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I can't believe people don't know that?

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Doingtheboxerbeat · 28/11/2024 12:41

Does anyone else get annoyed when people ask this? To me, It's sounds so smug and ignorant at the same time.

Now I understand Google is free and that we have answers to all things at our fingertips, but you would need to have starting point first. You can't just tap on your device Google, fill in the gaps in my knowledge or tell me all the things I don't know, about the history of everything.

We can't know everything and this is so different from those who don't want to know stuff.
Like the guy I went on a date with last year - I made a throw away comment about us being typical Gen Xers and he asked me what tf is a Gen Xer and when I tried to explain he promptly stuck his tongue in my mouth 🤭 he didn't give a shit, obviously. Like I said, that's a bit different.

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Pumpkincozynights · 29/11/2024 21:44

I find it incredible that people don’t know other countries have their own alphabet. That say David is pronounced differently in French than it is in English.
I once spoke to someone who thought that the staff in the job centre made and passed laws. After explaining that they don’t have that power, he replied with ‘Well if they don’t, who makes the laws?’ He had no idea that a thing called parliament existed and those elected to parliament had the power to do this. He was utterly mind blown.

JudgeJ · 29/11/2024 21:38

mdinbc · 28/11/2024 19:15

I'm not a snob, but sometimes I am shocked at some peoples lack of knowledge. I wouldn't laughingly point it out though.

One younger girl I worked with arrived late because there was a traffic jam and 'they were all driving so slow?' They all turned off at the cemetery road. I had to explain to her what a procession was, and that she couldn't pass the slow cars out of respect, and also that they wouldn't stop at normal stop signs. She just hadn't experienced it before, so didn't know.

This is the same young woman who has a handbag with the Playboy logo all over it. I wonder if she knows what it signifies, or just thing they are cute bunnies? I haven't, and won't ask.

I'm Canadian, and have had the difference between Great Britain and the United Kingdom explained to me a few times, but I'm not sure I've got it right.

GB does not include Northern Ireland, the UK does, that's why our official name is The United Kingdom of Great Britain and Northern Ireland. The British Isles is simply geographical rather than political.

JudgeJ · 29/11/2024 21:34

IAm16StoneHalloween2024 · 28/11/2024 18:57

But I have used different currencies in places. I’ve used sterling (cash) in India.

US dollars are also very widely accepted round the world.
I hate the thought of so many people learning their History from tripe like The Crown although I do remember vividly getting an excellent grade in 'O' level History because I had read a series of racy books set during the French Revolution. my teacher was so impressed that I had obviously read around the subject! Thank you Denis Wheatley.

ApriCat · 29/11/2024 21:34

Dogsbreath7 · 29/11/2024 20:22

Thank you. I have genuinely learnt something. We are so use to seeing images in books with all the planets in a neat row, you forget they are all circling the sun at different rates.

Oh good, I feared that might be a bit of nerdiness too far!

JudgeJ · 29/11/2024 21:28

OriginalUsername2 · 28/11/2024 17:46

And buffalo’s don’t have wings!

And a prairie oyster has more to do with buffalos than with the sea!
What about a Bombay duck?

Bernardo1 · 29/11/2024 21:26

ByHardyRubyEagle · 28/11/2024 13:09

I don’t say this to people, but doesn’t mean I don’t think it. No I don’t think I’m superior, I’m of very average intelligence, but sometimes it’s basic, basic stuff that you wonder how someone has gone their whole lives not knowing.

Im talking about things like prunes being dried plums, raisins being dried grapes, that crab sticks are not made from real crab, that fajita is pronounced faa-hee-tah, not vag-it-taa, and many more! Some non-food related things too! Like how to pronounce pot pourri, that Sherlock Holmes was not a real flesh and blood man. Can anyone think of any more?

Anyway I have my duh moments too. Just as a disclaimer.

O.M.G. crab sticks aren't made of crab?
Probably why increasingly described as sea food sticks, to stave off Trading Standards.

Sherlock Holmes, I think I can understand. You have a museum, and tourist walks.
Then you have incoming 47th Potus, who talks of Hannibal Lecter as a real person!!
Like to be around, when he learns Georgia is a real country not just a U.S. state.

JudgeJ · 29/11/2024 21:22

TeapotCollection · 28/11/2024 13:17

I agree. We’ve all got different knowledge about different things

I don’t get involved in conversations about films at work any more because I got sick of people saying “Whaaaaaat? What do you mean you’ve never heard of <insert name>? You haaaaaaave! You must haaaaaave!” No I bloody haven’t and I’m not having you try to make me feel as if I’m thick!

