He's giving me the silent treatment over a joke, who's unreasonable here?

Using SM to get a reaction from op, 🤢
So bloody childish,

He’s had a huge go at them and is feeling really guilty and blames you.

and he’s insulted you didn’t pop by for a quickie

the quote is pathetic

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You’re massively overthinking this. You posted But they hadn’t done that? He just assumed they had because he believed OP when she said she had rung the buzzer when in fact she hadn’t. I simply replied that he had sent OP a photo of the intercom switched off. And this was the next morning, so it had been off all night - he clearly hadn’t switched it off because he was waiting for OP’s call, so reasonable to assume it was the kids and he’d already told them off before he sent the photo to which OP replied that she had been joking and hadn’t called at all.

We don’t know the circumstances, what kind of parent he is, or how he ‘told the kids off’ - they may have done it before, in which case it’s not an unreasonable assumption. Sounds to me like he was telling the truth and was mad because he thought he’d missed a booty call, and even madder when OP confessed to the joke.

His reaction since then and the ‘silent’ treatment over such a trivial thing indicates that this would be a frequent reaction to any conflict in the relationship, and that would be the reason l’d throw him back, not his potential parenting skills. Telling your kids off when they’ve done something wrong doesn’t make you a bad parent.

Eyes wide open girlie, head up move on, you don't need a man child

But the difference with those is that you're not actually lying to each other. Me and DP take the mick all the time, but I'd get very annoyed if she started trying to convince me something happened when it didn't.

He’s mental. He has serious issues and sounds like one to avoid. I’d just leave him to it OP. People that go in a huff over nothing are mentally and emotionally exhausting, you never know where you are with them - he’s showing you who he is. God, his poor kids.

This won’t be the last time he gives you the silent treatment over something, you can be sure of that.
think very carefully. Do you really want a future like that? Walking on eggshells trying not to “set him off”.?

What a divvy he is, well just ignore and crack on with your day, he will be fulming your not biting

The buzzer was on silent mode- he sent you a picture. So he needed to tell his children off for doing that whether you went there and pressed it or not.

But I really don’t see how what you said was a joke. It seemed to be a dig about his snoring with a bit of if you snooze you lose thrown in and a hint that he is stuck with his kids while you’re having a whale of a time. Maybe I’m reading it wrong and he did too.

If that's the level of emotional maturity in this relationship then you're well out of it Op

In your place Op, the thing that would annoy me most would be the post about being all about being a Father_ there's something petty about it, he's saying never mind you I've got my kids, it's a bit sulky.

I think peeps are referring to the silent treatment and twatty screen quotes that OP mentioned in first post, Totally knob behaviour from anyone at the best of times.

The bloke is a complete wanker on so many levels. Move on and find someone else better, much better.

I love how MN have turned the man into an abusive dickhead based off a crumb of info 😂 the way your minds work, amazing.

OP it was a shite joke, you’re obviously not made for each other. No need to make him out to be a dickhead.

I suspect he turned the intercom to silent himself as “proof” that he hadn’t just ignored the OP’s visit. Sending a photo of it is a weirdly unnecessary thing to do.

Then when it turned out she was only kidding anyway, he got the hump and pretended he’d bollocked the kids so she would feel bad.

Too much drama.

Yeah I think you’ve got his number here OP, well done.

It will be interesting to see what bollocks he comes back with and how long he leaves it before he decides you have been suitably punished.

Also @Catsforeva maybe he usually turns it off at night because he doesn’t want to be disturbed. Of course, that night, he DID want to be disturbed (by you). But maybe his kids don’t know that and actually turned it off because he does usually! He might have turned it off and forgotten. Either way he’s a muppet. And why send a photo? What does a photo prove? Only that it was set to Silent when the photo was taken. As for the meme - ugh, no. Yuck. Can’t wait to hear if he gets in touch.

Then why did he reply to OP to say he had already told them off like it was her fault? If the intercom was off anyway wouldn’t he have said something like ‘oh well, turns out intercom had been switched off so I wouldn’t have heard it even if you did ring’.

And even if the kids did switch off the intercom, why would he tell them off instead of just asking them why and then requesting that they not do it again? It goes back to my original point that parents who tell their kids off over tiny provocations aren’t doing a good job. OP has a kid, this guy’s parenting skills are directly relevant to her assessment of him as a partner.

The whole thing feels fake and manipulative. I agree with PPs who suspect he’s making things up so that OP feels guilty.

No, he sent OP a photo of the intercom and it was on ‘silent’. Someone had fiddled with it ,which is why he told his kids off.

Dad of the year - bollocking his kids because he thought he missed out on a booty call.

Yep

But they hadn’t done that? He just assumed they had because he believed OP when she said she had rung the buzzer when in fact she hadn’t.

Feeling pretty sad for you and others who appear to have relationships utterly devoid of bants. 🤣