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All these issues with schools!

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Capercaille · 29/11/2024 15:55

I feel so sorry for schools and teachers these days. All I see on here is contant moaning and whining!

Has it always been like this?!

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Ted27 · 30/11/2024 12:12

@OhMargaret

Because as mentioned upthread SEN/D children are not a homogenous blob.
It encompasses a huge range of need.
My current foster child attends a small SEMH school, class of 8, 2 staff. It's still not right for him.
Sticking 100s of children with a huge range of need in a few schools just doesn't work.

Marylou62 · 30/11/2024 11:58

Westofeasttoday · 29/11/2024 16:51

My bestie is a teacher and has said it has gotten significantly worse recently especially since covid. She said both childrens and parents behaviour has deteriorated and verbal and physical abuse isn’t uncommon.

She says parents often back their child no matter what (even if there is cctv evidence for example) and come into the school all guns blazing while fing and blinding because they don’t think their darling child has done anything wrong. You often see posts on here about parents who feel their kid is “special” and the rules shouldn’t apply to them or don’t feel they should follow them because they don’t agree with them.

I seriously worry about what will happen to these children when they grow up and realise the world doesn’t revolve around them or struggle with real anxiety issues for example because they have no resilience and aren’t used to being told no or failure. If something goes wrong the parent swoops in and contacts the school instead of trying to support their child to work it out for themselves and develop coping strategies.

Be cause of this “entitlement” and reduction for some kids in social skills (potentially due to covid) children act out, behave badly and make it very hard to teach.

I know a head of school who spends most of his time dealing with the police, social services, mental health and parents. And by parents I mean fing and blinding, physical assault, threats to ofsted, threats to police and aggressive behaviour - this in a nice town and area.

I can only imagine what it would be like to get 30 emails from parents every day because of this and have to deal with these issues. Not to mention the increase in mental health issues and the lack of support for kids.

Overall I see a lack of taking a step back and considering impact on others and the teacher/school.

But hey that’s just how I feel…

But also this...

Marylou62 · 30/11/2024 11:57

Tittat50 · 29/11/2024 16:13

I'm torn here. I had a conversation with a friend just this week about issues we're having. Trying to understand the causes and what's going on. I have ideas about this but may be wrong.

-People listen to children now so rotten teachers can't get away with as much abuse
-Schools seem to have significantly more demands with massive influx of SEN pupils and no resources or understanding how best to deal with their needs
-It feels like expulsion isn't an option like years before - because there are no facilities left for kids with extra issues or SEN kids

  • Social media hell infiltrates classrooms and behaviour and probably now takes up time to deal with
  • Bullying carried over onto SMedia

Are there just more useless parents expecting school to do more? I'm not sure.

Having my own SEN child. My feeling is alot of issues are here. No resources and teachers with no understanding or support ( and sometimes no care) dealing with situations they just can't.

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LittleBearPad · 30/11/2024 11:56

OhMargaret · 30/11/2024 11:52

If 25% of the population is genuinely SEND there shouldn't be any problem setting special schools up for these kids. Why not group them together if it's truly one in four? At that level it makes no sense mixing these kids with the general intake. There's enough to fill one school in four so why not go down that route? Even if lower staff ratios aren't possible at the moment, at the very least it would spare the other 75% the disruption.

The range of SEND is enormous and many many SEN children really are best educated in properly funded mainstream schools. Funding is the issue for all children in education.

There is a need for more specialist provision but it’s not needed or beneficial for 1/4 of children.

noblegiraffe · 30/11/2024 11:56

My most troublesome classes during my career have often been the smallest!

But that's generally why they're the smallest classes.

noblegiraffe · 30/11/2024 11:55

Equating SEND children with disruption isn't helpful.

One of my most amazingly successful, talented, accomplished and well-behaved students came under that umbrella. Some real pain-in-the-arse kids don't.

Phineyj · 30/11/2024 11:54

But those 25% would have very different needs and academic abilities. They're not an undifferentiated lump.

