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Don't know what to make of DH's lack of concern

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Boots4me · 01/12/2024 17:05

I have been feeling ill since Friday: sense of doom, feeling sick, and stomach pains. I have a range of pre-existing health conditions, and I often feel unwell.

DH isn't too concerned, he keeps saying "it's probably a virus, you'll be fine."

He then suggested going to A&E which I didn't want to and I'm sure he said that to shut me up.

But I feel so upset and angry at his indifference. He keeps either downplaying my concerns or telling me that there is nothing he can do. I've just ignored him for now am not responding to him

I just wanted him to listen to me.

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WickedlyCharmed · 01/12/2024 17:10

You often feel unwell, you don’t want to go to A&E.

He’s listened to you and offered a solution. He’s right, at this moment, there’s nothing he can do.

Are you going to try and get a GP appointment tomorrow morning?

pictoosh · 01/12/2024 17:10

Well I don't know. What CAN he do? You say you often feel unwell...is it a repetitive topic for him?

hopeishere · 01/12/2024 17:09

Kindly, maybe with you having health issues he's kind of immune to it now.

Sushicucumbersalad · 01/12/2024 17:07

Realistically what can he do? He told you to go to A&E, you said no.

I understand it's horrible to feel unwell but you're being ridiculous.

RandomMess · 01/12/2024 17:07

Have you explained that you want him to listen and empathise?

As you are often unwell he probably doesn't really know what to say/think. He's accepting the information you are providing at face value.

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