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Nowhere to live over Christmas, advice needed

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Bakewellbits · 30/11/2024 21:29

I was meant to be completing on my first home this weekend, but the seller pulled out last minute, despite pressuring me for weeks to exchange - there was a legal issue outstanding that took a few weeks for solicitors to resolve, not a big deal, or my fault, but obvs needed sorting. Then at point of exchange the seller decided not to move afterall. I'm devastated.

I've given notice on my rental flat and new tenants are moving in soon. I have nowhere to go now, there are hardly any rentals around that I can afford. Airbnbs costs a bloody fortune. I need to be able to commute to work in London 3-4 days a week. I've spent 20 years saving for my deposit, I can't afford to go throwing several grand away on an Airbnb for several months while I get my shit together finding a new rental or place to buy - then I'll never be able to afford to buy. I have no family left, and no close friends any more so can't stay with anyone.

Any advice? And yes, things could be worse, I could be completely broke and homeless, so at least I'm lucky enough to have some funds.

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Startinganew32 · 30/11/2024 23:39

People seem to be falling over themselves to offer out-there solutions to the OP - be a pet sitter, live in a van, live in an abandoned castle. She can just rent a room which would be the best solution for her, surely.

Apolloneuro · 30/11/2024 23:37

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You come on here and make bitchy comments to someone going through a tough time. How odd.

Letmegohome · 30/11/2024 23:37

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Mumsnet "wit" at its finest there .
Pointless & unhelpful

AnotherEmma · 30/11/2024 23:34

Oh and please do ignore the posters telling you to "rescind" your notice; you can't do that. Your tenancy will end when it was due to end, and if you did stay, your landlord wouldn't need a court order to evict you.

From Shelter Legal:

Status of tenants after notice period expires
A valid notice to quit (NTQ) served by the tenant will end their periodic tenancy. The tenancy ends when the NTQ expires.
Former tenants who can be lawfully evicted without a court order after their notice expires
The following occupiers can be lawfully evicted without a court order if they remain in the property after the notice period they gave in a valid NTQ expires:
excluded occupiers
statutorily protected tenants
Statutorily protected tenants are:
Rent Act protected/regulated tenants
assured and assured shorthold tenants
[OP is an Assured Shorthold Tenant]
from https://england.shelter.org.uk/professional_resources/legal/renting/how_a_tenant_can_end_a_tenancy/occupiers_notice_to_end_a_periodic_tenancy_or_licence#status-of-tenants-after-notice-period-expires

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Shelter Legal England - Tenant's notice to end a periodic tenancy or licence - Shelter England

A tenant can end a periodic tenancy or licence by serving a valid notice to quit (NTQ), with rules depending on the phase of the tenancy.

https://england.shelter.org.uk/professional_resources/legal/renting/how_a_tenant_can_end_a_tenancy/occupiers_notice_to_end_a_periodic_tenancy_or_licence#status-of-tenants-after-notice-period-expires

Hedgerow2 · 30/11/2024 23:31

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What a crass comment.

ThatTealViewer · 30/11/2024 23:28

I am so sorry, OP. This sounds so hard.

This might seem a bit silly, but perhaps try posting on your local NextDoor and seeing if anyone can help? Obviously, keep an eye out for skeevy men and con artists, but I’ve found people on there to be incredibly helpful and community minded. They might have useful local suggestions.

cestlavielife · 30/11/2024 23:27

Lots of rooms to rent
https://m.spareroom.co.uk/flatshare/?search_id=1335640877&

AnotherEmma · 30/11/2024 23:25

TotallyTwisted · 30/11/2024 22:48

Yeah, nobody likes paying double but it's something you just have to suck up for a month as a first time buyer moving from a rental. I'd budget for a bit of overlap next time.

This. You absolutely must wait until you've exchanged contracts before giving notice to end your tenancy. You have to factor this into the budget.

I think PPs' suggestions of looking for house-sitting or lodger type arrangements seem the best option. If you do want to look for another rental you'd ideally need a short fixed term (eg 6 months) so you can leave after that point if you do find another house soon.

