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I can't believe people don't know that?

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Doingtheboxerbeat · 28/11/2024 12:41

Does anyone else get annoyed when people ask this? To me, It's sounds so smug and ignorant at the same time.

Now I understand Google is free and that we have answers to all things at our fingertips, but you would need to have starting point first. You can't just tap on your device Google, fill in the gaps in my knowledge or tell me all the things I don't know, about the history of everything.

We can't know everything and this is so different from those who don't want to know stuff.
Like the guy I went on a date with last year - I made a throw away comment about us being typical Gen Xers and he asked me what tf is a Gen Xer and when I tried to explain he promptly stuck his tongue in my mouth 🤭 he didn't give a shit, obviously. Like I said, that's a bit different.

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malmi · 28/11/2024 20:48

I can understand someone not knowing whether to take a passport to visit other countries within the UK. We like to emphasise how they are countries in their own right so much, it's not unreasonable to think one might need to show ID of some sort to travel between them.

EvilsElsasPetSnowman · 28/11/2024 20:19

Totally agree

You don’t know unless someone tells you or you have a reason to find out. There was a reality TV show recently where the man in a new couple didn’t know how to cook pasta. Think he was about 30. And his partner was really shitty about it. “How could you not know how to cook pasta”. Probably because he doesn’t ever make pasta Hmm

Its 99.9% of the time wankers who just RELISH the opportunity to belittle anyway and tell themselves they’re intelligent

DappledThings · 28/11/2024 20:16

ilovethericeandchcoolate · 28/11/2024 20:07

@DappledThings

My friend is not from the UK. So to those who are from the Uk it possibly is basic knowledge but not too someone from another country

But she was living in the UK at the time?

SemperIdem · 28/11/2024 20:13

OliphantJones · 28/11/2024 20:04

Maybe so. But I only have your posts here to go by and your post came across as ignorant of the reasons for educational disparities. You claimed you were open to people pointing out a knowledge gap for you.

It is a lighthearted thread, not an in depth discussion on the education system.

Feel free to start your own, more serious one.

ilovethericeandchcoolate · 28/11/2024 20:07

@DappledThings

My friend is not from the UK. So to those who are from the Uk it possibly is basic knowledge but not too someone from another country

OliphantJones · 28/11/2024 20:04

SemperIdem · 28/11/2024 19:44

You have an issue with making assumptions, it seems. So perhaps you should work on that.

Maybe so. But I only have your posts here to go by and your post came across as ignorant of the reasons for educational disparities. You claimed you were open to people pointing out a knowledge gap for you.

MichaelAndEagle · 28/11/2024 20:00

malmi · 28/11/2024 19:41

Jersey is along the same sarky vein

They're actually called the Channel Islands

Very good 😆

DappledThings · 28/11/2024 19:57

My friend took her passport to drive over the Severn bridge to wales as she thought she needed it and she's a bloody vet! She is so damn smart yet didn't know she didn't need a passport
But that really is very basic knowledge. Not knowing that Wales is part of the UK and therefore you don't need your passport is really not reasonable.

Same as a few years ago when one of my friends had just returned from the Isle of Wight and another friend asked her "what side of the road do they drive on over there?"

Mama2many73 · 28/11/2024 19:54

mdinbc · 28/11/2024 19:15

I'm not a snob, but sometimes I am shocked at some peoples lack of knowledge. I wouldn't laughingly point it out though.

One younger girl I worked with arrived late because there was a traffic jam and 'they were all driving so slow?' They all turned off at the cemetery road. I had to explain to her what a procession was, and that she couldn't pass the slow cars out of respect, and also that they wouldn't stop at normal stop signs. She just hadn't experienced it before, so didn't know.

This is the same young woman who has a handbag with the Playboy logo all over it. I wonder if she knows what it signifies, or just thing they are cute bunnies? I haven't, and won't ask.

I'm Canadian, and have had the difference between Great Britain and the United Kingdom explained to me a few times, but I'm not sure I've got it right.

When I taught rec/y1 we had a girl (5yrs) come to the school party wearing a very sparkly playboy bunny top.
Our HT who wasn't particularly known for standing up to parents, insisted that mum brought her a change of clothing. Mum was angry and when he explained what it represented, she said ' yeah, I know that! So what!!'

Wonderi · 28/11/2024 19:52

OliphantJones · 28/11/2024 19:27

You have a knowledge gap (as do a lot of people on this thread) around the concept of educational inequalities/disparities, the contributing factors to that and the lasting impact it has, so maybe start learning about that.

Edited

Exactly this!

Some people will be smug or rude about someone not knowing something but then lack the comprehension to grasp why someone might not know these things.

It’s ironic that someone can look down their nose at someone for not knowing something, yet they’re going exactly the same thing.

ilovethericeandchcoolate · 28/11/2024 19:50

I don't get the smugness of it when people say that either.

My friend took her passport to drive over the Severn bridge to wales as she thought she needed it and she's a bloody vet! She is so damn smart yet didn't know she didn't need a passport

Nobody can know everything

Wonderi · 28/11/2024 19:48

This is one of my most hated sayings!

There will be multiple things that that person knows that they don’t and so I never understand the smugness of it.

We all know different things and we don’t all have the same education experience.

godmum56 · 28/11/2024 19:46

mdinbc · 28/11/2024 19:15

I'm not a snob, but sometimes I am shocked at some peoples lack of knowledge. I wouldn't laughingly point it out though.

