Our newborn is a few weeks old. Tomorrow extended family are visiting, along with MIL who has already been multiple times and held the baby on each visit. Happy for immediate/close family to hold baby. There is an aunt coming who I don’t know particularly well. She is visiting from the other end of the country and is going to want to hold the baby- I don’t want her to. I know I probably sound PFB but she is a smoker and I can’t particularly trust she wouldn’t smoke beforehand. We will see them again at Christmas which isn’t too far away. Baby has also been sneezing a few times today and I am wondering if she has a little cold.
Is it reasonable to have them over to see us but hold my baby the whole time and not pass her round? Should I tell people these are my intentions beforehand so nobody comes with expectations, or just make an excuse if they ask to hold her?
I wonder if a good alternative would be to meet them out the house or for a walk, then it’s easy to spend time together without that expectation.