Long story short, asked Neighbour if they would help out with my son after school twice per week (20 mins). Said I would pay for their trouble. Wife said 'dont tell (partners name) you are paying me else he will want the money" so I havent said anything to the partner. This arrangment was happening over 3 months and all was ok. However, her partner has started asking me to do stuff for them like take stuff to the tip, collect shopping.... and I have not done so due to work (they dont work) - he thinks I am being selfish expecting them to look after my son while doing nothing to help them out in return. He has started being off hand and cutting me evils. I now dont feel happy taking my son over. All this because she won't tell him I am paying them to look after my son 2 afternoons a week for 20 mins. Shall I tell him and get her in trouble? I just dont want him treating me like this because he thinks I am expecting them to help me while not helping them.