I'd never heard of Freddie Mercury until he died although I could remember hearing Bohemian Rhapsody somewhere, it was just a song in the background though.
There is an awful amount of inverted snobbery, you're allowed to sneer at my lack of knowledge or interest in modern culture, but God forbid I should criticise your lack of knowledge of, say, ballet, Shakespeare etc..

BoogalooBoo · 29/11/2024 21:15

I was reading this thread yesterday and chuckling along but now... I've just been 'ah ma gad you didn't know that'-ed by my DH! We were trying to decide what film to watch and I've never seen the Imitation Game - Benedict Cumberbatch is so bloody annoying.

Anyway, DH said Keira Knightlys in it, and I said oh, as his love interest? DH then did the youdidntknowthat about Alan Turing (the codebreaker) being gay, that he's a gay icon and that he was pardoned and it was a huge deal etc.

Am currently running a bath and having a glass of wine while he watches it 😂

ObieJoyful · 29/11/2024 20:34

ByHardyRubyEagle · 28/11/2024 13:09

I don’t say this to people, but doesn’t mean I don’t think it. No I don’t think I’m superior, I’m of very average intelligence, but sometimes it’s basic, basic stuff that you wonder how someone has gone their whole lives not knowing.

Im talking about things like prunes being dried plums, raisins being dried grapes, that crab sticks are not made from real crab, that fajita is pronounced faa-hee-tah, not vag-it-taa, and many more! Some non-food related things too! Like how to pronounce pot pourri, that Sherlock Holmes was not a real flesh and blood man. Can anyone think of any more?

Anyway I have my duh moments too. Just as a disclaimer.

They might know things you don’t. It isn’t necessary to know the things you’ve mentioned.

stargazerlil · 29/11/2024 20:29

It’s just something a cerebral narcissist would say, they always have to let you know how thick you are. It’s how they take source.
I just can’t believe you don’t all know that. 😀

Dogsbreath7 · 29/11/2024 20:22

ApriCat · 28/11/2024 15:30

Grr, I want a Lego Milky Way now (but not at that price).

If anyone says 'You don't even know the nearest planet to earth?' you could always tell them it depends on the date and you don't have time to calculate it right now (it does, it could be Mercury, Venus or Mars, depending on where they are in their orbits).

Thank you. I have genuinely learnt something. We are so use to seeing images in books with all the planets in a neat row, you forget they are all circling the sun at different rates.

Kjpt140v · 29/11/2024 20:18

You know things I don't know, and I know things you don't know. Be careful when you look down on people, you have farther to fall.

Georgyporky · 29/11/2024 18:50

MaddestGranny · 29/11/2024 18:08

I often wish there was a "like" button on here.

I wish there was the opposite !
I'd like to see a button that effectively says youaretotallywrongandtalkingoutofyourarseyoustupidperson.

IAm16StoneHalloween2024 · 29/11/2024 18:28

MaddestGranny · 29/11/2024 18:08

I often wish there was a "like" button on here.

There is. Are you on the app or the desktop site?

MaddestGranny · 29/11/2024 18:08

I often wish there was a "like" button on here.

MarkingBad · 29/11/2024 17:01

CanadianJohn · 29/11/2024 16:38

"I hate to tell you this, but fish don't have fingers"

Fish don't have fingers?? Next you are going to tell me that chickens don't have balls.

Chickens with no balls would be a Capon

CanadianJohn · 29/11/2024 16:38

"I hate to tell you this, but fish don't have fingers"

Fish don't have fingers?? Next you are going to tell me that chickens don't have balls.

ComtesseDeSpair · 29/11/2024 15:51

Persianpaws · 29/11/2024 15:12

I have to admit I’m guilty of saying “How can you not know this?!” In genuine astonishment to my 41 year old best friend. Sometimes I can’t get my head round things she says she doesn’t know or hasn’t heard of. Some examples:

After watching the film threads she didn’t know what nuclear weapons and radiation poisoning were. She also claimed she had never heard of the Cold War. When I was gobsmacked she called up her 39 year old sister to see if she’d heard of it - her sister said she hadn’t either.

She knew absolutely nothing about WW2, not just the reasons it started but she also hadn’t heard of pearl harbour, the atomic bombs being dropped, the D - day landings or that children were evacuated. She had heard of Anne Frank and said “she was someone who wrote a book in the war” and had heard of Winston Churchill but had no idea he was prime minister or his role in the war.

She also had no idea that humans were relatively modern and that we had evolved from ancestors of a different species and had never heard the word Neanderthal. She thought dinosaurs were around at the same time as humans and dragons were a type of dinosaur and is clueless about basically any kind of natural history or basic knowledge of astronomy.

