To think DH did nothing wrong here?

@Challas he did nothing wrong and did exactly as a normal human would do.

It reminds me of my poor dad. Took a small retirement role delivering mobility equipment to the injured or elderly. He was a milk man for years and worked in care homes and just loves people.

He went to a village he had not been to before, in a marked van and asked a couple where x house was. Twenty minutes later as he was unloading things to help police turn up. Strange van in village targeting vulnerable. Whilst we saw both sides, the van was marked, he had ID and my poor dad never got over that. It broke him.

When I read the first post from someone who said the op's DH was weird for offering to stay in the car with her, I thought it was odd that they had misread the op.

When multiple posters said the same thing, I went back to reread the op in case I had got hold of the wrong end of the stick.

It seems really clear to me. OP's DH was worried about her sitting alone in a dangerous spot so he offered to park his car nearby and sit there until the recovery people turned up. He didn't offer to get into the car because that would have been creepy.

Woman was paranoid/cautious and said no but he stayed to alert drivers coming around a blind corner in order to try and prevent an accident.

He tried to be a Good Samaritan but was reported to the police.

This thread makes me sad, I would be grateful of your DP in this situation. It will
fet to the point where everyone is so insular, nobody helps anyone. I broke down on one of the most dangerous in the uk & a lovely man stopped & helped me. Made me feel so much better too. I just think it will all stop as society thinks all
men are rapists or murderers.

I still think of most people as decent.

The only thing he did wrong here was not calling the police himself while he waited, to tell them there was a bellend sat in her broken down car on a fast road after a blind bend.

This. She was a dick

If she refused his offer to stay he shouldn’t have sat around the corner with his hazards on. That’s a bit infantilising. I’d be annoyed and probably a little suspicious if a stranger asked me if I wanted some help and then, when I refused, did it anyway.

It’s unclear if that’s the crux of her complaint against him or if she complained about him simply offering help. If the latter I can see your DHs point (and I wonder what the hell the police were thinking). If the former I think he’s let his ego get in the way and is taking the wrong lesson away.

His car was presumably lit and visible as the corner is approached.

Goodness me🙄 where does it say he wanted to get in her car with her?

Yes, it's really terrifying the people who say they would stay in their cars and presumably not warn oncoming traffic. It's incredibly stupid and dangerous to everyone using the road.

If you are ever in a situation where your car is a hazard, maybe on a blind bend, on the hard shoulder, slip road, etc. then you need to get out of the car, get to a safe place and call the police. And carry a warning triangle in your boot.

Never a good deed goes unpunished. My advice is don’t get involved in future. Nowadays I just walk on by.

If you’ve got a long straight with a blind bend, it makes a big difference if there’sa car at the end of the long straight, or hidden invisible round a blind corner.

This!

There’s a really busy country road near me with a 60mph limit. People die regularly on it. A good fraction of the people who die are people who stay in broken down cars round blind corners. At least one every couple of years, on a pretty short stretch.

But if she was in an unsafe place what good would it have done having another car there? Surely that would have caused an even bigger accident?

My face, I'm genuinely gasping!

What a bellend!!! You just know she posted on mn acting like a victim and was encouraged to call the police

Your husband sounds like a lovely man, a protector. I don't blame him.

Awful woman! No good deed goes unpunished eh

No it doesn’t at all. It says to offer for him to stay in his own car, absolutely nothing about her sitting in his car.

No, but if you have ever been approached in the dark by a man when you have been alone and it was a bad situation, then every situation after that can feel creepy!

The OP says in her post that she advises him to offer to ask her to sit with him in his car. That isn’t a lack of reading comprehension, it’s what the OP actually says in the post. If that’s just what she advised him to do and he didn’t propose that then fine, but the OP doesn’t say he didn’t do that.

She was a woman on her own, and he’s a man. If he had nefarious intentions then her agreeing that he should help or not doesn’t change her risk profile one jot. He could have overpowered her whenever he chose, whatever she agreed to.

if you’re in your own and somebody offers to help, just accept ffs. people are good and altruistic on the whole, and being attacked by a stranger is vanishingly rare. Also, refusing the help doesn’t make you any more safe.

Good on your husband for doing the right thing and preventing further accidents.

So what if he offered? It's kind. It's not like he forced her! I understand men being reluctant to help out if this is what they get. Nothing he did was creepy🤷‍♀️

And it was very clear from you OP.

I think he communicated very badly what his plan was, then.

Peak lack of reading comprehension as usual. He didn’t try and get in her car, he offered to stay with her and sit in his OWN car. He also didn’t refuse to go away, he drove back around the bend and sat back so people saw him before flying round the bend and hitting the stranded woman. Maybe people who have criticised the OPs husband should actually go back and read the post again.

He didn’t do anything wrong OP but seeing the mistaken reactions on here and the woman’s today he probably shouldn’t bother helping a woman again.