Did the seller give a reason for pulling out?

cranewife · 30/11/2024 23:22

So sorry OP.
I live in a similar area and will keep an ear out for short term houseshares or similar. Such s nightmare for you.

Northernlassie123 · 30/11/2024 23:22

Get in touch with your landlord and explain tell them you are looking for something else asap ( maybe mention health) can you at least have a bit longer ? . Call shelter and see where you would stand if you don’t/ can’t move straight away? . Good luck OP

MZ22 · 30/11/2024 23:22

I'm so sorry you are in this situation. Jamyang Buddhist centre in Vauxhall has cheap and nice rooms (around 40 per night I think) which might be an option until you get something more permanent sorted.

Noodlehen · 30/11/2024 23:19

What about trying to sign up to a house sitting site?

holdmecloseyoungtonydanza · 30/11/2024 23:17

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Your first paragraph is really ignorant and clueless, not to mention insensitive.

kiwiane · 30/11/2024 23:16

What about university accommodation? Sometimes it’s vacated and rented out during holidays. Otherwise hostels / airbnb / spare room.

timenowplease · 30/11/2024 23:14

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Bakewellbits · 30/11/2024 23:13

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Thanks that comment makes me feel loads better.

My mum died, I don't have a relationship with my dad, and I have no siblings. I have no close friends because I'm quiet and shy and have a medical condition which means I get tired easily, amongst other things, so I don't get out much anymore. I can just about manage to hold down my job thankfully.

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DahliaRose3 · 30/11/2024 23:11

Now is not the time to panic, you have options.

We’ve used Trustedhousesitters previously when we were away and needed someone to look after our pet. You may well find one without a pet. Some people have month long/extended stays, which would be really useful.

I would also look for a room/apt in the meantime. You may find a someone is subletting their room (at a reduced rate) whilst they’re away for Christmas or travelling. I would also put my things into storage until I found a more perm solution.

You won’t be homeless; you’ve got this.

Angelou79 · 30/11/2024 23:11

There are several rooms on spare room.com in coulsdon for £800 a month. That’s got to be cheaper than your current rent, storage is £200 a month. Most house shares are min 6 months then rolling basis, gives you time to find you forever home.
wishing you best of luck.

StormingNorman · 30/11/2024 23:09

A room in a house will be the cheapest rent.

Trixiefirecracker · 30/11/2024 23:07

Cat sitting/ dog sitting? Loads of people over Facebook house sitting sites wanting someone to pet sit rent free. I’ve seen some in London definitely! Also longer term ones…

SundayDread · 30/11/2024 23:06

Have you asked everyone you know? And asked them to ask everyone?
I think knowing it’s only temporary might encourage some people for the extra money.

My friend was stuck when her rental ended and she was moving across country in a month. My friend had a house that wouldn’t sell so I tried to put them together but even with my guarantee she wouldn’t go for it. She regretted it and kept asking me months later if she wanted to move in (she’d already left).

Startinganew32 · 30/11/2024 23:04

RaininSummer · 30/11/2024 22:58

Because it would save money in the long run. There are a lot of people who do this but I agree, not for the faint hearted. Just a suggestion and what I would do I think.

Not sure it would really. If OP rents a room for £700 a month for say five months until she can complete on a property, that’s £3500. If she buys a van that’s livable that’s shitloads plus she will be freezing cold and damp living there in the winter and will have issues parking seeing as she lives in London. Also she will need to dip into her deposit money to buy this van so won’t be able to buy anything until she’s sold the van.

timenowplease · 30/11/2024 23:00

Startinganew32 · 30/11/2024 22:38

Helpful. As she said she couldn’t afford the rent and mortgage.

She didn't have to afford both at the same time. If exchange of contracts had taken place OP could have decided a completion date and then handed her notice. Why would you do it before? Total madness.

BeTealUser · 30/11/2024 22:59

Agree a house sit would be ideal at this time of year - if you have a local Facebook page you could ask on there.