Foods she’d never heard of include: paella, star fruit, guacamole, clams, guinea fowl, foie gras and sea bass.. the list is endless. She is a very picky eater who can only cook basic meals and will only eat out at a fast food place or have a basic pub meal but I still expected her to at least know what things are and recognise them. On her last holiday she argued that she’d been served the wrong thing when her cod came without being battered and deep fried, she kept saying she hadn’t ordered the weird looking fish and it wasn’t cod 😂.

Other basic things she claimed she’d never been taught or learned are that insects have 6 legs, wine is made from grapes, what halal meat is, that the sun is a star, the difference between oceans and seas and she thought the North Pole was made up and just a fictional place Father Christmas was from.

I feel like we have at least one conversation every time we meet up with her looking at me blankly and not knowing what I’m talking about, last week she had never heard of asbestos. I don’t know how she gets through life but she said if something doesn’t interest her then she just forgets it or doesn’t listen, she will never google anything because she hasn’t got the patience to look it up, she usually phones me and asks me to give a very brief explanation. On our last phone call she wanted to know the difference between a best before date and a sell by date and if the bread 2 days past the best before date was safe to eat.

Apart from her shocking lack of basic knowledge she is intelligent and has no issues understanding what she’s told, she’s fantastic at maths but with other topics she just says if it doesn’t directly affect her then she’s not interested. Can anyone seriously blame me for finding it frustrating and asking how she didn’t know any of my examples?!

Was she homeschooled? WW2, dinosaurs, evolution were all on the national KS2 curriculum whilst she was going through school, so it’s pretty inconceivable that she doesn’t know anything about them. I’d suspect some sort of traumatic brain injury tbh: there are loads of things in your post that she will have come across just in the course of being alive without having to take an active interest or read or go to a museum, and nobody who isn’t impaired just “forgets” them.

DrZaraCarmichael · 29/11/2024 15:41

she said if something doesn’t interest her then she just forgets it or doesn’t listen, she will never google anything because she hasn’t got the patience to look it up

There are so many people like this. They just lack the curious gene, nothing to do with their intelligence or education. Not interested in learning or finding out new things. SIL and her husband are like this, they don't read, don't go anywhere, don't do anything, have zero interest in what is happening in the world, would no sooner visit a museum than fly to the moon. I am constantly looking stuff up online if I hear something being talked about and I'm not sure what they're on about, I go to museums, listen to podcasts, just take an interest!

OriginalUsername2 · 29/11/2024 15:34

OliphantJones · 28/11/2024 19:27

You have a knowledge gap (as do a lot of people on this thread) around the concept of educational inequalities/disparities, the contributing factors to that and the lasting impact it has, so maybe start learning about that.

Edited

This is the one I wish everyone would get their head around tbh.

“How can you not know that?!” is a really stupid question, ironically.

InWithThePlums · 29/11/2024 15:33

Persianpaws · 29/11/2024 15:12

I have to admit I’m guilty of saying “How can you not know this?!” In genuine astonishment to my 41 year old best friend. Sometimes I can’t get my head round things she says she doesn’t know or hasn’t heard of. Some examples:

After watching the film threads she didn’t know what nuclear weapons and radiation poisoning were. She also claimed she had never heard of the Cold War. When I was gobsmacked she called up her 39 year old sister to see if she’d heard of it - her sister said she hadn’t either.

She knew absolutely nothing about WW2, not just the reasons it started but she also hadn’t heard of pearl harbour, the atomic bombs being dropped, the D - day landings or that children were evacuated. She had heard of Anne Frank and said “she was someone who wrote a book in the war” and had heard of Winston Churchill but had no idea he was prime minister or his role in the war.

She also had no idea that humans were relatively modern and that we had evolved from ancestors of a different species and had never heard the word Neanderthal. She thought dinosaurs were around at the same time as humans and dragons were a type of dinosaur and is clueless about basically any kind of natural history or basic knowledge of astronomy.

Foods she’d never heard of include: paella, star fruit, guacamole, clams, guinea fowl, foie gras and sea bass.. the list is endless. She is a very picky eater who can only cook basic meals and will only eat out at a fast food place or have a basic pub meal but I still expected her to at least know what things are and recognise them. On her last holiday she argued that she’d been served the wrong thing when her cod came without being battered and deep fried, she kept saying she hadn’t ordered the weird looking fish and it wasn’t cod 😂.

Other basic things she claimed she’d never been taught or learned are that insects have 6 legs, wine is made from grapes, what halal meat is, that the sun is a star, the difference between oceans and seas and she thought the North Pole was made up and just a fictional place Father Christmas was from.

