To ask a question about your parents if they have passed away?

My DH mum died when he was a teenager. I never met her but I certainly met her best friend. Amazing lady who didn't have kids of her own but made sure DH and his sibling were ok. When we got married she was our guest of honour. Wonderful woman I am very lucky to know

My mother died 40 years ago and I used to visit one friend every time I revisited my home town until she died about 8 years ago. Her two other friends I exchange Christmas cards with.

Yes - but they are people I knew well. People who's kids I grew up with, not just any friends of my parents.

My dad died when he was 36 and I was a small child. He had 3 siblings who didn't keep in touch. Now I'm an adult I can't imagine just losing touch with my young nieces and nephews if my sibling were to die. Admittedly this was in the 90s and they lived abroad so it must have been much harder... but it is still weird to me.

My mum died in an accident 10 years ago and I am in regular contact with several of her friends. They are an amazing group of women that were really close and friends from their 20s so were my “other mums” when I was growing up. We were all in and out of each other’s houses, holiday together etc. As kids we had a fabulous time.

When mum died they just scooped me up and cared for me until I was able to recover from the shock and breathe. Even though they were all heartbroken too they were there for me and my family without hesitation.

They are still in regular contact now and I speak to them all regularly. I feel blessed to be surrounded by these amazing women.

My mother was 83 when she died. Most of her friends are dead. My Dad is still alive and now 95 - all his friends are dead. So that's a no.

My DM died 6 years ago age 62. I still see three of her best friends sporadically. Maybe once a year, we will meet up for lunch or go out for the day.

They are all lovely and like aunties. I'd say two of them I really like for their personalities the others I have less in common with. Only one has children and I'm closer to the mum than them.

They send birthday/Xmas gifts to me and my DD3.

I think it depends what you mean by 'keep in touch'.

Yes, I am still in touch with a few, but they are people who were like (and known as) 'Aunty and Uncle' to us.
It would be strange if friends who were friends with my parents without being close to us kept in touch though, I think.
Then there are those that I see at the odd event, who will always speak and ask how the family are, and reminisce about how they miss my parents.

There was a time when I would see people at funerals of other people.
My parents would be mid 90s now though, so there aren't many friends to keep in touch.

Sorry for you loss OP

My father died suddenly at 47, leaving my mum to raise me at 15 and my SEN brother who was 11. At dads funeral, lots of his colleagues and 'friends' mum and dad had socialised with, had come to our house for a meal, been out with etc promised all sorts. 'If mum needed anything, to let them know', 'We are here to help' etc. Never to be seen or heard from again. It sadly seems a common occurrence really.

It's not odd if you know their friends.

No. Dementia killed all my mums friendships off before she actually died, sadly. My dad died when I was a teen so no again.

In my family's case any contact just fizzled out after a while when my parents died.

I'd love to know that my friends' children would like to keep in contact with me if I outlast their parents. I've been there for their whole lives and they almost feel like my own.

My mum died in 2020 and her family haven't even bothered keeping in contact with me! More of her friends did with my dad but he's really crap at talking to people, frustratingly, so they've mostly disappeared too.

I'd find it odd if any of my dead parents' friends had wanted to keep in touch with me.
I had no idea anyone would think of it.

My mum had only a few very close friends. I am still sort of in touch with her oldest friend via FB. I know I could call her and that she'd be there for me (and me for her) if we needed. I hadn't really thought about it much until this post.
I might drop her a message.

No not at all.

Mum's best friends take me for dinner twice a year but are always available if I need them in between. I call them my Aunties and I'd never be without them

My dad died when I was 19. He didn’t have many friends (not lonely, just happy with my mum and what he had) but they didn’t keep in touch - tbf it would have been strange if they had, I was off to uni and we would have had little in common.

Most of my parents' contemporaries have also passed away, but I am in touch with the ones who are still alive, yes. We have a shared love of cats in common. We live in different countries so meeting up is not straightforward, but we communicate online and share photos, and on those rare occasions when I go back to my home country, I get in touch and try to arrange a visit. So far that's failed because they travel widely in summer and are usually somewhere in the depths of France when I'm around.

I lost my mum last year, in her 60's a very very short time after cancer diagnosis. I'm mid 30's and nursed her at home until she passed. Very traumatic all round. Her closest/best friend, who's known me all my life, through every stage of all our lives over 30 odd years and was more like an aunty to me, hasn't replied to my last two messages sent in May. Two of her church friends have kept in touch every few months, which has been nice. One I think holds off messaging me too much as she doesn't want to bother me. Very disappointed with the best friend if I'm honest and I know my mum would be too.

I still regularly have lunch with my mum's bridesmaid. The wedding was in the 1950s. It's lovely to share stories about my mum.

We lost my dad a few years ago. His best friend called into mum with a lovely photo a while after but other than that no one has kept in touch. I wouldn't have expected them to - they were his friends not ours, I never met most of them. Some of them were really lovely when he was sick and when he died though (during covid so not much people could do really). No one has behaved badly, people just drift when the link is gone.

My dad died 8 years ago but I didn't really know any of his friends so no.

My mum died last year and some of her friends have been around all of my life. None of them have kept in touch with me. I haven't with them either but I thought some might, especially those who particularly seemed to love her. I expected some might check in on me from time to time.

If one of my friends died, I'd make sure to check in with their children.

My mum is still alive, but got diagnosed with Alzheimer’s over 10 years ago when she was 50. Her friends are all alive - she was very sociable and helped lots of them out over the years. One visits her maybe once a year (she’s in a care home now) and texts me after that. So does another friend. One literally sends me a Christmas card to give her (she hasn’t been able to read for years). No one else does anything and I find it really sad they don’t ever ask me “how’s your mum? And how are you?” - especially the ones who I’d see a lot growing up, had at my wedding and round to meet my kids when I had them etc. So once she does pass, I don’t imagine anyone will stay in touch!