…to be 7 months pregnant at my own destination wedding?

That's ultimately your choice though. The couple would have to accept many guests would likely feel similar to yourself. I always decline wedding invitations abroad as a general rule due to cost, irrespective if whether it has had to be rearranged.

If I'd already booked flights to a wedding and then they postponed I wouldn't book more flights to the second one

It's bad enough imposing the cost in financial and time off work terms on people to attend a wedding abroad as it is, so if you're going to cancel/change it do it asap.

We've been to 4 weddings abroad - close friends and family - over the last 15-20 years and have said never again. Last one cost us over £10k in travel and hotels alone and, while we can well afford it, it's still a hell of a lot of money (and leave days) to go somewhere we would never have wanted to go but for the wedding. I worked out that there must have been well over £250k spent on travel by guests at that one.

A lot of policies exclude pregnancy

I agree with this - I'd be miffed if it was me

I'm expect you could get cover if you pay enough. But need to be very sure it covers both you snd a newborn and travel if needed (thinks it'd called medical repatriation?) so I don't know how easy it is. But also insurance is only as good as the available care, I don't know enough about Greek maternal care to judge but it is something I would want to be very sure I had looked into.

If you do cancel the wedding in Greece because of the pregnancy, I think friends would be more understanding if you did that now, rather than waiting until closer the time and realising you don't feel up to the travel after all.

I would definitely look at organising a smaller UK wedding early next year on a Saturday, bearing in mind your loved ones have already sacrificed their precious annual leave for this destination wedding. Do not try to do something midweek to save cash as you'll only wind up some people after the change in plans!

Depending on how you think they will react, you can either cancel the Greece wedding or turn into a celebration party where if you don't turn up and/or video conference in, it's not the end of the world. I think I'd probably cancel it though unless you or your DP have family in Greece and that's why you were planning the wedding there in the first place.

It's not ideal with your job. It really isn't. But worst case scenario, a bad job/missing opportunity haunts you for years. Giving up the chance to have a wanted baby? I've never been in that position, but I'd expected it to last a lot longer.

Actually having that wanted baby? That will impact the rest of your life. As it has the most wide ranging consequences, I'd make all decisions off the back of that possibility.

I don't think it is possible for women to have everything all the time. But we can have the things we want the most - we just have to identify those things and prioritise them. If here, that for you means another child... you know what you have to do.

It doesn't matter if it's a wedding or a holiday - the point of travel insurance is to insure you against not being able to travel in the event of ill health.

For a wedding? I doubt it

What about pregnancy complications though, where the insured person is on bed rest or medically advised against flying? If you need to travel while pregnant there must be policies that would cover that eventuality, at least for the OP and her family? They won't apply though to her family and friends.

Any decent sensible insurance won't cover cancellation due to pregnancy.

You should be okay to fly, but FGS check with the airline and check your travel insurance, as presumably you don't currently have insurance that covers you for pregnancy complications.

In a way though, you and your family is the easy bit, with regard to the wedding. If you have the right insurance then you'll be covered if you need to cancel because of your pregnancy. But what about your guests? If you end up with pre-eclampsia, an incompetent cervix, a pre-term birth or something else that results in the cancellation of your wedding, will their insurance pay out? I very much doubt it, particularly if you've all already booked and committed.

TBH, given all the above AND your new job, I think I'd terminate. I'd just be so worried and stressed about letting everyone down and costing them all a ton of money that I couldn't enjoy myself or look forward to the wedding. You don't want another baby right now, this was an accident, so I think I'd terminate, sort out some bullet-proof contraception for the next year, and then try again in 2026.

You can do what you want (no, really!) but as a guest you cancelling the wedding without refunding what we lost would probably be the end of our friendship. You want to make us all go abroad to be fancy, I would expect you to turn up or compensate. Sorry.

It depends how much you want a 3rd child- how would you feel if you terminated the pregnancy then never concieved again?

“It’s a personal and private decison and you do not need to tell anyone else, or listen to anyone else’s opinions.” Says @ExtraOnions

BUT…

@FruitPastel54321
has asked for other people’s opinions by saying “WWYD?”

Obviously she doesn’t have to take them on board. 🤷🏼‍♀️

And I totally agree with ExtraOnions.

I think this is the third baby you wanted.

I think this scenario is a bit different.

I do wholeheartedly believe that anyone should be able to have an abortion for whatever reason, as long as they want to.

I also fully believe that loads of people have totally “no regrets” abortions - and that is great.

I think the difference in this scenario is that the situation is ripe for regret afterwards, eg a) the OP mainly is thinking of an abortion to avoid inconveniencing other people b) the other reason is so that she can have the nice wedding she has planned. I think that years down the track one could easily look back and think you would have done differently and you regret it.

This is mainly because the OP and her fiancé do want another child. What if she couldn’t get pregnant again? What if there was a complication with the abortion that prevented future pregnancy? What if she aborted this one and got pregnant again 6 months later but that baby was profoundly disabled?

In any of those scenarios, the OP and her husband might well regret the fact that they aborted this baby and think, in hindsight, the reasons now seemed insignificant.

But if the OP is sure she wants to have a termination, then absolutely fine. I wouldn’t tell any of your friends though as you say some of them have difficulty in conceiving.

I had no idea most insurance companies won't cover pregnancy when is still a couple of months away from due date. I wouldn't recommend being pregnant and having a wedding overseas without insurance.

Maybe this is something the OP needs to investigate. It may be possible to obtain insurance with a letter from her obstetrician?

It's not the flying part that would worry me, its the (hopefully small) chance of needing medical care when I was out there. I don't believe most insurance would cover pregnancy, could you afford hospital care if something happened? Can you imagine being stuck in a foreign country with a premature baby in their NICU and the only way to get home being a hospital flight for 10s of thousands? The likelihood is low but the potential issues are massive.

What? Considering an abortion because it’ll time badly with starting a new job that you need to provide for your family?
Luckily, it’s a woman’s own choice.

Same. If I was more advanced in my pregnancy, it would be a harder choice but at 4/5 weeks I’m afraid I’d have to make the choice for our future. For me this wouldn’t be sensible timing.

Are these the sort of circumstances that legislators had in mind when they promised abortion would be “safe, legal and rare”? 🤔

I am a card-carrying supporter of a woman's right to choose, but if I thought for even one second that you'd terminated a wanted pregnancy so I didn't lose out on a holiday deposit, I'd be so disappointed in your low opinion of me.

Cancel the wedding, do it right away so people can move their holiday/make alternative plans. Some of them won't be able to change their plans so unfortunately I think that means you won't be able to reschedule, but that's life.