Fed up of feeling invisible? No one noticed my hair.

Surely people just do notice a massive change?
Commenting is more of a social convention, so I’d expect at least a few to do so.
Contrary to what @AloneLike has said, this has even happened while I’ve been middle aged - and even for non drastic changes…

So you want people to validate your beliefs that because you've bought probably forcibly removed hair from vulnerable people... they're jealous of you?! @worriert

Yes I want people to comment that others are jealous of a look they could easily achieve

This is this sarcasm?

I mean people really aren't jealous of brunette hair extensions are they?

As an older person, I do not understand this 'look at meee, me, me' neediness and/or validation required by some people, particularly from their work colleagues or internet strangers (helpful tough MNs are!).
As a PP said, most people, even OHs don't notice even major changes in appearance. Mostly, wanting someonecto notice is just wanting validation for a decision executed rather than being confident enough to own it

Also you say negative commenting, but no one has said anything

There are reasons that no one commented.

People have suggested them.

Were you hoping people would suggest that they haven't commented because they are jealous?

Going against the grain but I'm surprised no one noticed. I had my hair cut shorter and got loads of comments from friends and colleagues and we're only talking a couple of inches.

I don't tend to mention people's personal appearance. I don't think it's anyone else's place to comment on how someone else looks

People can be horrible OP. Your new hair is quite probably beautiful and people aren't commenting through sheer jealousy.

You've made a change that they see as an improvement and can't bear to compliment you because it makes them feel more sh*t about themselves.

I'm guessing if you've gone to a warm brunette from silver grey it's added warmth to your face. They won't like this. Walk round head held high with a smile on your face because you KNOW it looks nice.

what sort of answers were you expecting? Not being goady, I'm honestly interested to know, what did you want, think or hope people might say when you started the thread?

Realistically, as many people have pointed out, there are only so many reasons why people wouldn't have commented on a drastic appearance change. You haven't posted a photo, which is fair enough, but means nobody here can actually give an informed opinion of whether they think it looks good or not so I'm at a bit of a loss as to what you expect from the thread?

Would a bunch of replies just saying "Aw they're all jealous hun, bet you look stunning" actually have helped you feel better at all? If you honestly want to know whether this particular appearance change suits you you'd be better off asking someone you trust in real life. If it's a wider issue about feeling unattractive, and wanting to improve your appearance or not having much confidence and wanting to improve that, those are two very separate things and you'd be better off starting a thread specifically asking about them, possibly even in specific forums like style and beauty/mind & body if you want advice.

I thought it was now forbidden to comment on such things? Might give the impression that fat was bad or something.

If your hair is suddenly a lot longer it's either extensions or a wig.

Some people would be wary in case it's a wig & others don't like extensions so might say nothing even if they think it looks nice.

However if you are one of a group of friends & someone usually says something then it's odd that nothing has been said to you I think.

Even if it's something neutral like "that's a big change".

I don't think it means that you are invisible or ugly, but treated differently!

Which people are they? Friends, family, colleagues etc? It is strange that no one has said anything, unless you change your hair often. I used to switch between dark and blonde a lot so people didn’t really say anything.

That’s the saddest thing I’ve ever read, to think that, and it’s even sadder someone said they were to free with their compliments, based on this patently untrue and sad comment.

Lovely!!!

That's an interesting take. Maybe I'm too free with my compliments?

true.

DH never comments on anything - hair, new clothes , weight etc. I had a haircut last week and my highly critical girl friend didn’t comment on it so I know it is ok.

A sign of being attractive is not receiving compliments !!
That’s my take on it !!!
I bet it looks lovely❤️ Xxxx

I think this pretty much sums it up oP.

But I don’t think any of it suggests you are either invisible or ugly.

More likely they are self-absorbed, think you don’t “ need” compliments ( some people give off that vibe) , or thought you looked great before the change.

The OP has had 20 inch brunette hair extensions added to her previously short silver blonde hair.

Drastic is probably a reasonable assessment.

I think it is fair to say most people have noticed but aren't really sure what to say.