To be fed up with comments on DDs activity level

You know your child. She clearly likes energetic play but has plenty of time for unstructured things like bikes and trampoline. She's presumably choosing tennis, gymnastics and snowboarding? You're not pressing her to be the best or become any of these things professionally.
Maybe those who are making these comments have children that wouldn't want do do so much physical stuff. Many kids probably go out of their way not to do structured sport and prefer computer games, board games, playing with dolls, making music etc. there's no right or wrong.
As long as she's happy and you're not forcing her activities on her then it sounds like she's very energetic and healthy.

I did activities constantly as a child. I do not have ADHD (as far as I know!). I just enjoyed the activities, pursued some of them seriously, and my parents had the time and money to support them.

I think the comments are mostly coming from a place of defensiveness from people who have made different choices as parents and want to believe those choices were right.

YANBU, she sounds like a happy child who has her needs met and a lovely family to appreciate her for who she is!

When ds was young he did Beavers, Karate, swimming lessons and gymnastics. Later on judo, code club, went to various sports camps in the hols (sailing, basketball) and guitar lessons. Now a very talented guitarist and musician.

It's jealousy and not understanding an athlete's dedication

She sounds like she has a very fun & happy life OP!

And only children do need more activities with other kids I think. There's only so much fun you can have alone. My kids like to have a lot of free play time, but they spend much of that playing together. If one is out, the other one is coming to me much more regularly saying they are bored etc.

Is it a neighbour's way of complaining about the noise from the trampoline? Some people find children playing outside annoying. I personally love hearing next door's child playing with her friends but perhaps the bounce, bounce, bounce could be annoying.

You could be describing my daughter when she was young! She's still the same now and channelling energy into organised sports kept her out of trouble as a teenager. She was diagnosed with adhd at 13, which didn't come as a surprise. The issues with school were only noticed when she went into senior school because the expectations were so much higher. Ignore others who tell you she's so busy. We parent the children we have and you will know best.

It’s a lot. I don’t know how you find the time and money to keep all of this up

Some people have greater sensory needs for stimulation and feedback (trampoline, adrenaline, activity). It feeds her rather than drains her, that's what others can't understand.
I like your approach, give her avenues for competition and excellence, and avenues that are just for fun. Pps are right though, adults and kids like this can be fine at this pace for years, but if they get injured or are ill then it's a big and difficult adjustment. And burnout can be an issue. My dd is wired this way, and I noticed as a young adult she got a bit burnt out when doing first job after uni - I think it's because she doesn't really tune in to when her body needs her to slow down.

I was that child.
My children are all that child.

YANBU

She is happy, you are happy, you have the time and money… crack on and ignore the comments. IMO the best parents parent the individual child(ren) that they have.

Sounds great to me! The only thing I would suggest is perhaps once the snowboarding has stopped, replacing it with a team sport she can do seeing as everything else is competing as an individual.

I get these comments too my child does a martial art, football, tennis, drama in addition to swimming lessons and cubs and just finished a mini block of ski lessons. He knows he's free to drop any activity but doesn't want to and likes being busy and active. He also likes to read as downtime I just ignore people saying its too much its his choice and I can afford it so no one's business xx

When I was 8 (in the 60s!) a lot of time was spent out & about.

You called for friend(s) & spent the day on bikes/scooters/in each others gardens & just went home for meals!

After school you would be straight to someone's house to play for a while, go home for food & then perhaps back out again in the better weather.

I think we were relatively active but it wasn't noticeable as we all did it & it didn't involve paid for activities that involved parents.

It was the same for my kids al.so

It doesn’t let up even as they get older, ds15 plays rugby to a high level (county and country) and he trains 6 days per week, his days start at 5am and finishes around 9/10pm depending on what he’s doing.

As long as the child is willing, happy and healthy then I’d personally just ignore.

I do think, if she were a boy playing football a few times a week, then having a kick around with his brother/friend in his spare time people wouldn't comment. Because they're more solo activities and she's a girl you are getting comments.

I completely agree. Very sad.

She’s probably really fit and healthy from all the sport.

This reminds me of a thread (a while ago) about a poster’s boyfriend’s daughter, who played tennis, spoke French and did lots of other things. Some children require a lot of activity.

I love that your DD is so sporty! More power to her, in a world where men’s sports dominate and young girls/teens often don’t have the opportunities for sport. Go for it! I wonder if the comments are from a little envy? If so then bugger them and encourage her to go for GOLD!

She sounds great, you sound great, the best thing you can teach her is ‘you do you’. The things your family get up to would sound horrendous to my family. The things we get up to would sound horrendous to yours! I think you’re doing a great job helping her learn what makes her happy and following it through. Not any of anyone else’s business.

I always wonder how children get the opportunity to play ie tennis competitively at 8?! The only sport I’ve ever seen to have opportunities competitively at that age is football. My children are in swim club and they don’t even take children until 8, no competitions until 10. Yet so many parents on MN seem to have children in competitive sports. How? How does it happen? Fascinated and never had anyone to ask 😂

my children (2) do a lot but tbh even reading this I’m wondering how you do it. We both work FT and run around like mad things trying to get the children everywhere they need to be as well as practise and homework etc. I couldn’t cope with so much activity. It would be ok if I didn’t work though