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Original poster

My 12 year old son don’t want to go to the dentist

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FunNewt · 30/11/2024 09:20

So basically he needs to go to the dentist because he has ood shaped tooth and it has cracked so he needs it gone he doesn’t want the pain

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Silverstag · 30/11/2024 09:57

Does he want to get out of pain? If so his only choice is the dentist.
Children do not start off being afraid of the dentist, it's usually learnt behaviour from parents etc talking in front of them negatively. If a child goes every 6months from the age of one (which is what the NHS recommends) then they shouldn't have this fear. Too late for you now I realise. There is no choice - you need to take him.

toomuchfaff · 30/11/2024 09:49

FunNewt · 30/11/2024 09:41

I know it isn’t I have told him he still doesn’t want to go

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good point by @malmi

what's your AIBU?

malmi · 30/11/2024 09:46

What's your AIBU?

AIBU to take my son to the dentist even though he doesn't want to go? YANBU

AIBU to let my son suffer with toothache because he doesn't want to go to the dentist? YABU

VeryCheesyChips · 30/11/2024 09:43

FunNewt · 30/11/2024 09:41

I know it isn’t I have told him he still doesn’t want to go

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Luckily he’s 12 and doesn’t have much say in the matter.

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FunNewt · 30/11/2024 09:41

VeryCheesyChips · 30/11/2024 09:38

Very few people ‘want’ to go to the dentist. It isn’t a choice matter. What if he doesn’t ‘want’ to go to the school or doesn’t ‘want’ to wear shoes in public?

I know it isn’t I have told him he still doesn’t want to go

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VeryCheesyChips · 30/11/2024 09:38

Very few people ‘want’ to go to the dentist. It isn’t a choice matter. What if he doesn’t ‘want’ to go to the school or doesn’t ‘want’ to wear shoes in public?

toomuchfaff · 30/11/2024 09:36

You're the parent.

What would you be saying if he didn't want to stop eating donuts, or if he didn't want to stop flooding the bathroom, or stealing, or he didn't want to stop battering old ladies in the street.

Most dentists now are aware people have fears, and treat accordingly, most treatments involve anaesthesia so his face may end up numb but no pain. even if you get a session with dentist where they explain the procedure and go ahead. It's not the dark ages where they grab and hold them down.

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FunNewt · 30/11/2024 09:30

oh trust me he hates the dentist

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