One younger girl I worked with arrived late because there was a traffic jam and 'they were all driving so slow?' They all turned off at the cemetery road. I had to explain to her what a procession was, and that she couldn't pass the slow cars out of respect, and also that they wouldn't stop at normal stop signs. She just hadn't experienced it before, so didn't know.

This is the same young woman who has a handbag with the Playboy logo all over it. I wonder if she knows what it signifies, or just thing they are cute bunnies? I haven't, and won't ask.

I'm Canadian, and have had the difference between Great Britain and the United Kingdom explained to me a few times, but I'm not sure I've got it right.

Was the funeral in Canada? Here in the Uk, funerals have to obey the same traffic rules as everyone else.

SemperIdem · 28/11/2024 19:44

OliphantJones · 28/11/2024 19:27

You have a knowledge gap (as do a lot of people on this thread) around the concept of educational inequalities/disparities, the contributing factors to that and the lasting impact it has, so maybe start learning about that.

Edited

You have an issue with making assumptions, it seems. So perhaps you should work on that.

godmum56 · 28/11/2024 19:43

unsync · 28/11/2024 15:55

I hate to tell you this, but fish don't have fingers either. Grin

many many years ago I was at a chinese takeaway with a mate of mine. They asked "Are the lobster balls balls of lobster or is it a delicacy?" Among the gang at the time it became a running joke.

DappledThings · 28/11/2024 19:42

also that they wouldn't stop at normal stop signs.
Was that in Canada or here? Hearses follow all the usual rules of the road including all signs and traffic lights here.

malmi · 28/11/2024 19:41

Jersey is along the same sarky vein

They're actually called the Channel Islands

MiscellaneousSupportHuman · 28/11/2024 19:35

NewName24 · 28/11/2024 16:35

Like other posters, I think it depends on what it is.
I like @DrZaraCarmichael 's suggestion about there being some things you'd have to work hard to not know, and those people who wear ignorance as a badge of honour being a very different scenario from facts about things that don't particularly interest us, or that are from another era or another culture.

There's also something about the tone of the astonishment of finding out someone doesn't know something that seems pretty obvious to you.

I think that's the difference between not knowing that the top bit of men's football in the UK is the Premier League (no-one who ever watches the news, sees a newspaper etc can miss that) - current and ubiquitous! I wouldn't voice the thought, but I really would struggle to believe someone who said that.

OTOH, if someone didn't know that before 1992 it was called Division 1, then I'd just assume they were too young to remember the change because even though older people and footie fans would just know, it's no longer ubiquitous

FlamingoYellow · 28/11/2024 19:35

If I'm honest, there have been times over the last few years when I have got a tiny bit muddled over who the current prime minister is. The knowledge is there somewhere, there have just been quite a few prime ministers recently and I have at times had to stop and have a little think before I commit to a name 😳.

ThatIsNotMyNameSoWhyAreYouCallingMeThat · 28/11/2024 19:35

IAm16StoneHalloween2024 · 28/11/2024 18:55

Why should people know that Scotland has a different education system to England and Wales? If they don’t live in Scotland or nearby, don’t have friends or relatives there, don’t travel there for holidays or work, why should they? If they want their children to go to school there they’ll do the research. Otherwise, no point. It’s like researching the system in Belgium despite having no interest in moving there.

Wales has a different system too.

ThatIsNotMyNameSoWhyAreYouCallingMeThat · 28/11/2024 19:33

KenAdams · 28/11/2024 18:50

A lot of people (me included) hadn't heard about Aberfan until The Crown covered it, just not old enough to remember it being on the news maybe?

I'm on a Disneyland Paris group and every single week there's a post from someone asking if they can just use £ when they're there. How has someone grown to adulthood and not know about currencies? This is after they've booked their flight or whatever to France.

And UK plugs. And astonishment that there aren’t “nuggets and chips type kids meals” at expensive restaurants.

unsync · 28/11/2024 19:30

Berlinlover · 28/11/2024 16:48

I was going on holiday to Krakow and mentioned to a colleague I would be visiting Auschwitz during the trip, she responded with “What’s that”? This is a woman in her 40s. I was polite but astonished.

I find that really shocking. My parents were children during WWII and my mother was in occupied Paris. Some of the things that she let slip were horrifying. There's no excuse for not knowing these kinds of things, lest we repeat them.

OliphantJones · 28/11/2024 19:27

SemperIdem · 28/11/2024 19:03

There are some very basic things that do shock me when people don’t know it. When the world wars ended, who our prime minister currently is never mind who has been PM historically.

I have very broad general knowledge but enjoy learning pretty much anything new, so always open to someone introducing a knowledge gap to me!

You have a knowledge gap (as do a lot of people on this thread) around the concept of educational inequalities/disparities, the contributing factors to that and the lasting impact it has, so maybe start learning about that.

ThisThreadCouldOutMe · 28/11/2024 19:23

NewName24 · 28/11/2024 18:40

Not really.
Why would people know that if it doesn't affect them ?
I only know because I have read it on various MN threads.
Not everyone is on MN.

Yes exactly. I know that now because I learnt it on here. Prior to that I'd never really thought about it, because I had no need to.

FatArse123 · 28/11/2024 19:16

I suppose we all have spheres of interest...I can recognise several different individual mountains from the viewpoint of a plane, but until about 10 years ago, I believed that Robin Hood was an actual person. I care about hiking and skiing passionately, history less so.

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