Because I think birthdays are for children and adults should only really celebrate big milestone birthdays.
But MIL forces all these birthday celebrations on us. Every year. Yet we never force our own birthdays on her or the rest of the family.
I resent having to make a big deal out to FIL birthday when I haven't forced him to make a big deal out of mine. It's the same months so always especially annoying.
I don't want to put people out and wouldn't expect them to celebrate me. But I always have to celebrate them and any time I have not been able to, it's been a big deal and I've been resented for it. Can't people just invite other birthday loving people, rather than expect people who don't make a big deal out of their own birthday - to make a big deal out of others ? Wouldn't that make more sense ? Leave us party poopers alone.