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AIBU to spit on DH toothbrush

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Toothbrushbitch · 28/11/2024 19:16

I’m ill. In particular, yesterday I was really ill in a way I haven’t been in years - rigors, fever, vomiting and white spotty tonsils.

I’m also pregnant.

It was 2yo DD day off from nursery. We have no family in a 2.5 hour radius. No local friends (moved here recently for DH job).

I begged DH to stay home from work to parent but he declined (not self employed). CBeebies parented our child most of the day.

fast forward to this evening and I ask DH if he can look after DD so I can please shower as I didn’t shower at all yesterday as felt too ill. He’s not helping at all, lying on the sofa watching Facebook videos. Child crying. Im doing housework. He then says I’m “demonstrably fine”.

I have spat on his toothbrush since he thinks this virus is demonstrably fine.

AIBU

OP posts:
Cryingatthegym · 28/11/2024 20:00

Not the best move, but to be perfectly honest I don't blame you for it. What a prick (him, not you).

ByMerryKoala · 28/11/2024 19:58

You're both treating each other with contempt. It's really hard to come back from all this. Hope you feel better soon op and when you do I think it might be time to re evaluate what you are both getting from this relationship because it's definitely not support, respect or friendship.

mrstumbler · 28/11/2024 19:55

Op you're pregnant and poorly, I get your anger. But you know what men are like when they're ill, you're only Gona give yourself a harder time! Wash it off in the toilet

Nothatgingerpirate · 28/11/2024 19:55

YABU.
This is not the solution.
I cannot imagine spitting on anything of my husband's etc.
I'm sorry about your situation.

Dimpliy · 28/11/2024 19:51

Pinkissmart · 28/11/2024 19:18

This cannot be real.
If so, I hope your husband divorces you. Shame

Yep let's shame the woman for getting to their end of her tether with a lazy, abusive man.

Embarrassed Shame GIF
Startinganew32 · 28/11/2024 19:51

Pinkissmart · 28/11/2024 19:18

This cannot be real.
If so, I hope your husband divorces you. Shame

Huh? What about the bit where the sick pregnant woman wanted to have a shower and that knob lay on the sofa watching videos while his child cried? I’d say she’d be better off if he divorces her.

sometimesmovingforwards · 28/11/2024 19:48

What an incredibly sad, angry, uncaring, selfish household that sounds like.

Genuinely wishing everyone involved a better future.

(because it sounds grim as fuck at your place).

gamerchick · 28/11/2024 19:47

Making him ill will make you feel better for about 20 minutes OP. Then you'll realise how much he will do you head in because he's ill.

He sounds like a collosal prick though. Will he pitch in when the babies born?

LostittoBostik · 28/11/2024 19:46

Growuppeople · 28/11/2024 19:35

O poor you 🙄 Grow up! How do you think people on their own cope. Just leave if it’s always like that. Actually pathetic

Often better than people in relationships like this because they're not weighed down with the pain of carrying another person and never being supported in return. It's much, much easier to be single than deal with this shit.

LostittoBostik · 28/11/2024 19:43

He's an arsehole. This is not the way to deal with it. If he gets it he will only claim that he's more sick with it than you were anyway.
Leave him. You'll have more time to rest if you do

Westofeasttoday · 28/11/2024 19:43

What the fuck is wrong with you? So it’s better when you are both sick. That might be the most selfish, narcissistic, self centred post I have ever read. Ever.

Edingril · 28/11/2024 19:42

Well if he is that useless why on earth have another with him?

sprigatito · 28/11/2024 19:41

OP you're exhausted and have a fever, you're upset and not thinking straight. I would wash his toothbrush in boiling water, you'll feel rotten about it later.

Do you still want to be married to him? He sounds selfish and uncaring. Do you love him? Why?

TipsyKoala · 28/11/2024 19:39

He’s being an arsehole but that is disgusting. And you may have shot yourself in the foot because if he does get ill he’ll likely be 10x worse that you’ve been with it.

Dweetfidilove · 28/11/2024 19:37

This is the kind of bullshit that happens in awful relationships and you're bringing another child into it.

I wouldn't even spit on my enemy's toothbrush, as it's such a disgusting act.

JumpstartMondays · 28/11/2024 19:36

Does your DH know you respect him so little?

Partners are supposed to make each others lives better and enriched.

You are both doing nothing for each other.

Growuppeople · 28/11/2024 19:35

O poor you 🙄 Grow up! How do you think people on their own cope. Just leave if it’s always like that. Actually pathetic

StormingNorman · 28/11/2024 19:34

You know that if he gets ill, you’ll end up with even more on your plate?

Zooeyzebra · 28/11/2024 19:34

That is not a good way to handle the situation.

Also, it will backfire on you. He will get sick and will make sure he is demonstrably unwell and you will end up doing more work while he loafs around sick for a week

Thisisunbelievable · 28/11/2024 19:31

Pinkissmart · 28/11/2024 19:18

This cannot be real.
If so, I hope your husband divorces you. Shame

I hope she divorces him the lazy, entitled and invalidating prick.

BodyKeepingScore · 28/11/2024 19:30

Christ. What a vindictive thing to do. Sounds like a wonderful relationship

PipeworksCopper · 28/11/2024 19:28

You sound like a right pair of prats.

SabreIsMyFave · 28/11/2024 19:27

notatinydancer · 28/11/2024 19:24

Go to bed or a Premier Inn. Leave him to it.
Why on earth are you having a second child with him ???

Good question.

BlueSilverCats · 28/11/2024 19:27

Being serious now... when you reach this point, either he changes (don't see that happening) or you leave. There's no respect, friendship or understanding left there, never mind love .

BlueSilverCats · 28/11/2024 19:25

You should've just liked him. Grin