We do need more variety of schools.

Sadly, we HAD more variety of schools.

Phineyj · 30/11/2024 11:53

I don't think class sizes is the magic bullet (although the class does need to actually fit the room - I've got 31 rather large teenagers in a room designed for a max of 28 smaller sized people...no-one can move...)

Evidence from meta reviews (Sutton Trust etc) on class size is weak.

My most troublesome classes during my career have often been the smallest!

Class size does help with marking and that would help with retention, so that would be helpful. Although probably schools would just insist on more marking.

OhMargaret · 30/11/2024 11:52

Tittat50 · 29/11/2024 18:24

I believe the NHS figures are inaccurate and it is much closer to the 25%. People can't access a diagnosis because they're blocked or wait lists are years long. Like most things, the NHS figures will be inaccurate.

If 25% of the population is genuinely SEND there shouldn't be any problem setting special schools up for these kids. Why not group them together if it's truly one in four? At that level it makes no sense mixing these kids with the general intake. There's enough to fill one school in four so why not go down that route? Even if lower staff ratios aren't possible at the moment, at the very least it would spare the other 75% the disruption.

Notgoodatpoetrybutgreatatlit · 30/11/2024 11:42

I've worked in secondary schools in inner London since 1991. One big change is to do with SEN.
The number of SEND students has increased a lot and the severity of their conditions has increased.
And the advice by professionals who don't work in education coupled with the so called inclusion policies at the turn of the century has created very poor provision for many SEND students.
Often parents of SEND students are told absolutely misleading nonsense about mainstream secondary schools.
The requirements on some EHCPs run contrary to commonsense and often flout the advice of mental health professionals!
When I was in my first year of teaching during an inset day I was asked what one thing would help most of my students, I wrote down class sizes of no more than 24. I still believe that today, it would cost a great deal of money aka an increase in taxes.

Phineyj · 30/11/2024 11:33

Also quiet/withdrawn/overwhelmed SEN kids probably suffer more from the unmet needs of some other SEN kids than anyone else.

They're not one homogeneous lump.

LittleBearPad · 30/11/2024 11:25

Tittat50 · 30/11/2024 11:21

Just read the post above yours. Open your eyes, it's naive and ignorant, come on. You are reading too much of the daily mail and falling for it.

There have always been feckless people. They really aren't the problem. But it stops naive people looking and realising when the feckless are blamed for all of our ills. Smoke and mirrors.

Some of the feckless people are the problem.

They aren’t all of the problem or even the largest part but some people are crap parents and their children don’t have a chance. Absolving them of responsibility doesn’t help anyone.

Tittat50 · 30/11/2024 11:21

Ytcsghisn · 30/11/2024 09:41

The issue is not with schools. It’s with feckless parents and their feral kids. People with no purpose or usefulness to society, who think they are owed everything. Popping out more menaces like themselves.

Just read the post above yours. Open your eyes, it's naive and ignorant, come on. You are reading too much of the daily mail and falling for it.

There have always been feckless people. They really aren't the problem. But it stops naive people looking and realising when the feckless are blamed for all of our ills. Smoke and mirrors.

Phineyj · 30/11/2024 11:10

@Sweetaschocolate my expat friend was horrified to hear that my AuDHD child has seen a paediatrician twice in her nearly 12 years.

The first time paid for by us (about 3 grand for the ADOS and QB check) and the second time by the NHS after a 3 year wait and he, while nice enough, just rubberstamped what the private sector had done.

GP helpful but don't know much and nowhere to refer to.

Expat friend's kids see a paediatrician once a year automatically under the social insurance there.

Tittat50 · 30/11/2024 11:09

@noblegiraffe that is the most poignant post I have read in an incredibly long time.

The power of denial is incredible, I think every one of us applies it to our lives in varying degrees. The reality of how it actually is ( schools, NHS and so on) is too unpalatable to contemplate.

noblegiraffe · 30/11/2024 11:08

when you have children with additional needs don't like to see them and pass it back to the paediatrician.

