feels so much more comfortable without the urge to "go". And please, do put potty as far away from the dining table as possible. Yes, it is gross.

If the bathroom is cold downstairs, could you not make sure the potty is in the hall or have the bathroom door open to warm up the bathroom. I wouldn't let my child poo in the kitchen/diner

That is absolutely disgusting. You should have taken him to the bathroom. Have some consideration for those trying to eat. That is honestly the skankiest thing I've read in a long time. If you wouldn't have a shit at the table, you don't allow your kids to.

For the beginning of the potty training journey - where we are too - we have the potty in the playroom which is open plan to our dining room (background is also a nurse OP 😂 ) but saying that Im hoping a couple of weeks there max and then into the downstairs loo (which is a bit tight for space.

It needs to be in the bathroom! Why would it not be, it isn't ok to have a toddler doing a poo nearby while you're eating, I would be absolutely horrified!

Houses have lavatories for a reason.
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Why should an adult leave their meal - when there is a downstairs toilet available - that’s just a bit cold.

Poo particles still float about in large kitchens. Its grim to allow there where food is being prepared and eaten. I understand wanting to make it easier to potty train but it is incredibly unhygienic.

For now while you're potty training I wouldn't change anything and DP could leave the table and eat elsewhere if this happens again, but once DS has got the hang of it the potty needs to move to the bathroom

It is an irrational and ridiculous reaction over a short term &, often, stressful process of teaching a child to crap in a thing rather than just in something they're wearing or wherever they happen to feel like it.

The last thing anyone should be doing is attaching shame to any process that's perfectly natural. Is it gross? Yeah. Does it stink? Usually. Does anyone want shit in places other than the toilet? Hell no!

but this is a process, just like house training a puppy & we all know not to make a hoohah when doing that cos it causes problems.

What I see here is a bunch of ppl getting hysterical or agressive over poo & that is not healthy & yes it does create problems & shame

It will do you well to start using the potty in different rooms – upstairs and downstairs bathroom, his room and the living room sometimes when needed. It's best he learns from the start that he goes in lots of different spaces so he is comfortable using other spaces when out and about. Don't take 'consistency' too literally. Consistency is more in important with your method of teaching him, not location.

Would you say that if it was an adult? It shouldn't matter if 'it's only poo'...

It's absolutely gross.

@lifeisforlaying

yeah and poo is gross.