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To not want DD having music lesson with lodger at teacher's house

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Tinkletinkletree · 27/11/2024 20:36

Really not sure if I'm being overly sensitive here. My DD (8) has a music lesson each week and the teacher comes to our house. With the colder weather she's decided to teach from her home. I'm a bit put out by having to travel as my other children have clubs etc and we deliberately choose a teacher who came to us for convenience but willing to give it a try as it is temporary.
I've since found out she has a lodger who will be present when DD is there. The teacher can't understand why I'm uncomfortable with the arrangement which makes me wonder if I'm being unreasonable.

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Tinkletinkletree · 27/11/2024 20:49

I'd have to drop off as I have to drop off to other clubs. Usually DH would be working from home during the lesson.

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Createausername1970 · 27/11/2024 20:43

I understand you want to keep your child safe, but I do think this is a bit over thinking things as far as the lodger is concerned.

But your other reason - you have to go there now, when you specifically found someone who would come to you - is perfectly valid reason to find another teacher.

HeadacheEarthquake · 27/11/2024 20:42

I used to be a private music teacher full time and still have a small studio

How does the weather affect her not being able to travel to you...

The ones I visit I still visit in the snow - the ones that come to me still come to me in the snow

Unless it is dangerous, then lesson may be postponed. The location shouldn't change. That is truly odd.

GettingThemFromHereToThere · 27/11/2024 20:41

When I was young and had lessons, my mum would always be there. Are you dropping and going? Won't that be annoying if they only have 30-60mins?

I'm not sure about the lodger situation. As others said, surely your daughter will be with the teacher the whole time? Have you checked out your teachers DBS?

batsandeggs · 27/11/2024 20:41

I’m not sure the difference between it being a lodger and just a family member or whatever. Point being, surely they won’t be around for the lesson and presumably no one will really know any different.

You’re within your rights to be frustrated that the location of the lessons has changed because you purposely chose someone who could travel to you, and to me that would be a reasonable justification for seeking out another teacher. The lodger seems like a non issue though - what’s the problem?

T4phage · 27/11/2024 20:40

Why would a lodger represent a threat? Why would the teacher leave your dd alone with a lodger?

Icanttakethisanymore · 27/11/2024 20:38

Where will you be? The lodger will be in their room presumably? Not sat in the same room?

Circumferences · 27/11/2024 20:38

Presumably they aren't listening in or hanging around watching I don't see what difference it makes

Lifeglowup · 27/11/2024 20:37

Surely the teacher will be supervising her at all times?

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