AIBU to spit on DH toothbrush

You’re disgusting.

I think this is really childish. If I did this I'd feel really guilty, regret it, tell him and go out specially to buy a new one before he next needed it.

Why can't you just have a conversation about how he's made you feel?

When will people realise that these horrible relationships that people find themselves stuck in, that are too troublesome or that they’re too cowardly (other difficulties may apply) to leave are the actual examples your kids will see and will create the building blocks for the relationships your kids will grow up to have.

Take a really good look at your child, and ask yourself - is this the kind of relationship you want for your child? Whatever side of it they might find themselves on? Your petty vengeance might make you feel good for a few minutes, but have a good long think about the lasting repercussions that you won’t experience but your little ones will.

If you're sick, why are you running around doing housework while he sits on the sofa? Go to bed!

And spitting on someone's toothbrush is absolutely vile behaviour.

He’s been a dickhead but, say he does become ill, he’ll just use it as an excuse to be even more unhelpful… Definitely haven’t done yourself any favours, OP.

I don't know what your husbands job is but mine can't take days off everytime I'm ill or he'd be sacked, spitting on his toothbrush is disgusting and if a man did this to his wife people would be saying he's abusive, being pregnant is no excuse to act like that, I've been pregnant 4 times and never once done anything like that

YANBU He is lazy and can't parent his own child that he already has. How far along are you in your pregnancy and do you really want it? He is a deadbeat father as it is with only one and shows no care for you. I'd LTB.

I think both your parents are the unreasonable ones here.Allowing two middle school children to marry and procreate is the very height of irresponsible behaviour.You and your husband should move back into your parents’ homes and allow Social Services to take over the care of the children.It’s the only sensible thing to do.For Christ’s sake you’re only 12

Thank god I wore my corset, I think my sides have split.

Harsh. All I can focus on is what an absolutely useless man she is lumbered with and how scary it actually is if someone starts to realise this when they're up shit creek ( kids and pregnant!).

I'm not even referencing the toothbrush. The issue is what the hell is this relationship. This man is no good. That's a pretty rubbish realisation if it's only just revealing itself to OP now.

Sounds like you deserve each other. You're both behaving disgustingly.

The OP is the one in an abusive relationship.

There is no way I would have spat on his toothbrush. I'd have rammed it up his arse instead. Sideways.

That's disgusting.

Also why are you doing housework?

When I'm that sick I don't clean my house. In fact I usually can't shower, I'll have a bath.

If you're as sick as you say, you hand him the toddler and bathe and go back to bed.

You don't walk around doing housework.

I'm a single parent and when I'm ill shit has to pile up. If he's not willing to help you leave it any ways.

Then you clean up, pack him up, and divorce. You don't have more kids with this man. You hate each other.

You two both sound like adorable people…

I had tonsillitis a couple of weeks ago. I couldn’t look after myself never mind anyone else. I thought I was dying. Ended up going to A&E, being admitted and treated for sepsis!

You are SO not unreasonable. He is a piece of shit.

You sound just as vile as the OP.

Oh god please don't!!! 🫣 One Christmas at my wife's family home, I found my toothbrush sitting in a perfectly clean bin. Assumed it had fallen off sink so rinsed & used it. Woke up on boxing day feeling dreadful. Fever, nauseous & delirious. When I almost collapsed trying to stand, my wife became very concerned. That worried me as she usually has the all the sympathy of a Honey Badger for anything resembling man-flu. Went into full medic mode, even trying to get me to go to A&E.

Months later, she admitted that after a silly argument she went into a first-trimester mood and rage-cleaned the toilet with my toothbrush! Later when she realised how ridiculous she was being, threw it away so I wouldn't use it. 🤢🫣

Also made sense why I remembered her being so relieved when others who had been at the party all reported the same bug!

Still hide my toothbrush whenever we argue, just in case!

I think both your parents are the unreasonable ones here.
Allowing two middle school children to marry and procreate is the very height of irresponsible behaviour.
You and your husband should move back into your parents’ homes and allow Social Services to take over the care of the children.
It’s the only sensible thing to do.
For Christ’s sake you’re only 12.

I don’t blame you.

That’s vile.

I was about to tear him a new one and say how little respect he has for you but I understand why now as you sound awful.

Disgusting behaviour. Go get your brain checked out , lovely. Something is not working inside your head.

I don't think you'd be unreasonable 🤷

You just made it worse. You know he will expect you to wait on him when he's ill and not see the double standard...

Wow, what a dream couple you two are.