Yes, we have seen this with children with autism who suffer from extreme anxiety and suicidal thoughts and when they finally get to CAMHS they've been told 'this is a feature of their autism and not our area'.

Or, they have the extreme anxiety, get diagnosed with autism and that's seen as the end point - oh now you have an explanation for the anxiety.

LittleBearPad · 30/11/2024 11:08

crumblingschools · 30/11/2024 10:59

What happens to all these children who need support when they are no longer school age?

Many of them will likely find it difficult to find work and to varying extents will be dependent on the state.

All these issues with schools!
Phineyj · 30/11/2024 11:03

They will find the workplace difficult, won't pay much tax and if and when they have their own children, will understandably be suspicious of the education system.

crumblingschools · 30/11/2024 10:59

What happens to all these children who need support when they are no longer school age?

Sweetaschocolate · 30/11/2024 10:33

I'm a parent to sen children, my youngest has ASD/ADHD and a tic disorder.
Emotionally he is of a 4 year old but is actually 10.
As time has gone on in school he has found it harder and harder.
Last school year he was in for 2 hours a day and I stayed with him to support this.
Now he is in full time with a 1 to 1 but is rarely in the classroom.

My son needs meds for his ADHD but he can not swallow them, he still drinks from a babys bottle and he has been refused liquid medication.

We just get a leaflet on how we can manage my child, and a check in every so often (and most don't even get that).

His paediatrician has stated they would like to have a child psychologist working with them to help my child and a lot of others by actually given them the mental health and strategies to help them but cost to much.
And TAMHS have a very long waiting list and very little support (from my experience) who when you have children with additional needs don't like to see them and pass it back to the paediatrician.

The school has been amazing with my son, but they do not have enough money for the staff and resources that they need.
The government want inclusion then they have to make it actually viable to do so!
Extra funding and more outside support for school and parents so they can accsess help and support when needed.
And not to keep children in a mainstream school when it is absolutely clear that they can't!

The education system is broken and adding inclusion without the means to sustain it is setting up to fail everybody.

They stopped surestarts which where brilliant at targeting familes that needed more support before they reached school and now things get left until teachers/children/parents are at crisis.

It starts with all of us not just parents not just school but there seems to be no community support and no continuity either.

Westofeasttoday · 30/11/2024 10:25

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 29/11/2024 19:54

I was told recently schools can only exclude if they have made provisions for the child elsewhere. You cannot just exclude a child and be done with it.

Exactly right and then it moves the problem. A lot of times the schools “trade” kids as both schools want to exclude.

wonderingwhatlifemeans · 30/11/2024 10:12

There is also the problem that schools cannot afford experienced teachers unless we work on the cheap. I was made redundant in August when my school closed due to falling pupil numbers. I had already taken a pay cut to work there and ended up only being there a year. I am now looking for a permanent job and am finding it tough. Most schools will take the cheapest option they can to balance the books so my years of experience and skills in behaviour management are sitting at home unpaid instead of being in a classroom doing what I do best.

macap · 30/11/2024 09:54

Ytcsghisn · 30/11/2024 09:41

The issue is not with schools. It’s with feckless parents and their feral kids. People with no purpose or usefulness to society, who think they are owed everything. Popping out more menaces like themselves.

Very short sighted and presumptuous.

ConkersBonkerz1992 · 30/11/2024 09:51

The problem is this. There’s a HUGE amount of SEN in mainstream : we are talking extreme needs, children tearing apart classrooms etc. There is not enough money to staff and keep these kids safe (how many times will we hear quality first teaching?!) - Government targets for the other children left in classroom get more and more demanding all the while everyone’s attention is trying to manage the SEN caseload of children that don’t belong in mainstream and mainstream cannot manage/staff and fund. Teachers burn out and leave. It’s a HUGE issue. In 10 years I shudder to think what’s going to happen.

noblegiraffe · 30/11/2024 09:42

And literally straight after my post, another doing that exact same thing!

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