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DH pisses around toilet

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PissoirPissedOff · 28/11/2024 21:20

We moved into our new home and the first thing I did was to clean the bathroom, including disinfecting the toilet area which was covered in mouldy spots. Within about an hour, DH had pissed all over the rim of the toilet and the floor just under the toilet had a small puddle of piss. I have asked him not to do this, just to wipe it dry when he misses the bowl. He says this is not his job.

I'm not particularly OCD about this sort of thing, I just like a clean bathroom and would prefer to clean it just once a week rather than daily/hourly.

I AM being unreasonable = This is beyond the scope of what is expected of a normal male in his own home.

I am NOT being unreasonable = Why can't he just make that small effort (quick wipe with tissues) so that I don't have to clean the toilet every day, and to save me getting my toes wet in a puddle of his piss?

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UneFoisAuChalet · 28/11/2024 21:54

Not his job? Take the trash out OP and raise your bar. Only piss I’m cleaning is my kids’.

Furballscominghome · 28/11/2024 21:52

”If I clean it up, I’ll be using your favourite t-shirt to do so. And leaving it on your pillow afterwards” would be my response.

Dealingwithatrexrightnow · 28/11/2024 21:51

PissoirPissedOff · 28/11/2024 21:20

We moved into our new home and the first thing I did was to clean the bathroom, including disinfecting the toilet area which was covered in mouldy spots. Within about an hour, DH had pissed all over the rim of the toilet and the floor just under the toilet had a small puddle of piss. I have asked him not to do this, just to wipe it dry when he misses the bowl. He says this is not his job.

I'm not particularly OCD about this sort of thing, I just like a clean bathroom and would prefer to clean it just once a week rather than daily/hourly.

I AM being unreasonable = This is beyond the scope of what is expected of a normal male in his own home.

I am NOT being unreasonable = Why can't he just make that small effort (quick wipe with tissues) so that I don't have to clean the toilet every day, and to save me getting my toes wet in a puddle of his piss?

Have you asked him whose job it is?

Nogaxeh · 28/11/2024 21:50

If his aim is bad then he can sit down to pee if he didn't want to clean up after himself.

Topseyt123 · 28/11/2024 21:50

Does he want you to wipe his arse as well, because maybe that is not his job either!!?😠

Beamur · 28/11/2024 21:49

His piss - his job.

Merryoldgoat · 28/11/2024 21:49

My youngest son is 7. He has ASD and has literally just toilet trained this month.

Even HE can piss in the loo without hitting the rim or floor.

Pinkissmart · 28/11/2024 21:48

OP
This is NOT a blind spot- whatever that is. He TOLD YOU he doesn’t think it’s his job. He actively chooses to piss around the toilet. He thinks it is your job to clean his piss.

Allthehorsesintheworld · 28/11/2024 21:47

Does he do the same at work? At the pub?Visiting his mum?
If it’s just at home , along with his ‘ it’s not my job’ attitude I’d say it’s pure contempt for you. Sorry.
Can’t imagine staying with a man like this.

StormingNorman · 28/11/2024 21:47

PissoirPissedOff · 28/11/2024 21:37

I just don't quite understand it. In all other respects he's the most considerate person I know. This is just a complete blind spot (for him)!

Literally!

BettyBardMacDonald · 28/11/2024 21:47

Screamingabdabz · 28/11/2024 21:39

He’s a dirty bastard in the first instance - what is he, 3 and just learning to use the potty? And he is basically saying it’s your job to wipe up after his piss - so sexist, infantile and useless.

Ick central.

I would have no respect for a ‘man’ like this. He wants a mummy not a wife. Why are you with him?

This x100.

He has no respect for you, and I simply don't believe that he is otherwise considerate.

Dump him and raise your standards.

Thereislightattheendofthetunnel · 28/11/2024 21:46

He either needs his prostate checked or you need to buy a bullseye sticker and place it inside the bowl 🎯 .

Alternatively, wiping your fanny with his pillowcase sounds interesting as per another PP 🤣

Or you can refer to today’s other post about a toothbrush for more 💡 details ideas

ProvincialLady24 · 28/11/2024 21:46

Can you give a bucket in the garden?

Animals are cleaner.

StripeyDeckchair · 28/11/2024 21:46

Its not his job!!

What the fuck!

I woukd pull him up on it Every Single Time & as you've just moved in I'm guessing family & friends will be coming round to see the new house.
I would make sure I said something in front of them

"DH, I know you think it's my job but I'm never going cleaning up your piss and, yet again, the toilet and toilet floor are covered in your piss. Please go & clear it up before someone wants to use it"

Particularly good if you could question his mother about his toilet habits - was he ever toilet trained?

user12343333333334 · 28/11/2024 21:46

Merryoldgoat · 28/11/2024 21:35

No way this is true

Sadly, this does happen. And not just with pee either.
One of the reasons my ex is an ex.

Rainbow321 · 28/11/2024 21:45

Shit in his car , and tell him it's not your job to clean it .

AtomHeartMotherOfGod · 28/11/2024 21:44

Like everyone else, I was genuinely 🤯 when I read 'not his job'.

You are going to repeat that back to him ad nauseum, in a sort of 'It's beyond my control' from Dangerous Liaisons way, every time he asks for a favour, sex or anything.

Or yes, leave him. He is a prize cunt.

GreatTheCat · 28/11/2024 21:43

He said it wasn't his job. He's not forgetting, he's just not doing it because it's not his job!

Utter pig.

applestewing · 28/11/2024 21:42

I’d use his toothbrush to help clean it up

Then I’d tell him to stop or piss off out of my life let alone on the floor

what an utter grot who does he expect to clean his piss?

Topseyt123 · 28/11/2024 21:41

Not his job!!! NOT HIS JOB!! WHAT THE FUCK??

His piss, his job to clean it up! I'd be very tempted to rub his nose in the puddle of his piss if he said any such thing to me, and he might very well find himself making a very swift exit from the home and the relationship if he didn't swiftly revise his attitude!

What an arse!

LightSpeeds · 28/11/2024 21:40

username8348 · 28/11/2024 21:24

I'd drop kick the twat from the front door.

😂 brilliant comment - but yeah he's a misogynist prick. Wipe up his piss with his clothes.

UncharteredWaters · 28/11/2024 21:40

Clean it with his pillow. Then move out.

Chetto · 28/11/2024 21:40

PissoirPissedOff · 28/11/2024 21:37

I just don't quite understand it. In all other respects he's the most considerate person I know. This is just a complete blind spot (for him)!

Raise your bar OP. No man who respects you would behave like this.

Did you not ask him whose job it is? And why he thinks it’s not his job?

I mean clearly he thinks it’s your job and had said as much in an indirect way but would be interesting if he actually came out and said it.

weareallcats · 28/11/2024 21:40

He thinks it is your job to wipe up his piss. OMFG.

Screamingabdabz · 28/11/2024 21:39

He’s a dirty bastard in the first instance - what is he, 3 and just learning to use the potty? And he is basically saying it’s your job to wipe up after his piss - so sexist, infantile and useless.

Ick central.

I would have no respect for a ‘man’ like this. He wants a mummy not a wife. Why are you with him?

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