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Honestly AITA…

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Onegoingontwo · 29/11/2024 00:49

So, we have just been to watch a gig. Me, DH and some friends. The whole time DH is literally grabbing at my neck, shoulders, clothes… anywhere he can and I’m literally fighting to stay upright as the whole time I’m being used as a leaning post. I think DH was meant to be endearing, but after every request to stop and every desperate bid to run away he was following me and not getting the picture. So for three hours during the whole length of the gig I couldn’t enjoy myself but I didn’t let it ruin my night. Then the second to last song I went to the toilet and by the time I came out people were leaving so I lost my group. I ended up stuck, no one was moving. DH was phoning me but signal and service was bad so the conversations weren’t great. Eventually I got out and eventually I found DH and friends but by this point DH was fuming and was saying things like “I always do this” and “I’m a liar” when this is simply not true. I ended up crying because of the berating and the personal attack and our friends consoled me and not him. So now he hates me and told me he doesn’t like me and we walked back home in total and complete silence. I just don’t see what I’ve done but I’ve done something, and would be grateful if someone pointed it out.

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Codlingmoths · 29/11/2024 01:45

I don’t think you’re the asshole here. Does he always ignore how you feel?

Dimpliy · 29/11/2024 01:34

allthatfalafel · 29/11/2024 01:30

Sounds like you've all had too much to drink. And yes it is annoying having to wait ages for people.

Why blame her for his abusive behaviour?

Dimpliy · 29/11/2024 01:34

He was leaning on you and touching you after you repeatedly asked you to stop.

He then punished you by blaming you getting caught up in a crowd.

He then sulked and gave you silent treatment.

It's all completely awful behaviour. Even one of these bad but all 3 combined tell me he is horrible.

allthatfalafel · 29/11/2024 01:30

Sounds like you've all had too much to drink. And yes it is annoying having to wait ages for people.

BreadInCaptivity · 29/11/2024 01:08

If an evening out ends up in spending most of it trying to get away from your partner and crying at the end it, I'd suggest you need to ditch the partner.

GildedRage · 29/11/2024 01:03

no excuses for his touchy feely can't stand up behavior, but do you always take off to the toilet before the end so you can beat the rush?
or do you always get touched out in public and need some private alone time?

EnhancedVampireEyeballs · 29/11/2024 00:56

If you have to make a 'desperate bid to run away' from your husband , that's not a marriage I'd want to be in. Are you okay?

LetsRedecorate · 29/11/2024 00:54

theres having a good time and then there’s being disrespectful - which is what he has been to you! I’m sorry you’ve not enjoyed your night. Your friends can see he was being an arse as well. It’s nice to be lovey dovey - if that how you usually are together. But it sounds like he was totally other the too and grabby - which is not nice. I’d definitely be disgusted if my partner behaved like this.

He was in the wrong.