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No snowboarding on school ski trip

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Gentillie · 28/11/2024 18:30

This is so frivolous I know!

My DD is Y8 she has two very close friends and they are all going on the school ski trip in January. Today one of the friends dad has complained in our group chat non stop about how they aren’t allowing his daughter to do any Snowboarding, he claims he’s offered to send her with equipment etc.
Now when it comes to it, it’s because his daughter is better at snowboarding, she’s been going on a trip with her dad every half term since she was a child and always doing private snowboarding lessons. He keeps making it clear she can ski but isn’t as advanced.
He’s now asked a slightly larger group chat of parents 7 kids worth, to join him in complaining to the school as it’s unfair she won’t get to snowboard.
One of the parents has pointed out that it will be because for lessons they will split into ability groups and even if they made a snowboard group she’d probably be too advanced as it would be a small minority who would pick it.
Others have agreed it’s very unfair and will be joining him in complaining.

AIBU to think he’s being very precious and his DD can ski with everyone else for 5 days? Is this normal in your kids school or do they let them ski or snowboard.

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SuzieNine · 28/11/2024 18:50

ParkBench5 · 28/11/2024 18:45

I don’t see why both skiing and snowboarding couldn’t take place tbh.

Presumably because they’ve only booked group leason for skiers. You can’t mix skiers and snowboarders in the same lesson.

Cowboycorgi · 28/11/2024 18:49

I don't think he's being that ridiculous. Snowboarding is pretty standard. We live near the mountains & my kids go on ski days with school pretty regularly & and snowboarding, snow showing & tubing are the norm alongside sking. Maybe that's what he's used to?.

lateatwork · 28/11/2024 18:49

Littletreefrog · 28/11/2024 18:42

He's showing off and/or his daughter wants to show off on the trip. If she is a good snowboarder and goes regularly she doesn't need to snowboard on the ski trip.

Why is it showing off? I'd be embarrassed if my reading comprehension of the initial trip letter was so poor I didn't realise that snowboarding wasn't available.

Ivyn · 28/11/2024 18:49

Screamingabdabz · 28/11/2024 18:48

What a shame for her that he’s completely lost sight of what school trips are all about. The best fun, laughs and memories will be made by all the kids titting around in the beginner and intermediate groups!

And staying up all night shrieking in the dorm 😆

Screamingabdabz · 28/11/2024 18:48

What a shame for her that he’s completely lost sight of what school trips are all about. The best fun, laughs and memories will be made by all the kids titting around in the beginner and intermediate groups!

Ivyn · 28/11/2024 18:48

Gentillie · 28/11/2024 18:46

Oh Gosh I just checked the chat and the last message from him was

“I might just pull her from the trip and take her snowboarding that week instead, if they try to fine me they can go f*ck themselves”

The entitlement!

He sounds nice.

Ivyn · 28/11/2024 18:47

ParkBench5 · 28/11/2024 18:45

I don’t see why both skiing and snowboarding couldn’t take place tbh.

Extra cost for lessons
Extra cost for equipment hire
Staff ratios

Littletreefrog · 28/11/2024 18:47

ParkBench5 · 28/11/2024 18:45

I don’t see why both skiing and snowboarding couldn’t take place tbh.

Presumably because they have only arranged ski instructors.

Gentillie · 28/11/2024 18:46

Oh Gosh I just checked the chat and the last message from him was

“I might just pull her from the trip and take her snowboarding that week instead, if they try to fine me they can go f*ck themselves”

The entitlement!

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ParkBench5 · 28/11/2024 18:45

I don’t see why both skiing and snowboarding couldn’t take place tbh.

FrenchandSaunders · 28/11/2024 18:45

Prick. Ignore

SuzieNine · 28/11/2024 18:45

School ski trips aren’t actually very interesting for kids who can already ski (or indeed snowboard) to a reasonable standard. Maybe in sixth form it’s better but in lower years it’s a waste of time.

it’s very much about group lessons followed by, if you are lucky, an hour or so of
guided skiing in the afternoon before all being shooed back to the accommodation for ‘activities’. An experienced snowboarder, even if they could accommodate her, would be bored senseless.

lateatwork · 28/11/2024 18:45

Did the school make it clear that they were only offering skiing?

My son's school calls it a ski trip- but can do ski and snowboard.

My daughter's school calls it a ski trip and only offers skiing.

I think if you kid can already ski / snowboard it's worth checking to see if the trip would be suitable.

Gentillie · 28/11/2024 18:45

Littletreefrog · 28/11/2024 18:42

He's showing off and/or his daughter wants to show off on the trip. If she is a good snowboarder and goes regularly she doesn't need to snowboard on the ski trip.

Id imagine it’s a combination, DD claims her friend always has to be the best and hates when she isn’t.

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whiteboardking · 28/11/2024 18:44

Painful. Sounds incredibly entitled. Just don't go on trip if it's not what he wants.

EmberAsh · 28/11/2024 18:44

A ski trip at school is often some children's only opportunity to try skiing and that type of trip abroad.

It's not a holiday where his precious darling can hit the slopes with her mates to sharpen her boarding skills.
He sounds ridiculous.

Gentillie · 28/11/2024 18:43

EmotionalSupportPotato · 28/11/2024 18:40

If he doesn't want his daughter to go on a ski trip he shouldn't have signed her up for a ski trip. Is snowboarding skiing? No it is not.

I fear logic like this fails him!
His ex wife has said to us that it’s because he can’t stand that their DD will probably fall into the intermediate groups for skiing.
This girl usually wins everything because her dad is a very pushy parent.

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PortiaWithNoBreaks · 28/11/2024 18:43

It sounds like only skiing is on offer so he’s going to have to make do with that.

At my DC’s school the ski trips offered either skiing or snowboarding, never a mix. The snowboarding option was always a bit more expensive.

Livinginaclock · 28/11/2024 18:43

How embarrassing for his daughter.

NewName24 · 28/11/2024 18:43

DanielaDressen · 28/11/2024 18:37

He's a twat. Don't book on a ski trip if you don't want to ski. Simple.

I feel sorry for teachers, it's a lot of work and stress organising such a trip and then they have to put up with this sort of shit.

This.

Littletreefrog · 28/11/2024 18:42

He's showing off and/or his daughter wants to show off on the trip. If she is a good snowboarder and goes regularly she doesn't need to snowboard on the ski trip.

goingdownfighting · 28/11/2024 18:42

His poor child.

DanielaDressen · 28/11/2024 18:42

EmotionalSupportPotato · 28/11/2024 18:40

If he doesn't want his daughter to go on a ski trip he shouldn't have signed her up for a ski trip. Is snowboarding skiing? No it is not.

Please put this on the group chat 😁

Ivyn · 28/11/2024 18:41

God what a knob.

It will give everyone in the staffroom a laugh though. Or a massive eye roll.

EmotionalSupportPotato · 28/11/2024 18:40

If he doesn't want his daughter to go on a ski trip he shouldn't have signed her up for a ski trip. Is snowboarding skiing? No it is not.