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DH pisses around toilet

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PissoirPissedOff · 28/11/2024 21:20

We moved into our new home and the first thing I did was to clean the bathroom, including disinfecting the toilet area which was covered in mouldy spots. Within about an hour, DH had pissed all over the rim of the toilet and the floor just under the toilet had a small puddle of piss. I have asked him not to do this, just to wipe it dry when he misses the bowl. He says this is not his job.

I'm not particularly OCD about this sort of thing, I just like a clean bathroom and would prefer to clean it just once a week rather than daily/hourly.

I AM being unreasonable = This is beyond the scope of what is expected of a normal male in his own home.

I am NOT being unreasonable = Why can't he just make that small effort (quick wipe with tissues) so that I don't have to clean the toilet every day, and to save me getting my toes wet in a puddle of his piss?

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Lollypop25 · 28/11/2024 21:39

PissoirPissedOff · 28/11/2024 21:37

I just don't quite understand it. In all other respects he's the most considerate person I know. This is just a complete blind spot (for him)!

Irrelevant if he's otherwise considerate when his response to you REASONABLY asking him to clean up after himself is 'its not my job'.

Relationship ender for me, sorry.

Pieceofpurplesky · 28/11/2024 21:39

What a prince amongst men. I couldn't live with someone so disrespectful

FuckILookLike · 28/11/2024 21:38

Not his job? How insulting. Are you the piss cleaner or what

Mum2jenny · 28/11/2024 21:38

Some men are just dirty beasts and cannot piss straight into a loo. And they have not been told when wee, to do this. (No pun intended 😃)

PissoirPissedOff · 28/11/2024 21:37

chailatte8 · 28/11/2024 21:34

Obviously you aren't being unreasonable .. why would it be anyone's job but his to clean up his own urine

I console myself that at least it's not plops.

Yet!!!!!!!!!!

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Moier · 28/11/2024 21:37

I've never had a partner who misses? Three teenage Grandsons don't even miss.
Didn't know it was a thing? Surely as a boy learning you are taught how to pee into a toilet bowl.. it's big enough.
Think it's just lazy aiming anywhere and if anyone did it at my house... they would be licking it clean.
It's vile and disgusting.

PissoirPissedOff · 28/11/2024 21:37

I just don't quite understand it. In all other respects he's the most considerate person I know. This is just a complete blind spot (for him)!

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Merryoldgoat · 28/11/2024 21:35

No way this is true

LadyGaGasPokerFace · 28/11/2024 21:34

Wipe your fanny and arse on his pillow case and wish him sweet dreams 👌🏽

chailatte8 · 28/11/2024 21:34

Obviously you aren't being unreasonable .. why would it be anyone's job but his to clean up his own urine

Thatnameistaken · 28/11/2024 21:34

He's vile, I'd match his vileness by cleaning it up with his toothbrush...

gamerchick · 28/11/2024 21:34

My ex does this. He still does it if he visits. It's a sign of contempt. He has no respect for you and I'm pretty sure it will be in other areas of your lives.

Unfortunately it can't be cured other than not living together.

StormingNorman · 28/11/2024 21:34

Does he think the piss fairies come in and wipe up after him?

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 28/11/2024 21:33

CagneyNYPD1 · 28/11/2024 21:31

Yep, this one.

This

LostittoBostik · 28/11/2024 21:32

Not his job?

I hope you're renting. If so: leave. Now.

CagneyNYPD1 · 28/11/2024 21:31

PigInADuvet · 28/11/2024 21:25

I know leave the bastard is thrown around a lot of mumsnet, but "He says this is not his job" would be a marriage ender for me

Yep, this one.

Chetto · 28/11/2024 21:31

He sounds awful 😣 I’m so sorry but he has zero respect for you

Thatdarncat44 · 28/11/2024 21:30

You have married a beast.

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 28/11/2024 21:30

It's not his job?!?!

What a fucking waste of space he is.

I'd be telling him in no uncertain terms that his piss is most definitely his job, and if he doesn't want to clean it up he can either piss in the toilet, not on the floor, or he can move the fuck out.

ObliviousCoalmine · 28/11/2024 21:30

If it's not his job, whose job is it to clean up his pee?! Ask him outright. I would love to know the answer he comes up with.

Pinkissmart · 28/11/2024 21:29

Why does he think it’s your job to clean his piss? Have you asked him this?
Please say you haven’t had children with this awful man

Lollypop25 · 28/11/2024 21:29

Surely you don't need to ask this. He should be ashamed.

Whose job is it exactly?

When he goes to work whose job is it?

To a friend's house? Not that I think a pissy bitch like him deserves friends.

EveryOtherNameTaken · 28/11/2024 21:29

Put his favourite t shirt on the floor near the toilet. That'd sort his aim out.

WearyAuldWumman · 28/11/2024 21:28

Namechangetheyarewatching · 28/11/2024 21:22

It's not his job!!

Fucking hell are you the house skivvy then, whose fucking job does he think it is dirty bastard.

Couldn't have put it better myself.

Mayana1 · 28/11/2024 21:28

PissoirPissedOff · 28/11/2024 21:20

We moved into our new home and the first thing I did was to clean the bathroom, including disinfecting the toilet area which was covered in mouldy spots. Within about an hour, DH had pissed all over the rim of the toilet and the floor just under the toilet had a small puddle of piss. I have asked him not to do this, just to wipe it dry when he misses the bowl. He says this is not his job.

I'm not particularly OCD about this sort of thing, I just like a clean bathroom and would prefer to clean it just once a week rather than daily/hourly.

I AM being unreasonable = This is beyond the scope of what is expected of a normal male in his own home.

I am NOT being unreasonable = Why can't he just make that small effort (quick wipe with tissues) so that I don't have to clean the toilet every day, and to save me getting my toes wet in a puddle of his piss?

My husband does this and it is making me balistic! I send him back to clean it. He normally does it after few beers, but he quite trying not to otherwise. But I will go crazy one day too!

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