I feel like we have at least one conversation every time we meet up with her looking at me blankly and not knowing what I’m talking about, last week she had never heard of asbestos. I don’t know how she gets through life but she said if something doesn’t interest her then she just forgets it or doesn’t listen, she will never google anything because she hasn’t got the patience to look it up, she usually phones me and asks me to give a very brief explanation. On our last phone call she wanted to know the difference between a best before date and a sell by date and if the bread 2 days past the best before date was safe to eat.

Apart from her shocking lack of basic knowledge she is intelligent and has no issues understanding what she’s told, she’s fantastic at maths but with other topics she just says if it doesn’t directly affect her then she’s not interested. Can anyone seriously blame me for finding it frustrating and asking how she didn’t know any of my examples?!

Sounds like the average quiz show contestant!

InWithThePlums · 29/11/2024 15:31

I’m a bit shocked about the crab sticks.

Persianpaws · 29/11/2024 15:12

I have to admit I’m guilty of saying “How can you not know this?!” In genuine astonishment to my 41 year old best friend. Sometimes I can’t get my head round things she says she doesn’t know or hasn’t heard of. Some examples:

After watching the film threads she didn’t know what nuclear weapons and radiation poisoning were. She also claimed she had never heard of the Cold War. When I was gobsmacked she called up her 39 year old sister to see if she’d heard of it - her sister said she hadn’t either.

She knew absolutely nothing about WW2, not just the reasons it started but she also hadn’t heard of pearl harbour, the atomic bombs being dropped, the D - day landings or that children were evacuated. She had heard of Anne Frank and said “she was someone who wrote a book in the war” and had heard of Winston Churchill but had no idea he was prime minister or his role in the war.

She also had no idea that humans were relatively modern and that we had evolved from ancestors of a different species and had never heard the word Neanderthal. She thought dinosaurs were around at the same time as humans and dragons were a type of dinosaur and is clueless about basically any kind of natural history or basic knowledge of astronomy.

Foods she’d never heard of include: paella, star fruit, guacamole, clams, guinea fowl, foie gras and sea bass.. the list is endless. She is a very picky eater who can only cook basic meals and will only eat out at a fast food place or have a basic pub meal but I still expected her to at least know what things are and recognise them. On her last holiday she argued that she’d been served the wrong thing when her cod came without being battered and deep fried, she kept saying she hadn’t ordered the weird looking fish and it wasn’t cod 😂.

Other basic things she claimed she’d never been taught or learned are that insects have 6 legs, wine is made from grapes, what halal meat is, that the sun is a star, the difference between oceans and seas and she thought the North Pole was made up and just a fictional place Father Christmas was from.

I feel like we have at least one conversation every time we meet up with her looking at me blankly and not knowing what I’m talking about, last week she had never heard of asbestos. I don’t know how she gets through life but she said if something doesn’t interest her then she just forgets it or doesn’t listen, she will never google anything because she hasn’t got the patience to look it up, she usually phones me and asks me to give a very brief explanation. On our last phone call she wanted to know the difference between a best before date and a sell by date and if the bread 2 days past the best before date was safe to eat.

Apart from her shocking lack of basic knowledge she is intelligent and has no issues understanding what she’s told, she’s fantastic at maths but with other topics she just says if it doesn’t directly affect her then she’s not interested. Can anyone seriously blame me for finding it frustrating and asking how she didn’t know any of my examples?!

Thepeopleversuswork · 29/11/2024 13:36

I do think there's different levels of this.

Someone (as described upthread) saying "I can't believe you didn't know x" about who composed a film soundtrack is just showing off and being a bit of a wanker. They privately know full well that most people won't have heard of it: they want to put others down.

I do think, though, that if your basic general knowledge is really poor you should keep your mouth shut in discussions which are over your head and go home and quietly educate yourself rather than blurting something out which makes you look ridiculous. If you haven't been taught it, educate yourself.

Case in point: someone I work with (who is a British citizen, a native speaker and university educated) said on a work call the other week that she didn't realise Belfast was a UK city and not in the Republic of Ireland. That's something anyone British with a basic primary school education should know and I would be ashamed to let it be known in public that I didn't know that.

ComtesseDeSpair · 29/11/2024 13:08

It's the people who book hire cars and then are totally shocked when other posters make comments about driving on the "wrong" side, and they had no clue that we drive on the left.

I don’t think this is that weird tbh. The U.K. is in a minority of countries which drive on the left, and in a tinier minority of countries within Europe. You could travel quite widely without ever going to a country which doesn’t drive on the right, and have no reason to think anywhere did otherwise.

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